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Pregnant w/Twins Amy♥NOAH♥Pook 2 kids; Arizona 14399 posts
13th Jan '13

So let's say you were TTC for your 2nd child, wanting only to have a second child, not more, at the time. And then you found out you were pregnant with twins.
Lets also say that you had a family member who was great, they were very financially responsible, loving, etc etc. But they couldn't have a child of their own. They were going to pay a best friend to have a child for them when the time came.
However, you considered maybe giving them one of your twins....when you eventually gave birth to the babies, would you be able to do it? <<That's the poll question.
Another question I am curious to see how people respond is, later down the road you all get together for family functions, or you see them post pictures, etc on FB of the 2nd twin .....would you feel regret? Or would you be happy and honored knowing you were able to give a family member a child they wouldn't have otherwise ever been able to have? Would you always feel deep down that the child was yours or accept that you basically gave the child up to someone else?

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
13th Jan '13

I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up.

Amy♥NOAH♥Pook 2 kids; Arizona 14399 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting lolajessup:" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up."

Yeah that's what I was thinking too.

Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 69214 posts
status 13th Jan '13

Um, hell no. Not only could I give one of my children away like that, but that's some parent trap booshit an that could f**k some twins up.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11944 posts
13th Jan '13

I would never be able to give up a child, putting a child up for adoption is not for me. Not to mention it would be cruel to the kids that you picked one over the other.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
13th Jan '13

Definitely not. How could you choose which one of your babies to give up?

Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
13th Jan '13

No way. The only way I might is if they lived in town and we could get together on a regular basis so the twins could have more of a bond. They might relate as cousins, but it would be better than no relationship at all.

Krystle ♥ 2 kids; New York 3923 posts
13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up."</blockquote>




This exactly.
I just couldn't do it...
But if a family member asked me to have a child for then I think I could.

smASHface 3 kids; 1 angel baby; French Lick, IN, United States 46479 posts
status 13th Jan '13

Nope. But, that's me and I think that's a situation id not like to encounter

doors33 1 child; Tonawanda, New York 478 posts
13th Jan '13

I don't think I could do it unless it was a VERY open adoption and the twins could see and play with each other daily... and that is almost impossible because I'd be working around my friend's schedule and life happens...



So no.

Amy♥NOAH♥Pook 2 kids; Arizona 14399 posts
13th Jan '13

**And note I am not pregnant with twins, lol. This was just something I was thinking about because of something my SIL said.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
13th Jan '13

No, and you shouldn't do it. My cousin has twin boys and she was told to have them sleep in the same crib for the first 6 months. they are so accustomed to being together.

smASHface 3 kids; 1 angel baby; French Lick, IN, United States 46479 posts
status 13th Jan '13

As they got older, they'd have a mess of questions I wouldn't want to answer. They'd know they're twins. That twin bond is true and VERY strong.

Amy♥NOAH♥Pook 2 kids; Arizona 14399 posts
13th Jan '13

I like all of the answers ladies, thanks!

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Krystle ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond ... [snip!] ... This exactly. I just couldn't do it... But if a family member asked me to have a child for then I think I could."</blockquote>




Yes for sure that. If I was preg specifically FOR someone else and knew that going in it'd be totally diff.