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Self esteem/confidence? Arks Mama! ಠ_ಠ 1 child; Utah 2401 posts
16th Jan '13

Do you have low self esteem or self confidence? DID you?
If you did, what did you do to help raise it?
This has been something I have been having horrible trouble with, I would love advice.
..I don't know why I did a poll. Ah well, it's there anyway.
EDIT: If you DO, why?

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
16th Jan '13

I had low self esteem, and then I stopped doing shitty things to people and myself, and it fixxed my self esteem!

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Frankfurt, HS, Germany 16209 posts
16th Jan '13
Quoting and then there were 3.:" Do you have low self esteem or self confidence? DID you? If you did, what did you do to help raise it? ... [snip!] ... I have been having horrible trouble with, I would love advice. ..I don't know why I did a poll. Ah well, it's there anyway."



i have very very low self esteem.
has to do with my mom bullying me and putting me down all my life as well as being heavily bullied throughout my kindergarten and school years.



i had times were my self esteem was a lot higher...when i got out of highschool and started hanging out with a lot of people and just had fun together...that helped...
then i got married and lost contact to everyone though so my depression got pretty bad and then i got PPD after DD...
then i met a girl at our last duty station and she helped me a lot to feel better about myself. showed me how to do my hair and make up and what not and gave me a lot of reassurance...
other than that i havent really found anything that really helped me...doesnt help that pregnancy makes me fat and my face always breaks out real badly while pregnant :x

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
16th Jan '13

I'm not classically beautiful and have very strong features. I was called ugly and called names all the way up into high school until I started wearing makeup and dressing slutty. I am very self conscious and find myself physically disgusting and hideous, so I continue to wear tons of makeup etc.

Arks Mama! ಠ_ಠ 1 child; Utah 2401 posts
16th Jan '13
Quoting Fusselinchen -5:" i have very very low self esteem. has to do with my mom bullying me and putting me down all my life ... [snip!] ... that really helped me...doesnt help that pregnancy makes me fat and my face always breaks out real badly while pregnant :x"


I knew a girl like that, then I got pregnant and I "couldn't party with her anymore".. That helped a whole bunch. :(
My self worth raises and lowers EVERY DAY, almost every hour. I fucking hate it.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
16th Jan '13

Yes and from time to time it is still a struggle. You have to retrain the way you think. Watch your thoughts and you self-statements. What are you saying to yourself in your head. Learn to recognize those thoughts and train yourself to counteract them.

Arks Mama! ಠ_ಠ 1 child; Utah 2401 posts
16th Jan '13
Quoting Fat-and-Happy:" Yes and from time to time it is still a struggle. You have to retrain the way you think. Watch your thoughts ... [snip!] ... What are you saying to yourself in your head. Learn to recognize those thoughts and train yourself to counteract them."


I wish it was easier said than done.. but I will try.
I feel like if I felt that I am wanted, I'd feel better. But I feel SO unwanted. I always have.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
16th Jan '13
Quoting and then there were 3.:" I wish it was easier said than done.. but I will try. I feel like if I felt that I am wanted, I'd feel better. But I feel SO unwanted. I always have. "


The best thing that I can recommend to you is to perhaps find a counselor/therapist who employs cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) as their main theoretical application or look into the strategies yourself. It really helped me 12-13 years ago. It has been a process ever since, but now I can recognize when I am bringing myself down by my internal dialogue. I used to call myself all kinds of things. Our thoughts become our realities.



http://www.aliceboyes.com/negative-self-talk/