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ttc & thinkin givin up... wntn2bmommy TTC since Oct 2011; 1 child; Dayton, Texas 4 posts
21st Jan '13

So me and dh have been ttc for a year and we have had a couple of maybe moments but they all ended with BFN idk what to do anymore I'm tired of getting bfns i want my bfp :( I'm just wanting to give up because its starting to hurt to see all of my friends getting pregnant and having babies... help what other ways can i use to get pregnant and how do i go about not giving up because i really don't want to????

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jan '13

Sometimes giving up helps. It's less stressful and makes it easier.



But if its been longer than a year, you should see your dr about why it could be taking so long.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15356 posts
status 21st Jan '13

If it's been a year and nothing it's time to see a fertility specialist.

wntn2bmommy TTC since Oct 2011; 1 child; Dayton, Texas 4 posts
21st Jan '13

Well that is everyone keeps telling me about the giving up part and i know i was thinking about setting up an apt sometime this month its just really depressing to keep getting bfns

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15356 posts
status 21st Jan '13
Quoting wntn2bmommy:" Well that is everyone keeps telling me about the giving up part and i know i was thinking about setting up an apt sometime this month its just really depressing to keep getting bfns"


It doesn't hurt to get some tests run. It could be something really simple and easy to treat.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4950 posts
21st Jan '13

Honestly the extra stress from not conceiving is harder on your body. I would just take a month off and relax.



Are you sure you're ovulating? I would seriously say it is time to contact a fertility specialist to make sure you're ovulating and if you are make sure your SO's swimmers are up to the job.

Callie L. Due May 18 (girl); 49 kids; Ohio 334 posts
21st Jan '13

We ttc for two years, after the 2nd we had some tests done and I got put on Chlomid (sp). Both times I ended up pregnant, but both times they ended in a miscarriage. We got pregnant one more time on our own and once again lost it. We were D.O.N.E. neither of us could handle going through that one more time, we gave up, the next month I found out i was pregnant again and we had learned our lesson not to get too excited, but I am happy to say I am now 23 weeks pregnant and everything is going good so far. Sometimes, NOT trying, is the best fertility drug out there!

wntn2bmommy TTC since Oct 2011; 1 child; Dayton, Texas 4 posts
21st Jan '13

I think I know what it is... my af isnt regular and its hard to know when I'm ovulating

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1804 posts
21st Jan '13

When my sister and bil were ttc they "gave up" after almost a year and then ended up pregnant within 2 months

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting wntn2bmommy:" I think I know what it is... my af isnt regular and its hard to know when I'm ovulating"


are you tracking your ovulation with tests?

wntn2bmommy TTC since Oct 2011; 1 child; Dayton, Texas 4 posts
21st Jan '13

No not yet im still trying to figure those out lol and i want to try not to try but idk how its just we have been trying so long its just a regular part in our sex life

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting wntn2bmommy:" I think I know what it is... my af isnt regular and its hard to know when I'm ovulating"




you should learn to track your cycle with BBT and cervical position and learning your body..

my cycles are off becuase of BFing ( when not pregnant ) and I can always tell when im ovulating based on EWCM and mittleschmerz and stuff...

Abigail's Mommy 6/21 Due February 21; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Levittown, Pennsylvania 1450 posts
21st Jan '13

My husband and I tried for 3 years and nothing. We finally caved and made an appointment with a fertility dr for Nov and got a positive in Oct. Keep you're head up sweetie it will happen.

Live-Laugh-Love 3 kids; Kitchener, ON, Canada 8001 posts
status 21st Jan '13

Royal jelly. It is a natural fertility booster among many other things. Its amazing.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
21st Jan '13

It took us over a year to get pregnant with my oldest but it happened when I stopped stressing about it.



Easier said than done, right? I'd call up and talk to your ob-gyn. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. If you're beyond a year, it might be time to start looking into the whys of why you're not getting pregnant.