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aspen.keesler2013 TTC since Oct 2012; Arizona 7 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:" If you're not happy even after 2 years then leave. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. ... [snip!] ... together. If you can't trust him and are obviously not happy then whats the point of wasting more time on the relationship?"



I am happy though. I love being with him, but lately I'm just having that feeling and I can't if I insecure or if something is actually happening.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting aspen.keesler2013:" 2 years though. :/"


You know what's worse than wasting 2 years of your life with a cheater? Wasting 2 years and 1 day of your life with a cheater.....

£exaholic 2 kids; Colorado 20862 posts
13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" 2 years though. :/"</blockquote>




And? Don't waste even more time. Take it as a learning experience. 2 yrs is not very long.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5798 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting S U Z I E:" You know what's worse than wasting 2 years of your life with a cheater? Wasting 2 years and 1 day of your life with a cheater....."


Amen!
The quicker you get out of there, the quicker you can get on with your life and be happy again. He's obviously not happy if he continues to cheat.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15757 posts
status 13th Jan '13
Quoting S U Z I E:" You know what's worse than wasting 2 years of your life with a cheater? Wasting 2 years and 1 day of your life with a cheater....."


This.



It will feel like the end of the world, but give it some time and you will be sooo glad. I was in that situation and I was just miserable not trusting and trying to find something on him. I got all his passwords, from the forgot password link on his email. From there, I got all his social networking passwords and found out shit I didnt want to know or see. It broke me, it really did.



Don't find things. If you can't trust him, let him go. Seriously. You will find someone better that you DONT have to constantly worry about being unfaithful.



2 years is nothing compared to the 70 plus years of life left.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting norah's.momma✿:" Just leave him if you can't trust him. If he's that worried about sneaking around he's not worth being with."


This. If he has already cheated on you twice and you feel like he is doing it again, why would you want to get married to him?

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9176 posts
status 13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" I am happy though. I love being with him, but lately I'm just having that feeling and I can't if I insecure or if something is actually happening."</blockquote>




How are you happy if youre constantly second guessing and snooping on your boyfriend?

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1754 posts
13th Jan '13

My ex of a year and a half cheated on me multiple times with god only knows how many women, I never wanted to leave him because i was "in love" with him. I am so happy I eventually left, it was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself.

khris Due April 14; 1 child; Alabama 3 posts
13th Jan '13

have the same problem. ive been with him 2 years. were having our second child. he hasnt physically cheated but for 2 years every few months ill find messages to other girls flirting, asking to send nudes, even on craigslist to meet. allthough he never has. ive confronted him and threatened to leave. but for the sake of our child ive stayed. 2 years is to long to deal with this. hes been faithful the past few months but i know that if he dose that again , im gone. im allways wondering who hes talking to ,who he may be flirting with, because hes broken my trust so many times. its normal i think. i guess all you can do is try talking to him.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1754 posts
13th Jan '13

Btw a relationship without trust is like playing football without a football, its just not going to work. You are more likely to either drive yourself crazy, drive him into cheating or make yourself sick over it

Derp TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11449 posts
13th Jan '13

Here's how you tell...



Answer the following question: Has he cheated before?



If the answer is "no," then he is probably not cheating. If the answer is "yes," then he is either currently cheating or will cheat again in the future.

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3595 posts
13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" It's starting too. We've been through so much together though. Somtimes I want to just leave, but I ... [snip!] ... is a long time to just waste and we've lost a baby together and just so much has happened I don't know how to deal with it."</blockquote>




Seriously, 27 months with my SO. 12 month old son. Wedding planned for may. If he cheated in the past and gave me reasons to as scared as you are I would drop him like a hot potato. Relationships are not meant to be this hard girl.