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Tattling Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
15th Jan '13

If you teach/taught your kid not to be a "tattle-tale" or a "snitch," how do you teach them that they can come to you if someone does something really bad to him/her? [hitting, molesting, ect]



Or do you teach them that they can tell you anything, no matter how small?



DH is always telling DS "stop snitching" and "no one likes a tattle-tale" and while I agree that DS doesn't have to tell me that his brother grabbed his toy, there are certain things I would WANT him to snitch about.



How do you teach the difference?

Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7163 posts
15th Jan '13

We tell my 7 year old its not necessary to tell us every time something small happens, like someone not sharing, etc. just to work it out on his own. But we tell him that if someone is hitting him, any kind of abuse, etc to tell us right away. He seems to undstand what situations warrant telling us about and which do not.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
15th Jan '13

Hmm, I don't really know. I would reinforce to always tell when someone is being hurt or hurting someone else.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30820 posts
15th Jan '13

I want my son to tell me or his teacher no matter how small.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
15th Jan '13

I try to tell dd that if someone is hurting her or someone else it's appropriate to tell. I also hate tattling but I was traumatized from
One of my teachers for tattling so I hate to even call it that. I try to call it "reporting".

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 2658 posts
15th Jan '13

We emphasize what we believe to be the lesser evil and encourage her to tell

Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57831 posts
15th Jan '13

I teach my kids that there is a difference between tattling and reporting.



Tattling is telling me something for the sole purpose of getting someone else in trouble.



Reporting is when you are telling me something because you are truly upset at what someone else has done because it hurt you or someone else or could cause hurt in some way.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5487 posts
15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emily Dickinson:</b>" I teach my kids that there is a difference between tattling and reporting. Tattling is telling me something ... [snip!] ... because you are truly upset at what someone else has done because it hurt you or someone else or could cause hurt in some way."</blockquote>




Me too! :)