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New guy. My Girls♥ 2 kids; Virginia 660 posts
22nd Jan '13

So I recently started talking to a new guy. He makes it very clear that we are just talking and not together. We act as if we were together in every aspect of a relationship but he won't say we are together. He told his mother about me and wants me to go meet his family. Now if we aren't in a relationship then why would I do that? I don't know, maybe I am overreacting. I just think that it is weird that he acts like we are together but won't say we are. Is this a red flag or just him taking it slow?

Chellie Due September 19; 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4164 posts
22nd Jan '13

Depends on the guy. Does he have a shady history that you know of? It may be a red flag that he is seeing other women and doesn't want to be completely devoted to you until he can figure out what he wants. OTOH since he wants you to meet his family he may want their approval before making it official with you.



If nothing else ask why he wants you to meet his family if you aren't in a relationship:)

My Girls♥ 2 kids; Virginia 660 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Love = Moco and Bubba:" Depends on the guy. Does he have a shady history that you know of? It may be a red flag that he is seeing ... [snip!] ... before making it official with you. If nothing else ask why he wants you to meet his family if you aren't in a relationship:)"


Not that I know of and that is what I was thinking. He may be talking to someone else and if that is the case thats fine, but don't lead me on you know? That would be a good question to ask though.

Nichole+3girls 3 kids; Dayton, Ohio 31307 posts
22nd Jan '13

yeah, i would be asking why he wants you to meet his family if you're not in a relationship too.



I mean, maybe he's talking to other women also and doesnt want to define it as a relationship because he doesnt want to look at it as cheating? idk. thats weird.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
22nd Jan '13

I'd wonder why he wanted to act like you were in a relationship but not have the title, i'd worry about him talking to someone else or actually being in a relationship.

My Girls♥ 2 kids; Virginia 660 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Nichole+3girls:" yeah, i would be asking why he wants you to meet his family if you're not in a relationship too. I mean, ... [snip!] ... women also and doesnt want to define it as a relationship because he doesnt want to look at it as cheating? idk. thats weird."


That is exactly what I was thinking. Just making sure I'm not crazy.

My Girls♥ 2 kids; Virginia 660 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" I'd wonder why he wanted to act like you were in a relationship but not have the title, i'd worry about him talking to someone else or actually being in a relationship. "


Very true. Thank you.