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at what point... Bryan Ray's Mommy + 1 ♥ Due June 26 (girl); TTC since Nov 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Bryan, TX, United States 4107 posts
11th Jan '13

do you just give up?? I know it's a crazy question and that there are plenty of women on here who have been trying for longer then me, I just really can't stand the pain. AF showed today so I'm onto month 15 of trying. I never could've imagined it would take us this long. Well, I just needed to sort of vent and have my pitty party. TIA

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15031 posts
status 11th Jan '13

When the pain of TTC unsuccessfully becomes greater than the pain of not having another child.

Artie Russell Due September 15; Evans Mills, New York 170 posts
11th Jan '13

Yes I know exactly what you mean I was very discouraged last month when my husband sister was pregnant and she wasn't even trying and I had been trying and I was not pregnant I just hit down emotionally but I'm not quitting ever

brodyzmom Due December 18 (girl); 1 child; 3 angel babies; Huntsville, Alabama 2792 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" When the pain of TTC unsuccessfully becomes greater than the pain of not having another child."


this :(

Addy'sMama♡ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Houston, Texas 614 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" When the pain of TTC unsuccessfully becomes greater than the pain of not having another child."</blockquote>



This too :,(

~Manda Panda +3 1/2~ 16 kids; Arkansas 39074 posts
11th Jan '13

Well last time after 17 months. I had given up. Threw everything out, hidden it whatever. Stopped doing everything. I was emotionally broken. DH and I both had been sick that month as well.



Then I got pregnant. It's like just when I felt like I was breaking it happened. It was insane. But my husband had just said he was so upset seeing me losing it every month. We couldn't keep on the way I was.

Artie Russell Due September 15; Evans Mills, New York 170 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:</b>" Well last time after 17 months. I had given up. Threw everything out, hidden it whatever. Stopped doing ... [snip!] ... It was insane. But my husband had just said he was so upset seeing me losing it every month. We couldn't keep on the way I was."</blockquote>




Oh wow that's amazing congrats on that seems like forever but it happens

~Manda Panda +3 1/2~ 16 kids; Arkansas 39074 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Artie Russell:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:</b>" Well last time after 17 months. I had ... [snip!] ... keep on the way I was."</blockquote> Oh wow that's amazing congrats on that seems like forever but it happens"


This was 2011. She was born 9/2011 haha
It does feel forever.

Artie Russell Due September 15; Evans Mills, New York 170 posts
11th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:</b>" This was 2011. She was born 9/2011 haha It does feel forever."</blockquote>




Lol special isn't she but I guess I should be more patient. :)

Tyler and AJ's Mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Indianapolis, Indiana 15365 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" When the pain of TTC unsuccessfully becomes greater than the pain of not having another child."


I agree with this...



It took me 19 months to conceive my second. I never imagined that it would take so long. Each month felt like a failure. It did help me when we tried different or new things, treatments and methods. It's almost impossible to be patient ttc, but try to hang in there!

Katie & Clay's Mommy! TTC since Jan 2012; 18 kids; Louisiana 2847 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Bryan Ray's Mommy:" do you just give up?? I know it's a crazy question and that there are plenty of women on here who have ... [snip!] ... trying. I never could've imagined it would take us this long. Well, I just needed to sort of vent and have my pitty party. TIA"


I wish I could give you hope that it'll happen soon. I've also given up hope that it'll happen soon or ever happen for that matter. After our mc in 2011 with no luck since I'm starting to wonder if something is wrong with me or my husband. I don't think anything is wrong with me. I mean we got preggo within 2 months the last time. I guess sometimes it just takes longer. My cousin tried for 5 years before finally getting pregnant and it ending in mc then months later finally got pregnant again. So you're not alone on this journey. Keep your head up. It'll happen when you least expect it and when you've finally given up. That's when it happened with us. We tried for 8 months having non stop sex and nothing happened. Then we just said screw it that we weren't ready for a baby but I prayed that God send me a sign we could get pregnant and BAM bfp 2 cycles later. Lost him in Dec 2011. So if you ever need to vent you can message me. I know exactly how you are feeling.

Roxanne.♥ Due January 21; 1 child; California 1249 posts
11th Jan '13

Oh mama I am so sorry to hear..I haven't been trying long enough to feel that way but I imagine it can be quite frustrating and ware you down. Hopefully you don't get too stressed over it and let what's gonna happen, happen. However hopefully your get a bfp soon!!

Bryan Ray's Mommy + 1 ♥ Due June 26 (girl); TTC since Nov 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Bryan, TX, United States 4107 posts
11th Jan '13

Thanks ladies, y'all are amazing! Last cycle DF and I had a talk about it and we had pretty much decided that we would actually "try" through April so we're going to stick with that. From there, we might throw in the towel and just go to not trying but not protect or I might go back on the pill for a little bit and then get off it after a few months. I've just been having a hard time most recently because it's the 2nd time now I've part of a group of girls now on here and i'm yet again the only one still not pregnant.

~Manda Panda +3 1/2~ 16 kids; Arkansas 39074 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting Bryan Ray's Mommy:" Thanks ladies, y'all are amazing! Last cycle DF and I had a talk about it and we had pretty much decided ... [snip!] ... because it's the 2nd time now I've part of a group of girls now on here and i'm yet again the only one still not pregnant. "


So sorry hun. I'm not pregnant either. So you're not alone in this. <3

Bryan Ray's Mommy + 1 ♥ Due June 26 (girl); TTC since Nov 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Bryan, TX, United States 4107 posts
11th Jan '13
Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:" So sorry hun. I'm not pregnant either. So you're not alone in this. <3"


I'm glad I have you mama. You're one of the only ones left on here that I actual feel close with that still isn't pregnant either. Is AF on her way? I hope she shows for you soon only because I know that's what you want. *hugs* hopefully we'll both have happy healthy pregnancies very soon :)