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How do I do this... Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
17th Jan '13

So this really cute, nice seeming guy is interested in me. He has a kid the same age as mine, he was in the marines, he lives very close to me, and did I mention that he's cute. Huge 6'4", giant hands.



Well since we both have kids what is the protocol here? I mean obviously we've met each other's kids because that how we met. Our kids are friends and have play dates.



I don't know very much about him yet, so I've just been casually hanging out with him and his roommate, and having play dates with our children. He hasn't asked me on a date, or tried to kiss me or anything. Which I like. Because I would like to get to know him more. So should I stop having our kids get together because there might be a possible romantic interest there? And in case things don't work out I don't want Charles to get to attached to his new friend.

Callie L. Due May 18 (girl); 49 kids; Ohio 334 posts
17th Jan '13
Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" So this really cute, nice seeming guy is interested in me. He has a kid the same age as mine, he was ... [snip!] ... possible romantic interest there? And in case things don't work out I don't want Charles to get to attached to his new friend. "

I think it's fine to keep them hanging out, you just have to know that if things don't work out, you need to put your child first and although it may be awkward, you and this fellow can still be nice enough to allow your children to play together.

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
17th Jan '13

I think it would be worse to strip him of his friend so you could date his dad. They can be friends whether you two work out or not.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
17th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I think it would be worse to strip him of his friend so you could date his dad. They can be friends whether you two work out or not."


That's true.

Nettayb + 5 1/2 Due February 20 (girl); 37 kids; North Carolina 13 posts
17th Jan '13

I aree with Callie. I wouldn't make him end his friendship even if u 2 dnt work out, its only gon a hurt the kids & even u to see your kid hurt. Id still let them remain friends & play together.

Charlie's Lovely Mommy 1 child; Granville, Massachusetts 1794 posts
17th Jan '13
Quoting Nettayb + 5 1/2:" I aree with Callie. I wouldn't make him end his friendship even if u 2 dnt work out, its only gon a hurt the kids & even u to see your kid hurt. Id still let them remain friends & play together."


You don't think it would make him upset though? And i mean what would dating even mean for us? Should we go on a date without the kids? Like on a friday when we both don't have them. Do you think it would make DS more upset if we dated and it didn't work, than if we didn't try at all? I guess I'm just wondering if I should date this guy at all.

Callie L. Due May 18 (girl); 49 kids; Ohio 334 posts
17th Jan '13
Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" You don't think it would make him upset though? And i mean what would dating even mean for us? Should ... [snip!] ... if we dated and it didn't work, than if we didn't try at all? I guess I'm just wondering if I should date this guy at all. "


Yes! Date! Live a little! Just prepare yourself for reality. Sometimes it works, and some times it doesn't. Don't over analyze it and over think it. I think a date alone wouldn't hurt anything. You can get to know each other, just be two mature adults IF it doesn't go the way as planned. Theres no shame in dating, and theres certainly nothing to be ashamed of if it doesn't work out. Just try not to over think everything, let it happen naturally and relax!