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"You limited yourself...." The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
Jan 13th '13

Or did you? If you got married between the ages of 18-25 did you come to the realization that you "settled" for less? Did you ever feel like you didn't give yourself enough time to find "the one"? (I said married, but if you have been in a long-term relationship between those ages I'd like your input as well).

Nikki Woods4 Due September 3 (boy); 19 kids; Danville, Kentucky 944 posts
Jan 13th '13

I got married a month after I turned 18 but I don't feel like I've settled. My DH and I are still completely in love and I do not believe there is anyone on this earth better suited for me. We've been married 7 years.

aℓyssa Due October 21 (girl); 1 child; Manhattan, KS, United States 18879 posts
Jan 13th '13

In my case, no, definitely not.



I got married at 18 and though I was incredibly young, I knew it was what I wanted and that hasn't changed.

aℓyssa Due October 21 (girl); 1 child; Manhattan, KS, United States 18879 posts
Jan 13th '13
Quoting Nikki Woods4:" I got married a month after I turned 18 but I don't feel like I've settled. My DH and I are still completely ... [snip!] ... still completely in love and I do not believe there is anyone on this earth better suited for me. We've been married 7 years."


Exactly!

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jan 13th '13

Nah. I got married at 18 and we've been together for 10 years, married for 8.



We fit together like to pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and compliment each other well.

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
Jan 13th '13
Quoting Big Booty Heaux
~Nimlorel~ Due September 28; 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Edmonton, Alberta 4821 posts
Jan 13th '13

Sometimes. More often I feel like having kids before I was ready limited us as a couple.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 18452 posts
Jan 13th '13

No but I can say that by waiting I avoided marrying boyfriends that would have been "settled" for.

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 27083 posts
Jan 13th '13

We're not married but have been together since we were 17/18. We've broken up here and there and that's helped me feel like I haven't settled. He really is everything I could ask for in a SO.

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
Jan 13th '13

Sometimes I feel like having kids when we were so young and had barely been together long enough to know each other that well (4 months in I got pregnant) really limited us as a couple. No opportunities to travel, see each other at our best and worst, enjoy being young together. Straight from young relationship to serious raising babies.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Jan 13th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Nope, I don't think I settled but I do think we got married too young. He's the one for me and I'm the ... [snip!] ... I just wish we would have waited...if that makes sense. What's done is done now lol. We've been married for 5 years come June."


I wish we would have waited too. Because putting of our marriage would have meant we would have put off starting a family.



I really was better suited for becoming a parent at 24 than I was at 19.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
Jan 13th '13

I got married 20 days after my 20th birthday. We were together 5 years before we got married and next month will be married 5 years. I don't feel like I've settled at all. My husband is an amazing father & provider and is not so bad on the eyes either :wink:

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
Jan 13th '13

I'm 24...DH and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for just over a year. I know it's early yet but I definitely don't feel like I've settled...I feel like I just happened to meet my best friend and soulmate at 22. I definitely don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. After my son's father, I was thrilled to meet a genuinely good guy.

The Pretty Poodle™ 1 child; Illinois 7341 posts
Jan 13th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Nope, I don't think I settled but I do think we got married too young. He's the one for me and I'm the ... [snip!] ... I just wish we would have waited...if that makes sense. What's done is done now lol. We've been married for 5 years come June."


Can you elaborate a little bit? What are things you would have liked to do or things you feel you shouldve done (looking back) prior to getting married?

aℓyssa Due October 21 (girl); 1 child; Manhattan, KS, United States 18879 posts
Jan 13th '13

I think what's made me even more sure in my decision is that we've waited to have children (My daughter isn't biological my DH's) and because I know the hardships and strain of raising a child, especially while being as young as I was, has put that idea off for me for a few years. But I do know he'll be an amazingly great father to our future children, just with how I've seen him with my daughter for the last 5 years!