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user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Jan '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" I don't think he should be suspended, as another poster said its a day off school for them. I'd want ... [snip!] ... with the principal. Don't go in all guns blazing though, imagine how horrified you'd be if your child said that to someone."


Yes, this.



I know when your kid is being bullied it's tempting to go in there and be like "WHERE IS THAT LITTLE FUCKSTICK? LET ME AT HIM!"
haha...



But, maybe he's got a shitty life. Or, maybe there's more to the story that you aren't aware of.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think he should be suspended, as another poster said its a day off school for them. I'd want ... [snip!] ... with the principal. Don't go in all guns blazing though, imagine how horrified you'd be if your child said that to someone."</blockquote>




Yeah, my neighbor's mother (also my neighbor, they live next door) works for the bus company and spoke with my son's bus driver that's why they moved the seat the same day. She got the boy's phone number but I didn't know if it would be appropriate to call them or if I should go through the school. I'd be mortified if my son did anything like this so I don't want to get nasty with the parents or anything but I'd like to get an idea of why he said that to my son.

Petit tabernac clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107705 posts
15th Jan '13

While I do not feel threats from a 1st grader warrant the same concern as an older child, I do not think the kid should be suspended but I would want to personally discuss the issue with the childs parents.

best of luck

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
15th Jan '13

We had a prob with dean, he's also in 1st grade...



Dean told a lil girl we was going to put woodchips in her eyes :roll: they called me asap and recomend I get counseling, I took him that day for emergency eval, along with other stuff he was eventually diagnosed with adhd and odd... dosnt give him an excuse to scare people...
Me my husband and his father were together when we talked to him, I rarely spank Dean because it dosnt do anything to him, but I'm sure his dad let him have it :( he hasn't threatened any1 since...



Its really up to the parents to do anything, Deans dad was a mess in school he got suspended left and right expelled from our district, to go to my homecoming dance, my mom and aunt had to come, and the school had cops outside the venu because he was there :roll: his parents didn't do shit to help him or figure out why he was so bad, when we took dean to get diagnosed dr asked about our own history, in so many words the dr. Said my ex had to have had odd, took prison to get him to act right...

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7388 posts
15th Jan '13

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user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
15th Jan '13

I would demand more be done... whether that's the right decision or not, I react first if I feel like my child or I has been "wronged."

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

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user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
15th Jan '13
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Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Yes, this. I know when your kid is being bullied it's tempting to go in there and be like "WHERE IS ... [snip!] ... LET ME AT HIM!" haha... But, maybe he's got a shitty life. Or, maybe there's more to the story that you aren't aware of. "</blockquote>




Yeah, my mom was like who is this little bastard I'm going to call his parents myself. I said no mom, leave it alone we don't even know why the kid said these things.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" We had a prob with dean, he's also in 1st grade... Dean told a lil girl we was going to put woodchips ... [snip!] ... dr asked about our own history, in so many words the dr. Said my ex had to have had odd, took prison to get him to act right..."</blockquote>



Yeah James has ADHD and odd himself. He's on medication for the ADHD so we haven't had any issues with his behavior in a long time but maybe this other boy his similar issues. That's why as angry and worried as I was when my son told me, I didn't want to assume this boy was just some little a*****e because I have no idea if he has mental issues or if he has some kind of abuse going on.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I would demand more be done... whether that's the right decision or not, I react first if I feel like my child or I has been "wronged.""</blockquote>




I agree, I don't want my son to feel like he wasted his time telling us either. I don't want him to feel like nothing will be done if he could be in danger and not say anything should something come up in the future. I also don't want this boy to think its ok to go around threatening people because he had no real consequences at school.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" I think it'd be best to call the parents, and just ask if maybe their child has ever mentioned your ... [snip!] ... about what you've been hearing from your kid. See what they have to say, see if they'd like to maybe sit down and discuss it. "</blockquote>




I think that's a good way to go about discussing this. Thank you!

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
15th Jan '13
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Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7355 posts
status 15th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FaithLovesPussyCats:</b>" I'd be careful calling the child's parents, if you decide to do so. If this kid is threatening to stab your son, he might have a terrible home life."</blockquote>



This is true :/ that is why I haven't already called. I'm not sure what kind of people they are and I don't want to have them angry at me or hurt their child in any way. I just want to understand why he said such a thing. Idk, this is tricky.