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Spotting instead of AF? Wtf?! user banned
14th Jan '13

Hello everyone! I'm new to the site and this is my first post. Hope I'm posting this in the right place!
My FI are not actively TTC, but we would both be happy if a surprise happened (we both want children more than anything in the world, but ideally, after we're married).



So this is the deal, I have a pretty regular 22 day cycle, FI and I use condoms consistently and correctly (no breakage) and we've only DTD twice this month (we've been busy moving to a new city) and once was during my fertile window. I am now 4 days late for AF. Last night, I had the TINIEST amount of VERY light pink discharge when I wiped, but after that, NOTHING. I even checked my CM and there was only creamy white. My cervix is in a high position, and I haven't had (and still don't have) any sign that AF is coming. I tested with diluted urine (I couldn't stand to wait until morning) and got a BFN. I'll be sure to test again in with FMU tomorrow, but in the meantime...



What are your thoughts? Does it sound like theres a chance i'll get a BFP soon or am I acting like a crazy lady? Lol



Has anyone gotten PG while using a condom, and/or had spotting instead of a period before your BFP?



I know that if i'm havig sex, there's a chance I might be PG, but it just seems so unlikely? And if I'm not WTF is up with AF?! Not knowing what's going on is driving me mad!



*sigh* I guess I just need some reassurance. Lol

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th Jan '13

This sounds off because you said you're not actively trying, and you'd both be happy....but you're using condoms.....yet you know about cervix positions when it comes to TTC. But that's not the point of this thread.



22 days is an extremely short cycle. You could very well have plenty of time to start your period.



You've been using condoms. I highly doubt you're pregnant.



However, you're going to take a test, so you should probably just skip to that part. Nothing anyone says on here can determine whether or not you're pregnant.

user banned North Carolina 5 posts
14th Jan '13

Not sure by what you mean when you say it sounds "off". Using condoms because we don't want a baby right now, but if by some chance we were one of those rare couples who do get pregnant while using them, we wouldn't be upset about it.



Also, I know about cervical positions because I have a vagina and I'm well educated about my body and how it works.



I think my 22 day cycle has something to do with my only having one ovary (I had my left ovary and tube removed when I was 17 because of a large dermoid cyst). I also have some scar tissue around my right ovary from recurring cysts and my doctor suspects that it may be endometriosis. Doc also says that I probably only have another 4 years (until I'm 27) of fertility due to my condition. which is another reason I wouldn't be upset if I found out I was PG.



As previously stated in the original post, I took a test with diluted urine and it was negative. And I know that nobody here can tell me whether or not I'm pg (I'm not stupid) and its doubtful that i am. The spotting just freaks me out bc that's never happened before and I've never been this late. Like I said, I was curious to see if anyone had any similar experiences. :)

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting OhMyMercy!:" Not sure by what you mean when you say it sounds "off". Using condoms because we don't want a baby right ... [snip!] ... happened before and I've never been this late. Like I said, I was curious to see if anyone had any similar experiences. :)"


If you were educated on it then you would know they they advise you not to check your own cervix because it puts you at high risk for infection. Generally people don't check their own cervix unless they've been so enamored by the thought of getting pregnant that they've extensively googled ways to check for pregnancy early. This also means that you've probably checked it since you know that it's not in the position it was the last time you checked it. Just sounds odd....especially since you posted it in TTC and Adoption.



Anyways. All women have had weird experiences but if you took a test and it's negative & you've been using condoms....you're probably not pregnant.

user banned North Carolina 5 posts
14th Jan '13

Listen, if you're going to accuse me of being some chick with baby-fever on a googling frenzy, you should at least just come out and say it. :P really, it makes no difference to me what you think, because i know youre probably just some bored housewife who likes to come here and start drama since you probably have nothing else to keep you entertained. Seriously, you couldn't come up with a better hobby? You really need to get out more.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting OhMyMercy!:" Listen, if you're going to accuse me of being some chick with baby-fever on a googling frenzy, you should ... [snip!] ... nothing else to keep you entertained. Seriously, you couldn't come up with a better hobby? You really need to get out more."


If I wanted to accuse you of something, I certainly would. However I'd rather ask a series of strategic questions that make you think about your own behaviors in a different way than you probably have been. I see that it has struck a nerve so it likely worked. You're welcome.



And please enlighten me some more on how you know me so well. Because right now you're the one on here getting all worked up because I'm on the same site you are, posting away.



Deflection is a terrible trait.

user banned North Carolina 5 posts
14th Jan '13

Lol like I said, it's my first time ever being on this website, and I haven't exactly gotten the warmest of welcomes. Jeeze, is everybody here as friendly as you are?



If I wanted someone to ask questions to make me "think about my behavior" I'd go to a shrink...



I'm a very introspective person, and if anything I'm paranoid and anxious. I deal with alot of reproductive issues, but I've never had a late period. FI knows I'm late and he said he thought I might be PG, so of course, that got me thinking about it. As previously stated, my FI and I would welcome an unexpected baby (as in I would keep it) because I have my doubts on whether or not I'll be able to conceive down the road.



Also, I looked at your profile and it seems that you have quite a reputation for stirring the pot and being not so nice to people... That's why I said what I did.



And I'm not deflecting anything, just giving you back a little bit of the attitude you're dishing out.

user banned North Carolina 5 posts
14th Jan '13

Anyway, I appreciate you taking the time to reply to my post, regardless. I apologize for assuming that you're a bored housewife, because you're right, I don't know you.
But to be completely honest, I felt that you were being snarky and kind of b*tchy right from the get-go, and I don't see why that was necessary. I came here wanting support and reassurance from women who might be going through a similar ordeal, but instead I just got the 3rd degree about my intentions for being here in the first place and felt the need to defend myself.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting OhMyMercy!:</b>" Anyway, I appreciate you taking the time to reply to my post, regardless. I apologize for assuming that ... [snip!] ... but instead I just got the 3rd degree about my intentions for being here in the first place and felt the need to defend myself."</blockquote>




Fair enough. Those feelings are not completely unwarranted.



I would see a doctor if your period doesn't start within a week.

Mommie Dearest. Due September 17 (boy); 17 kids; Mississippi 1902 posts
14th Jan '13

I would go with not pregnant. Generally , being four days late you aren't going to get a negative even with diluted urine. I was two days late chugging water like it was about to evaporate and still got a positive that night.

Regardless of the outcome , I wish you luck!

Kitten Power TTC since Aug 2011; 48 kids; Japan 1140 posts
14th Jan '13

i dont think your pregnant, the fact that your using condoms actively with no breakages says it all, for the spotting, i would say give it a few days and AF will show her face lol