I really need to vent and I know my crazy ass fiancee is driving me nuts! The worse part is today is our fourth anniversary and he is being Cray Cray!
The background into this is I got caught talking to guys a few times now the first two times conversations got personal , in the sense that I talked about my sex life with my fiancee with those guys or about those retarded teenage years. But the last time I talked to this guy just out of boredom he messaged me on aim, and stupidly I replied. But for once I did not over step the rules with the conversation but I did break the rule of not talking to a guy.
I hid it because he would have left me and took my kids, so I get how that looked fishy but I only did it because I did not want him to leave me over a few very innocent conversations.
So now everyday and all day he stalks my shit which is fine I told him to do that and told him I will do whatever it takes to get him to trust me. But he is always accusing me of some new shit, or picking fights over everything and treating me like a criminal. I am starting to break down , the constant shit is getting me to a point that I want to leave because I can not live like this anymore.
This is a pointless vent but I needed to get it out because I love him and do not want to lose him :'(
I can understand his frustrations with it. I'd be livid if my SO was on AIM or FB talking to other girls about our sex life, or talking about his high school sex life :? Totally inappropriate. You should've stopped when he found out the first time.
I basically have the same exact problem, only plus another. I'm sorry. It sucks. =[
Quoting Amanda.M:" I basically have the same exact problem, only plus another. I'm sorry. It sucks. =["
But I did not talk about personal stuff.
Quoting kthx.:" I can understand his frustrations with it. I'd be livid if my SO was on AIM or FB talking to other girls ... [snip!] ... or talking about his high school sex life :? Totally inappropriate. You should've stopped when he found out the first time."
I hate to say it... but you made your bed. I dont blame him for being suspicious. I would be too. You definitely need to work on your trust. I suggest going to counseling and opening communication.
I was friends with my ex. DH wasn't comfortable with it. He didnt ask me to stop talking to him, but I did anyways... because I value my marriage and family way more than a chat with some guy. I want my husband to be comfortable and secure. So I did what I had to do
You had a rule of not being able to talk to males? I understand why he is suspicious. I would be too.
Well, you made your bed.
But, if your relationship continues like this forever, it's really not worth it. Trust is key.