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and its gone like Gonnigan again --K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
14th Jan '13

They should really make an option to get rid of your tracks lol.
Paranoid people like I am would appreciate it.



Then again I should just quit posting personal stuff online.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
14th Jan '13

So who wants to get married? You or him?

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
14th Jan '13

There were a couple of times I broke off mine and Aaron's engagement.



It wasn't because I didn't want to marry him, it was because I didn't think he was ready to get married.

Brandi Milam 3 angel babies; Tucson, Arizona 574 posts
14th Jan '13

I was in a similar situation. Then we talked about it. He knows how I feel about being engaged for over 2 years but he is scared that even if we do get married, I might find some one better than him. And because he said that, I know I never will. I love him way too much. Sit him down and talk it over. It will work out honey. Just give it time.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5; Japan 1385 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting Supafly★:" So who wants to get married? You or him? "

:!:
Is it official? I don't understand..



I know so many couples that are engaged, newly engaged, getting married in like 4 months or 2 months. What's wrong with a long engagement?

Mommie Dearest. Due September 17; 17 kids; Mississippi 1899 posts
14th Jan '13

Bleh. The way I see it is when you get engaged , that means set a date and start planning.

Sorry it's not working out for you that way :( I hope he gets his shit together.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
14th Jan '13

So you want him to want to get married but he doesn't? The post is confusing to me.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting K. P. Walsh:" :!: Is it official? I don't understand.. I know so many couples that are engaged, newly engaged, getting married in like 4 months or 2 months. What's wrong with a long engagement? "


I originally wanted a 2-3 year engagement....but we tied the knot 7 months later due to an extreme case. Nothing wrong with either way.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
14th Jan '13

SO and i have been engaged since 2011. things have happened to keep the wedding from happening (sure we could just go to the court house, but i don't want to do that). a long engagement doesn't bother me if it means we're both ready in all aspects and i have more time to plan my awesome wedding. plus, i'm buying stuff little by little so i don't get overwhelmed and have to do it all at once. i could never be engaged for like four or six months and then just BAM! have a wedding. idk, i think i'm a bit weird on this subject. my plans for my wedding are coming together great, though. we're getting married next springs :)

K. P. Walsh Due August 5; Japan 1385 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I originally wanted a 2-3 year engagement....but we tied the knot 7 months later due to an extreme case. Nothing wrong with either way. "

No, not at all.
I just think in some cases, the pressure to do it right away gets the better of some couples. Like, I have a friend who got engaged about 3 weeks ago, and is getting married in 3 months because she's worried about what people may think if they don't do it right away. Seems silly to me.

Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting K. P. Walsh:" No, not at all. I just think in some cases, the pressure to do it right away gets the better of some ... [snip!] ... married in 3 months because she's worried about what people may think if they don't do it right away. Seems silly to me. "


really? i had no idea people thought badly of long engagements.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
14th Jan '13

He wants to get married before bootcamp and he is leaving in feb. but we have had a lot of drama recently (because of him) and its made me reconsider our whole relationship.



I always wanted to be engaged for three or more years, mainly because with my DS's dad we were together for three years and the only good thing form him is my DS. I wanted to be sure that wasn't going to happen again.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5; Japan 1385 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting K.MarieAnnette:" really? i had no idea people thought badly of long engagements."

Me neither.
I'd like to be engaged at least a year.
OP, anything worth having is worth fighting or waiting for. If you love him, don't give up. I'm sorry something is making you reconsider your relationship, but like I said, if it's worth having, it's worth fighting for.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
14th Jan '13

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Kimber's Mommy 1 child; South Carolina 4272 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting Katie♥'sherHippo:" We have been fighting for going on three weeks now and I've been repeating myself and him basically ... [snip!] ... to respond. I'm not down with this. I feel like I'm talking to my mum's boyfriend and he's not a man I want to be around."


did you guys have fights before? communication can be tricky with a man sometimes. SO and i butt heads at least once a day, but we love each other and it shows. insecurities from previous relationships randomly sneak up on us (we're both trying to work through them) and place insecurities in our relationship sometimes. i know it doesn't sound like a fairy tale, but he's my best friend and the person i know i couldn't live without.



do you feel that way about your SO? is he your best friend? are you excited to see him every day? i think you guys need to figure out a way to communicate more effectively and get your feelings across without the other thinking of what they are going to say next before the other person is finished.