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What to do from here?!? Mulisha_Tink 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 297 posts
14th Jan '13

So my Fiance and I have been fighting a lot lately. Last night and this morning got very bad. Last night I slept on the floor of my sons room because he wanted to play the "its my bed" bullshit. I was leaving for work this morning and taking my son with me because I feel I need to save him from all this fighting. When I proceeded to take some of this clothes and put him in the car as well. The Fiance comes out takes my son out of the car and tells me he can stay with him today. I said no because I am not comfortable. then things began to get physical then he started pushing me away from my son. Then he said your not taking my son. As I went to say "he is not your son, he is my son" all I got out was "he is not your son" before he began to choke me out saying "he's not my son oh he is not my son?" I couldn't breath but when I finally got away and was able to catch my breath I told him I said "he is not your son he is my son." It ended in me telling him I would leave him there for the day but that I would be back for my son and my things after work. He told me he would throw my shit outside.



I don't know where to go from here. I am debating calling my mother and going there however I have not spoke to her in forever because she does not like him and I don't want to hear all her crap and the I told you so bs.



He tries to apologize but goes back and forth. One minute he is sorry the next he is screaming that I am a c**t.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
14th Jan '13

Honestly? To a shelter and the police. Have the police go back home with you to get your son and your stuff.

★ASHLEY★ 17 kids; Michigan 1274 posts
14th Jan '13

Honesty I'd leave. If he choked you in front of your son, that's not good. What else is he capable of?! Complete bullshit!! I'm sure a friend or other family member wouldn't turn you down if you explain the situation. Good luck mama and I'm sorry your going through this.

Crystal Dawn Harris Due March 30; 1 child; Forsyth, Missouri 49 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting Mulisha_Tink:" So my Fiance and I have been fighting a lot lately. Last night and this morning got very bad. Last night ... [snip!] ... you so bs. He tries to apologize but goes back and forth. One minute he is sorry the next he is screaming that I am a c**t."


I'd call the cops to go with me to get my son and stuff... and i would press charges on him for him laying his hands on me in that way!

Brandi Milam 3 angel babies; Tucson, Arizona 574 posts
14th Jan '13

Ummm..... CALL THE COPS ON HIS ASS! He should not have put his hands on you. And you need to get that precious little boy away from him. You never know when or if he will turn violent towards your son. What he did is unforgivable. And honestly, I would just deal with your mom saying all that if it meant you had a safe place to stay.

*021013* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; xxx, OH, United States 3799 posts
14th Jan '13

Oh geeze momma I'm sorry you're going thru this :/ he sounds like a real Dick head tho....you really do need to get away from him. And good for you for not wanting your little one around all that

BrittanieY 18 kids; South Carolina 16634 posts
14th Jan '13

I think you need to leave for a while and distance yourself from him.



While your mother may be annoying with her "I told you so" attitude, you won't die from it...choking is another story.



I'm sorry and I hope you find some peace soon :(.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
14th Jan '13

First sounds like you need to stop calling him a fiancee, he is not a fiancee but a piece of trash.

Second, unless the child is really not his .. I think you did do wrong by what you told him but that still does not justify what he did.

Leave ASAP! Do a report & get the child and yourself as far as you can.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15523 posts
14th Jan '13

I would leave. Why did you say your son couldn't stay with him? Seems kind of childish to me(if he's not a threat to him).

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
14th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mulisha_Tink:</b>" So my Fiance and I have been fighting a lot lately. Last night and this morning got very bad. Last night ... [snip!] ... you so bs. He tries to apologize but goes back and forth. One minute he is sorry the next he is screaming that I am a c**t."</blockquote>




Well, if she already doesn't like him and there's any possibility of you all working things out, I would not get her involved!

Little G's Mama Due December 23; 1 child; Pennsylvania 6164 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" Your fiance got physical with you and you let him keep the child?! WTF! Go back, get your son, call the COPS, and press charges on his abusive ass!!!! And then get a restraining order on him!"


this!

Mama Kat ♥ 2 kids; NAPLES, ME, United States 9548 posts
14th Jan '13

Call the police.File a report & get your son out of there!
No man should EVER put his hands on you!

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
14th Jan '13

You should have called the police and you should not have left your child with him.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting Bubba Monster's Mommy:" Honestly? To a shelter and the police. Have the police go back home with you to get your son and your stuff."


This. Get out of that situation. Don't listen to his bullshit when he apologizes and promises that it will never happen again, because that's all it is- bullshit.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
14th Jan '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" I would leave. Why did you say your son couldn't stay with him? Seems kind of childish to me(if he's not a threat to him)."


Would you leave your son with someone who had just choked you out?
I wouldn't.