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mommy@4 36 kids; Georgia 472 posts
22nd Jan '13

No, you are not over reacting!!! I would go to the school and talk with the someone else and demand that you want to talk to his parents in person.

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
22nd Jan '13

Go in & talk with the principal. That isn't okay in any way. I make sure my son knows he is t even allowed to hug his friends. At preschool it was allowed, in K I am trying to instill you can't touch anyone in any way.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" It is another boy her age, and honestly I'm just really confused at the moment because my daughter comes ... [snip!] ... keep in mind this is another little boy too... I just don't feel like at 5 years there should be anything like that going on."


Regardless, that little boy needs to know that touching other people without permission isn't okay.

Binky ♡ 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6236 posts
22nd Jan '13

I would definitely be talking to someone higher up, like the principle. The teacher sounds like she doesnt want to get into it, boys will be boys my ass.

Ryleigh's Mama ♥ 17 kids; West Virginia 10703 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" I feel awkward and uncomfortable even WRITING this out buttttt, I really need some advice. BADLY. My ... [snip!] ... What would you do???? I need to know what the f**k to think because I haven't been able to calm down since I found out."


Totally not overreacting. The boys parents need to be notified & the boy needs to be taught that is unacceptable. I'm so sorry mama.

♥Carly♥ 2 kids; California 5923 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" It is another boy her age, and honestly I'm just really confused at the moment because my daughter comes ... [snip!] ... keep in mind this is another little boy too... I just don't feel like at 5 years there should be anything like that going on."


hey.. I had something sililar happen- if you want to chat, go on FB. and I'll tell you what I did, and what happened. We were not at school though.

£exaholic 2 kids; Colorado 20867 posts
22nd Jan '13

Boys will be boys? What the actual f**k? I'm beyond insulted that someone would make a comment like that, as the mother of a little boy. I would f**king FLIP.

lovemyboyfriend 16 kids; Texas 32385 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" No, you arent blowing it out of proportion. Boys will not be boys. Thats the sickest f**king thing I've ... [snip!] ... thing I've ever heard. I would take it to the principle, school board...I wouldnt stop until I had answers and a solution."


RIGHT>?!! OK, at the very least I'm feeling a bit better that these feelings I have aren't unjustified... the ex is trying to convince me otherwise, and it's definitely making it worse...



I'm going in tomorrow, I am NOT even bothering with the teacher, I'm going straight to the principal...



I just can't stand this f**king shit, I'm beyond stressed out.. and then this? I feel like my daughter doesn't need some traumatizing event in her life..

JessicaMatlock:) Due May 7 (boy); 1 child; Modesto, California 1337 posts
22nd Jan '13

with social media and everything its not unheard of even in kids that young.. i reemeber playing show me your and ill show you mine at 5 and 6.. just tell her its not okay to be touched there and go tommorrow to talk to the principle to see if they can maybe set up a time after or before class for you the other parent (one is suppose ot drop them off i think ) the teacher and the principle to come up with a plan of action..

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" I feel awkward and uncomfortable even WRITING this out buttttt, I really need some advice. BADLY. My ... [snip!] ... What would you do???? I need to know what the f**k to think because I haven't been able to calm down since I found out."


I get the freak out part on your half but be calm momma thats why they wont take you seriously
as for the school how she worded that was a big no no and should be brought up to an administrator cause its still sexual harassment and at any age needs to handled seriously ...went thru this myself in fourth grade with a six grader talk about embarrassing but still it needs to be handled and not just put off as kids playing cause kids playing even when they want to just explore can accidentally get someone hurt or in your daughters case confused and she doesent need that right now and you have already stated its affecting her so ask for a conference with administrator then with them and teacher and how they want to handle the kids with you and the other parents who may not know about this and want to handle it differently or not have had that talk yet
your feelings are justified just be careful with how you show them

£exaholic 2 kids; Colorado 20867 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" RIGHT>?!! OK, at the very least I'm feeling a bit better that these feelings I have aren't unjustified... ... [snip!] ... shit, I'm beyond stressed out.. and then this? I feel like my daughter doesn't need some traumatizing event in her life.."



f**k your ex. Seriously.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" It is another boy her age, and honestly I'm just really confused at the moment because my daughter comes ... [snip!] ... keep in mind this is another little boy too... I just don't feel like at 5 years there should be anything like that going on."


At 5, yeah, they do "explore" so I wouldn't assume right away that the kid was hurting her, you know? It needs to be dealt with and handled so it doesn't happen again, and the boys parents should be spoken to in case there is anything going on at home with him (just in case), but I wouldn't leap to the conclusion that she was being "abused" by the boy either. You know? 5 year olds will explore. . . It should be dealt with, and boys will be boys is not the way to handle it at all.



However, I also think too strong a reaction isn't good, because it makes your daughter seem like she did something wrong. I'd let her actions lead what you do. If she doesn't seem upset, then I'd not make it into a huge thing with her, you know? If she's upset, ask her why, and talk about it. Just try not to react even when you want to, follow HER lead or you can make her end up feeling like she's at fault and like those areas on ehr are bad.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
22nd Jan '13

Children will be curious about the differences between their bodies. It's normal for them at that age to want to explore. That doesn't mean it's acceptable and I'd be pretty unhappy with the obvious lack of supervision going on and the teacher's reaction... But you can't vilify this kid. He's little too.



I would take it over the teacher to the principle, and request an appointment with the school counselor, both for your daughter and for a meeting between you and the boy's parents.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
22nd Jan '13

when my daughter told me that a little boy touched her buttcrack when she was sitting in front of him for story time or whatever, i immediately e-mailed the teacher to give her a head's up that i wanted to talk to her in person further when i picked her up the next day. she was completely cool with that, and she also told me that she had the guidance counselor come in and speak with both of the kids separately, and that the other kid's parents would be informed as well. i work for the district so i know how it works. this is pretty much what they will do. doubt they can or will tell you anything about what they do to the other kid or whatever because legally, they can't really do that. they probably won't have you meeting with his parents or anything. but, they can tell you that the issue will be looked into and resolved in whatever way. my daughter's teacher told me she separated them for that time of the day, that he no longer sat behind her to do it to her again, and that she would keep an eye on things better regarding him and my daughter.



i was okay with that.



but.... i would not just take the "boys will be boys" thing as an excuse. because how does "boys will be boys" excuse him f*******g her crotch? am i wrong?... i would go to the principal if the teacher was not looking like he/she was taking care of it.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112676 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" Children will be curious about the differences between their bodies. It's normal for them at that age ... [snip!] ... request an appointment with the school counselor, both for your daughter and for a meeting between you and the boy's parents."


Agreed.