EmilyLester 2 kids; Illinois 10 posts15th Jan '13
With lupus i am at great risk during pregnancy, i fully understand that. with my youngest i was in the hospital for 3mo. I went through renal failure due to it and i lost full function of my bladder ( i have it back now) i had a lovely catheter the rest of my pregnancy. I couldn't have an epidural either because i had fluid build up around my heart due to my microvascular angina and they were worried the injection would send me into shock and kill me, luckily he was a fast delivery, 4hrs and he was perfectly healthy. I was advised by my doctor that if i decide to have any more children i need to be aware that the more pregnancies i have with lupus the more serious the problems will be during the pregnancy. I can't imagine going trough worse, but i love children and would love to be blessed wit h a girl. My doctor thinks i'm nuts i feel, and even told me that i could end up causing my own death...but he said he would still treat me. It's an iffy decision that i haven't made yet...i have a big problem with being limited because of a disorder i have...it really doesn't seem fair.
EmilyLester 2 kids; Illinois 10 posts16th Jan '13
Wanted to say my husband and I went to the doctor today and i wasn't pregnant and didn't have a miscarriage. He said with paragard it can act as a blockage and keep old blood inside you until your next period and by then it can pour out and look very different! Needless to say i got the paragard out in his office today and staying clear of all forms of birthcontrol! Hello condoms :) LOL
Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts17th Jan '13
Quoting EmilyLester:" Wanted to say my husband and I went to the doctor today and i wasn't pregnant and didn't have a miscarriage. ... [snip!] ... Needless to say i got the paragard out in his office today and staying clear of all forms of birthcontrol! Hello condoms :) LOL"
I have a blood condition that made another child a choice like yours. To me, I figured that I have 3 that need me already. I shouldn't have had them (twins and a singleton). I struggled for years and years to get pregnant not knowing about my health condition until I got pregnant with my son. I would have had a bus load if I could. All I ever wanted was to be a mom. Well, we don't always get a fair hand but, we get more than others and that is when we have to reflect on what we do have and relize how blessed we are with it. Only you can make your life decisions and I know that you are young and this is very unfair to you. More so than me being 34 knowing that my road is at an end. Enjoy life and your beautiful family!!!