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how would you view it? THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13

say you wanted to have at least 2 if not more (i want 4, DH says 2) children. after having one, you found out that you may/will not be able to have anymore. idk the prospect of it i find a bit devastating...

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
22nd Jan '13

Wouldn't have bothered me a bit. I never meant to have biological children, and I'm about 90% sure this is my last. I want to adopt.

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
22nd Jan '13

I'd definitely be thankful I had the one, considering some moms never get to experience that at all. There's always adoption, and I'd totally be for it if I couldn't make my own babies.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting melindapple:" I'd definitely be thankful I had the one, considering some moms never get to experience that at all. There's always adoption, and I'd totally be for it if I couldn't make my own babies."

i'm all for it, but it's so hard with all the red tape. i'm thankful but always wanted a big family. live was a bit miserable with just me and my brother.

Narcissus 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10500 posts
22nd Jan '13

I'd be devastated but at the same token I know I'm lucky enough to have just one of my own.



We have already discussed adoption and would like to adopt at least one child.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
22nd Jan '13

It was devistating for me.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Narcissus
Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting LilyRain12:" say you wanted to have at least 2 if not more (i want 4, DH says 2) children. after having one, you found ... [snip!] ... having one, you found out that you may/will not be able to have anymore. idk the prospect of it i find a bit devastating..."


I wasn't supposed to be able to have any. I got lucky. My first viable pregnancy gave me twins. We thought that was going to be it and I was thrilled. Granted that was two babies and I always wanted 4 but, 2 was better than none especially given my history. We were suprised with another pregnancy that gave us a son. Again, thrilled. We thought, "hey, maybe these dr's didn't really know what they were talking about". Well, they did. Turns out, getting pregnant with the twins was too much for me and while pregnant with my son I ended up transfusion dependant. Now, here I am blessed beyond belief with three beautiful children but, I just had a partial hysterectomy (my health is not good so to speak and this is one step in a direction of healthy if you will). There is never another chance for me to have another child. Biologically that is. To me, a child is born of love. It doesn't matter how that child lands in your arms as long as it comes with the idea of love. Yes, we were in the process of adoption applications when I turned up pregnant with my girls. I will consider the process again when my health returns.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" It was devistating for me."

i'm so sorry momma!:cry:

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
22nd Jan '13

I'd be devastated but also thankful i at least got my 1.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Not tellin:" I wasn't supposed to be able to have any. I got lucky. My first viable pregnancy gave me twins. We ... [snip!] ... applications when I turned up pregnant with my girls. I will consider the process again when my health returns. "

wow, that's amazing. i hope everything works out. good luck!

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Jan '13

I'd be devastated but I'd also know there are options out there for me to add to my family.



Losing your fertility, especially as a woman, is a bad blow though.

Narcissus 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Marysville, WA, United States 10500 posts
22nd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LilyRain12:</b>" i really hope this doesn't sound selfish or ungrateful. if this were to happen (there's a chance of it for me), i'd cherish DD, i already do. it's just i know i'd be crushed..."</blockquote>




It doesnt sound selfish.




Sounds like a normal reaction..

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting LilyRain12:" wow, that's amazing. i hope everything works out. good luck!"


It is working out perfectly. My worst day is better than someone else's best day and I have blessings I didn't think I would ever have. At the end of the day, we can either be thankful for what we do have or overlook them in search of what we don't. It is up to us on how we live our life.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20827 posts
22nd Jan '13
Quoting Saffy Sly:" I'd be devastated but I'd also know there are options out there for me to add to my family. Losing your fertility, especially as a woman, is a bad blow though."

i guess that's what i mean by devastation.