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MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting loser mom:" ehh... I wouldn't tell either spouse unless he brings it up again. Shitty situation for his wife though. :("


i agree with this because if i knew my husband was going to beat the shit out of him and possibly get arrested, i wouldn't want to do it just for the first "offense". it could just have been something he said to try to gauge whether she'd really be interested. not that that's cool or anything, but... i'd only start telling my husband/SO if it happened again because i'd feel that showed more seriousness on his part. kwim?

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
21st Jan '13

YUP I would tell his wife in a HEARTBEAT she needs to know the shit he is up to. Then I would probably tell my husband because I don't think I could keep that from him lol

Reise's Mommy 2 kids; Kentucky 1722 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting MommaNoodle:" say no and ignore him. if he tries to do it again, tell your husband. "


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ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
21st Jan '13

I'd tell your husband and his wife. This way he can't turn it back around on you. Not to mention that even if you say no and tell him to leave you alone, he could do this with someone else and still ruin his family that he has. And who's to say he hasn't done this before either?

BeginTheRomance Due July 21 (girl); 1 child; Rochester, New York 373 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" I'd tell your husband and his wife. This way he can't turn it back around on you. Not to mention that ... [snip!] ... he could do this with someone else and still ruin his family that he has. And who's to say he hasn't done this before either? "


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Agreed.

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
21st Jan '13

I would be a little nervous to encounter him if I were alone.
I'd tell my DH, and decide whether or not to tell that guys wife/girlfriend.
ETA- I don't care to ruin relationships that I'm not involved in, so I wouldn't run to the neighbors house in a heartbeat to tell his chick.




But then again... we talk about everything. So I wouldn't mind letting him know what that creeper was up to.

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 10431 posts
status 21st Jan '13

I'd tell your husband and his wife, if I were you. And stop talking to him, bc there's something wrong with that... but that's just me!

Shawndra Dias 3 kids; Morongo Valley, California 17 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" if your DH is like that, i wouldnt say anything. just forget about it"


I agree....Dnt do anything...just leave it alone..

Now if this guy starts it up again then tell ur Husband asap...

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
21st Jan '13

Tell your hubby. Just refrain him as best as you can from him going over there. Do you have a friend or family member he will listen to? If so have them there when you tell him so they can make him stay in the house.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
21st Jan '13

Just say your sorry that you don't have the same feelings. I know you are shocked but a lot of people have affairs and a lot of people are not "happily married".



So you can tell you husband if you want or not. If it was me I would probably keep my husband out of it. Unless you feel this guys will not listen to you or will hurt you or something. Other wise just tell him your not in the same boat but hope you can all remain neighborly

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" Tell your hubby. Just refrain him as best as you can from him going over there. Do you have a friend ... [snip!] ... a friend or family member he will listen to? If so have them there when you tell him so they can make him stay in the house."

I just had a procedure done Friday, there's no way I can hold him back. DH is over 6 foot tall and around 230 lbs and right now I'm struggling to lift a basket of laundry.
Fuuuuuck....Why me? His wife is gorgeous. Tall, skinny, beautiful red hair. I don't get it. She's got an awesome personality to top it off.
Wtf...Holy shit I still cannot believe that just seriously f**king happened. Jesus.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
21st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I know DH would flip shit, and there's a huge possibility that he'd attempt to beat my neighbor, and ... [snip!] ... in a lot of ways. But if I don't tell DH and he finds out, he's going to think I was hiding it from him for some other reason."</blockquote>



Just say it calmly and try to keep his temper down. Don't be like all dramatic. Just calm and slow. But yes of u don't tell him he may consider it a lie and think u didn't tell him cause you cheated or something. That can ruin your relationship.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
21st Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I just had a procedure done Friday, there's no way I can hold him back. DH is over 6 foot tall and around ... [snip!] ... got an awesome personality to top it off. Wtf...Holy shit I still cannot believe that just seriously f**king happened. Jesus."</blockquote>




Do you have a friend or family member that he will listen to? If so like I previously posted have the, come over so they can tell him to keep his butt in the house when you tell him.



As for the why me, obviously the man finds you attractive in some way(I don't know what you look like) it could be your looks, your personality or simply that you are a great wife/mother.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting applelove:" Just say your sorry that you don't have the same feelings. I know you are shocked but a lot of people ... [snip!] ... you or will hurt you or something. Other wise just tell him your not in the same boat but hope you can all remain neighborly "

Oh no, I don't believe he would ever come to my house unless prior invited and I really don't think he would ever hurt me. Up until now I thought he was just a good ol' redneck boy. I mean, him and DH were close for a while there, but they haven't spoken recently because they just had the baby and bought a new trailer to go down on their land so were preoccupied with that and shit.
I don't even know...Like, he was talking about me keeping DH's cell phone (I turned mine off, I hate cell phones) and texting him and shit. Like, fuckin no. Wtf. Do I put off a skank vibe or something? Holy shit. I mean seriously, I've never cheated on my husband despite his own infidelities in the past (DH has cheated on me, but we've been to counseling and a ton of shit). I don't want to cheat on DH, I hate cheaters, that's stupid. I can't even think straight right now.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Jan '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I just had a procedure done Friday, there's ... [snip!] ... some way(I don't know what you look like) it could be your looks, your personality or simply that you are a great wife/mother."

Must be my personality. That man has seen me without make up, hair a mess, frazzled nerves and in pajamas (Me and DH had to run by one night to pick something up and I felt like shit so I wore my PJs, baggy t-shirt and stretchy pants).
That's the other shitty part. The closest relatives I have that would be capable of holding him is my parents, who are the house between me and this particular neighbor...But if my dad finds out about this shit? LOL. Oh my f**king god...DH doesn't have guns, my dad does. My dad is borderline psychotic when it comes to me and LO. Oh f**k he can never find out. My grandpa is up the street but he's also a gun toting crazy who'd kill over his grand daughter/great grand son.
I seriously can't tell anyone, holy f**king shit. This dude is dead if anyone in this community finds out.