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EasyComeEasyGo Due October 27 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Maryland 8030 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Frenchie:" I think I just ate about 500 grams of Genoa salami with with medium cheese and mustard... and this is ... [snip!] ... and this is day 3 (I'm doing the head bow in shame.....) OMG it was soooooooo yummy though..... (as I bow my head again)"


I have been seriously craving some bologna haha!

mommy to C, B and F 19 kids; 1 angel baby; Escondido, California 1175 posts
30th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting EasyComeEasyGo:</b>" :( I'm sorry. I can't even imagine how you must feel. I would be doing everything in my power to leave as soon as possible."</blockquote>




I have no support or id already be gone so im stuck between a rock and a hard place I havent worked since 2008 no family anywhere near me evem if I did we dont get along so im up shit creek all because he cares more about his dick than us

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" Well yesterday I was on dh computer and I found out hes been cheating on me again and idk what to do ... [snip!] ... a few girls then theres all the porn and lying to me and this has been going on for months this time around and idk what to do"

ugh! this really sucks... =/ what a a**hole.
weather he is just looking at pics/texting and stuff it is still CHEATING! that is just plain scum!



have you ever left him for it? if not maybe he just thinks now he can get away with it because you'll stay... i would ask to speak to all these women...numbers and all and have him call them in front of you and tell them he's married and was being a scumbag husband and that you want to clarify things... at least that's what i would demand, and if he said no i would tell him to leave!!! you don't leave...he leaves, and still pays the rent... he just screwed himself!

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Frenchie:" I think I just ate about 500 grams of Genoa salami with with medium cheese and mustard... and this is ... [snip!] ... and this is day 3 (I'm doing the head bow in shame.....) OMG it was soooooooo yummy though..... (as I bow my head again)"


lol ! it's not the worst thing you can eat! so don't worry! =] protein at least!

Frenchie ; 3 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2847 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Frenchie:</b>" And this is not the first time?"</blockquote> Nope hes done it off and on our entire marriage which will be 6 years in oct"


A man like that has no respect for anyone but himself.



I'm sorry you are going through this but I really don't think you should stay. Even if you haven't worked you've been tending to your family and he will still have to provide for that. I think it may be time to kick him out.....



Again I am sorry you are going through this but I think its time to put an end to him not giving you the love and respect your deserve...



and by you staying there or letting him stay there, you are only allowing yourself to be treated a certain way. You deserve better...

mommy to C, B and F 19 kids; 1 angel baby; Escondido, California 1175 posts
30th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting #3dueOct*17weeks*:</b>" ugh! this really sucks... =/ what a a**hole. weather he is just looking at pics/texting and stuff it ... [snip!] ... and if he said no i would tell him to leave!!! you don't leave...he leaves, and still pays the rent... he just screwed himself!"</blockquote>




He already knows I dont want him around and hes sayin after he gave his number they came back as spam which is total bullshit and ice kicked him out before but its so hard cause im already pregnant or with a newborn when I catch him

Frenchie ; 3 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2847 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting #3dueOct*17weeks*:" lol ! it's not the worst thing you can eat! so don't worry! =] protein at least!"


As long as I don't get any food poisoning or listeria.......



Especially considering I ate a week's worth of meat in an hour! lol



Frenchie ; 3 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2847 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting #3dueOct*17weeks*:</b>" ugh! this really sucks... =/ what a ... [snip!] ... is total bullshit and ice kicked him out before but its so hard cause im already pregnant or with a newborn when I catch him"


My suggestion is not getting pregnant again... He doesn't seem the list bit remorsed about it...



Kick him out for good. Let one of his texting buddy give him shelter...



and make sure he pays!!! Start making calls!

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting #3dueOct*17weeks*:</b>" ugh! this really sucks... =/ what a ... [snip!] ... is total bullshit and ice kicked him out before but its so hard cause im already pregnant or with a newborn when I catch him"

here's what i would do in your situation. tell him he pays the rent period. he needs to leave and stay with someone else (family if he is smart) and tell him he needs to tell his family the truth of what he has done... go to the welfare office if he is not willing to give you more money for food and such..they will provide you with money for food ( in your situation probably around $550 a month) and they will also give you money for other stuff( $400 a month) (until child support is completely set up) ... reality is with three kids he will have to pay you around $1200 a month(if he makes decent money) in just child support, not even including spousal support which you get for almost 3 years (1/2 your marriage- it would be another few hundred )...you would also be able to take 1/2 his 401k or any other retirement plan... do what you have to do to get back on your feet... like i said women don't have to put up with this, men need to know your smart and won't put up with this crap...the only way he has gotten away with it this long is because you haven't learned that you can care for you and the kids by yourself. & he may change his ways once he realizes you are strong enough to leave him & that he would be screwed... marriage is a commitment and he is not keeping his vows...

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Frenchie:" As long as I don't get any food poisoning or listeria....... Especially considering I ate a week's worth of meat in an hour! lol "


i dont worry about that too much, it doesn't seem very common... just enjoy =]

Brite-*37weeks* 1 child; Tampa, Florida 170 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Frenchie:" I think I just ate about 500 grams of Genoa salami with with medium cheese and mustard... and this is ... [snip!] ... and this is day 3 (I'm doing the head bow in shame.....) OMG it was soooooooo yummy though..... (as I bow my head again)"

Make sure to heat up your lunch meat, if you can!

Brite-*37weeks* 1 child; Tampa, Florida 170 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Lil Pumpkin in the Oven!:" Well yesterday I was on dh computer and I found out hes been cheating on me again and idk what to do ... [snip!] ... a few girls then theres all the porn and lying to me and this has been going on for months this time around and idk what to do"


I am sorry to hear, that is terrible. If I were you I would start trying to make secret arrangements to leave him.....unless you think this time of behavior is going to stop..

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting #3dueOct*17weeks*:" here's what i would do in your situation. tell him he pays the rent period. he needs to leave and stay ... [snip!] ... you are strong enough to leave him & that he would be screwed... marriage is a commitment and he is not keeping his vows..."


make him sign a separation agreement at a notary place, it should cover the basics such as how much he is paying and what days he can see his kids( there is samples of it online).....

Frenchie ; 3 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2847 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Frenchie:" My suggestion is not getting pregnant again... He doesn't seem the list bit remorsed about it... Kick ... [snip!] ... it... Kick him out for good. Let one of his texting buddy give him shelter... and make sure he pays!!! Start making calls!"


and I'm not trying to be rude but having a baby is a long term commitment and is not something to be taken lightly especially when your marriage is not strong.



My husband and I went through a very rough year where I was ready to leave. If it wasn't for him taking over and demanding counselling we wouldn't be here today... We've both made gigantic steps to make changes in our marriage and we have never been happier together. Times are not always perfect but we appreciate how far we've come and how great things are now compared to where they were. My husband has grown up so much and I can actually say that I am truly blessed to have him as my "partner". one year ago I never thought I would have my 3rd baby... Even though I really wanted another child I thought it was not meant to be for us since things were on really shaky ground! and it wasn't happening until EVERYTHING changed... and I made sure it wasn't a "temporary" change..



and in this scenario there was no cheating.... just a very broken relationship and two lost people....

Frenchie ; 3 kids; Ottawa, Ontario 2847 posts
30th Apr '13
Quoting Brite-*16weeks*:" I am sorry to hear, that is terrible. If I were you I would start trying to make secret arrangements to leave him.....unless you think this time of behavior is going to stop.."


to tell you the truth if he's been doing this their entire marriage I don't think he's ever going to change...



I know... sad...