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Marriage and Sex !Randa Roo! 6 kids; Knoxville, Tennessee 75 posts
21st Jan '13

Okay....so me and my husband used to have just...okay sex.



But since we got married, things have picked up a little bit. Then I started going to sex stores. Found lots of toys. Straps, vibrating c**k rings with ball bangers, all kinds of stuff I never thought I'd try, and I am completely satisfied with our sex life now.



But sometimes I get the vibe that he's not completely satisfied. Any advice?

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119245 posts
21st Jan '13

talk to him

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7399 posts
status 21st Jan '13

Ask him to go pick something out that he wants to try. That worked wonders for us.

Devil's Advocate Beverly Hills, California 18191 posts
21st Jan '13

Ask him? You can't read his mind.

Barbieʚϊɞ Florida 11401 posts
21st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" Ask him? You can't read his mind. "</blockquote>

!Randa Roo! 6 kids; Knoxville, Tennessee 75 posts
21st Jan '13

I have. I've honestly talked about it til I'm blue in the face.



He says he's satisfied and loves the sex. I've asked him if it's me, he tells me I'm stupid for even thinking that. I've asked him if I lost weight would it be better for him and he swears up and down that he can't stand a "skinny b***h" as he says. He says he loves thick girls.



Anything I could try or do to spice things up ladies? Because he's not going to tell me if he wants anything to change with our sex life apparently. Just the kind of person he is I guess.

Devil's Advocate Beverly Hills, California 18191 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting !Randa Roo!:" I have. I've honestly talked about it til I'm blue in the face. He says he's satisfied and loves the ... [snip!] ... he's not going to tell me if he wants anything to change with our sex life apparently. Just the kind of person he is I guess."


Sounds like he's satisfied. Maybe it's you who isn't.

!Randa Roo! 6 kids; Knoxville, Tennessee 75 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Devil's Advocate:" Sounds like he's satisfied. Maybe it's you who isn't."


But I am. I love our sex life. My husband is just kind of like....reserved I guess when it comes to sex and talking about it. He'll try new things but he's not big on verbalising what he wants you know?

Devil's Advocate Beverly Hills, California 18191 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting !Randa Roo!:" But I am. I love our sex life. My husband is just kind of like....reserved I guess when it comes to ... [snip!] ... guess when it comes to sex and talking about it. He'll try new things but he's not big on verbalising what he wants you know? "

I guess I just don't see the issue. So he's reserved?



He says he's satisfied. What more do you want?

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119245 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting !Randa Roo!:" I have. I've honestly talked about it til I'm blue in the face. He says he's satisfied and loves the ... [snip!] ... he's not going to tell me if he wants anything to change with our sex life apparently. Just the kind of person he is I guess."


Why dont you trust him enough to know hes telling you the truth? I mean if you keep pushing it that would piss me off.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
21st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil's Advocate:</b>" I guess I just don't see the issue. So he's reserved? He says he's satisfied. What more do you want?"</blockquote>




Yeah, I'm not getting it either? He says he's satisfied, why can't you just believe him?

!Randa Roo! 6 kids; Knoxville, Tennessee 75 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Why dont you trust him enough to know hes telling you the truth? I mean if you keep pushing it that would piss me off."


I do trust him. He will say he's satisfied, but then months later throw this and that up in my face cause I didn't do it. He used to get pissed cause I wouldn't let him eat me out. Why? Because he told me that was his and Amanda's "thing". So everytime he done it, I just couldn't get it out of my head. Caused us problems for months. Fixed the problem, but now there is another and I can't freaking pin point it. It's driving me nuts.

Devil's Advocate Beverly Hills, California 18191 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting !Randa Roo!:" I do trust him. He will say he's satisfied, but then months later throw this and that up in my face ... [snip!] ... us problems for months. Fixed the problem, but now there is another and I can't freaking pin point it. It's driving me nuts."

Ok well see, that is all information you should have made clear :idea:

!Randa Roo! 6 kids; Knoxville, Tennessee 75 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Devil's Advocate:" Ok well see, that is all information you should have made clear :idea:"


probably should have. lol sorry

Devil's Advocate Beverly Hills, California 18191 posts
21st Jan '13

All I can say is either everything really IS fine or he's holding back on something. Either way, pressing him won't help. He'll tell you when he's ready. Maybe try something outside of the bedroom. Do a date night over dinner and open up to him about things. Men will usually warm up and be more open when you do it first. Even when you've been together forever. They always want to feel security when they open up like that.



Man pride.