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user banned 18 kids; Texas 1041 posts
13th Jan '13

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Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
13th Jan '13

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Quoting Safka9973:" I didn't read everything because I'm just in the BR for a quick pee LOL while reading. But if you are even questioning this, I think abortion might not be for you."
Platypus 1 child; Massachusetts 2577 posts
13th Jan '13

I've been going through something similar.. I was due august 21st. I went through with the abortion last thursday.. I feel a sense of relief... But I also feel sort of unstable right now.. But i know that will pass, and I know i made the right decision. I cannot afford another child, and cannot have another under these circumstances..

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3284 posts
13th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Platypus:</b>" I've been going through something similar.. I was due august 21st. I went through with the abortion last ... [snip!] ... pass, and I know i made the right decision. I cannot afford another child, and cannot have another under these circumstances.."</blockquote>




I've kind of kept up with your situation. I know how you feel. Its s hard decision to make but in the end you have to think about your child/ren that's living. I like to pretend and daydream that I could make it work but ultimately I can't. I can barely afford to feed the child I have and bringing another into this world right now is not smart. I hope that you can feel better about your decision and know that it was for the best

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
13th Jan '13

if u are continually questioning your decision please take the time to educate yourself on all available resources in your area. You may qualify for aid w/another child that you dont qualify for w/just 1....i have known several women that went through extra grief over their decision to abort once they found out (to late) that they wouldve qualified for extra resources (childcare vouchers, medical assistance, housing aid, food stamps, school grants, etc...)
Also research counseling and support groups in your area for if you go through w/the termination.

Platypus 1 child; Massachusetts 2577 posts
13th Jan '13
Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Platypus:</b>" I've been going through something similar.. I ... [snip!] ... into this world right now is not smart. I hope that you can feel better about your decision and know that it was for the best"


I know i will feel better... When I sit and think about it, I know i couldnt of done it... I would feel selfish bringing a kid into this world that i couldnt care for... And i would be taking LO down with me too.. It would just be a disaster...

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
13th Jan '13

Good luck! I am so sorry you are going through this.

xyxy 2 kids; 4 angel babies; ldn, uk, United Kingdom 160 posts
14th Jan '13

I have been through similar twice over now, and I know all too well what the rollercoaster of emotions is like. if you are like me you will change your mind another few times again before Friday!



re. a ceremony, I have heard about planting a little tree some people do, although I haven't. I know what you mean about loss, I feel more loss for my aborted pregnancies than I do for the miscarriages I've had :'(



have you tried pre-abortion counseling do they offer it at your clinic? I did find it helpful. and they're not allowed to bias you either way; which is what friends and family (either intentionally or inadvertently) tend to do.



good luck whatever happens, pm me if you want to I know what you're going through! xx

his*mama TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Portland, Oregon 3284 posts
14th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pixie b:</b>" I have been through similar twice over now, and I know all too well what the rollercoaster of emotions ... [snip!] ... or inadvertently) tend to do. good luck whatever happens, pm me if you want to I know what you're going through! xx"</blockquote>



Thank you. I went to bed wondering if I would change my mind. And I actually slept good for one, and I woke up feeling at peace with my decision. I know 10000% now that it's the best thing to do for me any my son

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pretty 'n' pink:</b>" but man. I keep going back and forth about the decision to keep or abort this pregnancy. every day is ... [snip!] ... a "ceremony" of sorts to grieve this loss. because no matter how I look at it, it will always be a loss. but I know it's right."</blockquote>



I hope everything works out for you! Stay strong. & God forgives all sins they say if you ask for forgiveness.
Hugs* stay strong!