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.............................. Peppa pig Due August 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2225 posts
12th Jan '13

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Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26; 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5302 posts
12th Jan '13

I feel like one person always ends up developing feelings, whether they admit it or not.. And ends up a little hurt when it all stops, because they want more, whether they admit it or not.

MamaDSx2&SDD Due July 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Monroe, Michigan 10013 posts
12th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting forgive-n let*love:</b>" I feel like one person always ends up developing feelings, whether they admit it or not.. And ends up a little hurt when it all stops, because they want more, whether they admit it or not."</blockquote>




!!!!!!!
Yep been there done that. NEVER again!

Justine's Mama Due November 28; 1 child; Boynton Beach, Florida 1939 posts
12th Jan '13

That happen to me and I developed feelings. In the end it sucked because it went from friends with benefits to me wanting a relationship and he totally didn't. So I was hurt and I just moved on from him and stopped talking to him. But I think it matters on the person. But almost every time I was in that friends with benefits I developed feelings, but that's just me.

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
12th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Do you think it's possible for two people to have ongoing sex for several months without developing feelings? Or do you believe that both parties develop feelings and are too afraid to admit it?"</blockquote>




I had friends with benefits with about 3 men over time. 1 of which I only developed strong feelings for. Not sure what he felt but I know he did get over protective of me with other guys. If its continual and there is that true connection it isn't possible to not get feelings.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9193 posts
12th Jan '13

Been there, done that. The "relationship" actually went on for a few years.



I sort of had feelings, but I knew he didn't and it would never develop into anything.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
12th Jan '13

Yes, I have been doing it for 8 yrs. :) No feelings other then just freindship. For us.

MamaDSx2&SDD Due July 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Monroe, Michigan 10013 posts
12th Jan '13

The guy I was doing it with I know he had feelings for me, but hes not the faithful type so im ok with what happened ending. He wanted HIM to be able to sleep with othet peoole but I could only sleep with him :/ double syandard haha (not that I would have or did)

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
12th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Do you think it's possible for two people to have ongoing sex for several months without developing feelings? Or do you believe that both parties develop feelings and are too afraid to admit it?"</blockquote>




Its completely doable. But FWB gets ruined the second someone catches feelings.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
12th Jan '13

I've been wondering this. For my best friend and I

Peppa pig Due August 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; New York 2225 posts
12th Jan '13

The guy I am hooking up with knows I have feelings. He did say that eventually emotions will get involved. Whether he meant one of us or both us, I do not know. But since figuring out that I have feelings for him, this hasn't deterred him from hooking up with me. As a matter of fact, I feel like we have been doing it more often. It went from once every two weeks, to about twice a week. Yesterday we were going to rent a hotel (we both lost our I.Ds; so we couldn't); And he plans on coming over to my apartment on Sunday. It confuses me. There is an obvious attraction between us...chemistry...We work together and we have been fighting the urge to acknowledge this attraction for two years.



When we hook up, it's like fireworks...for me anyway. Idunno. I am starting to go on dates though, and am interested to see his reaction when he catches wind of that.

Beautifully Mixed! 1 child; Minnesota 4124 posts
12th Jan '13

At some point someone will catch feelings. Ever seen the movie

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9193 posts
12th Jan '13
Quoting Peppa pig:" The guy I am hooking up with knows I have feelings. He did say that eventually emotions will get involved. ... [snip!] ... me anyway. Idunno. I am starting to go on dates though, and am interested to see his reaction when he catches wind of that."


ehh...in my experience, relationships based on sex don't typically work out. Not that it won't for you, it's just that you guys are going in reverse. Dates, attraction and feelings should come BEFORE sex.



Good luck, I hope it works out for you!

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
12th Jan '13
Quoting Beautifully Mixed!:" At some point someone will catch feelings. Ever seen the movie
Ecstasy 18 kids; Cuba 7748 posts
12th Jan '13

I've done the whole FWB thing - with multipul people over a few months.(I had quite a few 'booty calls/FWB' in my single days :oops: - i kept in touch with the same people and would meet up with each one about once every week or two.. some weeks i'd meet up with 3 of my different guy friends.. some more then once)



We'd spend time together & then go our separate ways after. No big deal.



We were friends.. not really close though (they weren't people i would confide in), we hung out, did whatever sexually and then went our separate ways after - no strings attached. We'd contact each other when we wanted 'company'.



For me and the people involved it was no biggie, no feelings emotionally developed.



I cared for them just like i cared for other people in my group of friends.. the only difference was we would have casual sex.



I think people over complicate things.



The bottom line is this.. if you already have feelings for them emotionally, dont do it... It'll get messy and wont be a good experience.



If you can switch off and can enjoy your body, enjoy the company of someone else and then go home and feel normal without thinking about them all the time.. then do it.



For me i think because i had trust issues from a previous relationship (he cheated) i didn't want a serious relationship.. i wanted the closeness/to be wanted/the company and then i wanted to go home after without worrying about any of the crap that went along with my ex.



It was definitely an experience :wink:



The hodge twins do a really funny youtube vid about this.. they say this 'once you make a chick c*m its over! she falls in love with you & it complicates things.. there is no such thing as FWB' hahaha!! :)