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From Vanilla to Kink (WARNING: TMI) .:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
21st Jan '13

So, my husband and I have been pretty "Vanilla" in the sex department since we met. So imagine my surprise the other night when suddenly my husband tied me to the bed and started oral, and all sorts of other things, then again last night he did anal.



Should I be concerned that this kinkiness is coming out of nowhere? I mean don't get me wrong...I think it's hot, but I just don't know where he's suddenly coming from with all of it. We haven't really ever talked about doing other things in bed, and I've never really expressed my feelings on anal or otherwise.



Just a little concerned that out of nowhere he's trying all this stuff. Am I being stupid for being concerned?

MILF !! 2 kids; Connecticut 3946 posts
21st Jan '13

You can playfully ask him where his new ideas have come from and that you like them....



and i hope he asked you to do anal before he just went for it lol

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
21st Jan '13

Maybe he's bored and just trying to spice things up or he's been holding back all this time. Or he's cheating... I don't know, hard to say.

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
21st Jan '13

As long as your comfortable with it I wouldn't be concerned
I'd talk to him about it,ask what he likes and discuss his and your kinks.
He may have been nervous about doing more kinky things with you before

✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 24746 posts
21st Jan '13

after being together about 6-7 years my SO became a freak in bed. lol i was worried at first...but then i realized he'd been watching some interesting porn, and getting ideas from there.



and SO didn't just become a freak over night...i think it was always there he was jsut worried it would be too much for me. lol

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Jan '13

He was probably a kinkster all along but too uncomfortable to say anything. I wouldn't be worried

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting MILF !!:" You can playfully ask him where his new ideas have come from and that you like them.... and i hope he asked you to do anal before he just went for it lol"


No, but I mean...it was obvious what he was up to. He was hovering around my ass for an hour pretty much...then I felt a ton of lube and he was super gentle so no complaints on my part. All in all he was really gentle. I just felt I was in 50 shade of grey and was a little shocked...lol

i love my son so much 1 child; Massachusetts 2315 posts
21st Jan '13

my SO gets ideas from porn though I hate the fact that he watches it his new moves are always great lol that might be where he gets it from lol

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" after being together about 6-7 years my SO became a freak in bed. lol i was worried at first...but then ... [snip!] ... and SO didn't just become a freak over night...i think it was always there he was jsut worried it would be too much for me. lol"


I know he said the other night he's been reading a new book, maybe "50 shades"? lol...idk...I know he's been way more attracted to me recently because I've lost a lot of weight and I've been doing my makeup and working out...so maybe that has something to do with it....lol...I have to admit I think it's way hot...I feel like he's more into me.

✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 24746 posts
21st Jan '13

oops double post!

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" oops double post!"


double post?

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
21st Jan '13

maybe because of your weightloss and feeling better about yourself he's feeling that and finding it very attractive and acting on it. I wouldn't be concerned unless it gets like.. really weird haha



but for now.. good for him! enjoy it lol

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Dallas ♥ Isla:" maybe because of your weightloss and feeling better about yourself he's feeling that and finding it very ... [snip!] ... and acting on it. I wouldn't be concerned unless it gets like.. really weird haha but for now.. good for him! enjoy it lol"


Yeah, if he starts asking me to wear all leather and call him "Daddy" we'll have issues. hahahaha...

✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 24746 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:" double post?"

lol yeah. i thought my internet cut out and didn't send it the first time. i minimized my chrome, and put my computer to sleep. come back an hour later or so and i tried to resend the same thing thinking it didn't send before.