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Moving in with boyfriend (mother in law) christinetx9 Due July 26; Texas 2 posts
18th Jan '13

I'm having a really difficult time trying to figure out what to do..
Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 4 years. I know I want to be with him/raise the baby together however I feel like moving in with him isn't the best decision right now. He currently lives with his mother, sister and husband who have 3 kids all under 2 (2 twins and a baby) I know being there would cause more stress than I already deal with. I want to stay at my parents house throughout my pregnancy however my mother is constantly asking when am I going to move out, pressuring me to leave,etc almost everyday. I know she wouldn't be pleased if I told her I wanted to stay until the baby was born so I don't know what to do. My father on the other hand is okay with me living here I just wish my mother was a little more compassionate about it. I could also really use the help once the baby is born because my boyfriend is constantly working. I just don't know how to convince my mom to stay here.. I just feel really unwanted here now and its hard because this is when I need the most help. I suffer from anxiety disorder and depression so all this is oh so very hard for me with this unplanned pregnancy on top. Any advice on what I should do?

......................... Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
18th Jan '13

Tell your bf to man up and start supporting the two of you so you can get your own place together.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
18th Jan '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" Tell your bf to man up and start supporting the two of you so you can get your own place together."


This. Or get a job/assistance and get your own place.

......................... Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
18th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" This. Or get a job/assistance and get your own place."</blockquote>




Yep pretty much.
You're 20 yrs old OP you should have been looking into a job and your own place a long time ago. Mommy and daddy will only support you for so long.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
18th Jan '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" This. Or get a job/assistance and ... [snip!] ... you should have been looking into a job and your own place a long time ago. Mommy and daddy will only support you for so long."


And it seems like mommy is sick of it in this situation OP.

christinetx9 Due July 26; Texas 2 posts
18th Jan '13

I am a full time student and was about to apply to nursing school my father was paying for it so it wasn't in my interest to start looking anytime soon. This was unplanned as I was on birth control but thanks I guess

Latoshia Due June 21; White Pine, Tennessee 86 posts
18th Jan '13

I would say that maybe it wasn't planned & maybe you don't think its a big deal to live with someones parents while pregnant or after having baby, but some parents see it as a big deal. And i understand that it may be somewhat difficult for you 2 to move out together given that ur in school. But i know a lot of states offer help with housing. So maybe while ur finnishing school you can get some assisted housing to get you on ur own feet with baby weather bf is staying with you or not. Sometimes you gotta change ur plan to make it work. But i wouldn't move in with him & all those other ppl i promise it will just be un needed stress.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
18th Jan '13
Quoting christinetx9:" I am a full time student and was about to apply to nursing school my father was paying for it so it wasn't ... [snip!] ... it so it wasn't in my interest to start looking anytime soon. This was unplanned as I was on birth control but thanks I guess"


You can still get on assistance. You have no income.