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LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16301 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" yeah im sure we could do counesling if we got the time.. but he works all week out of town i work all weekend.. we hardly see each other for more than 20 mins at a time lately."

You have to do something before your relationship hits an even lower low. I wish you all the best and I hope that nothing I've said was hurtful or offensive to you. I just really believe in women knowing their worth. We're worth loving and being respected and we should only be in relationships with men that know and acknowledge this.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting BeginTheRomance:" Eh, I understand working out problems, but I was once in your shoes and caught my ex messaging other ... [snip!] ... to go behind my back and talk to other women. I don't think some people ever change. Good luck, though. You're beautiful! :)"


thanks he deleted his FB right away, well deactivated it... and doesnt have an iphone anymore either , just a flip phone with text and messaging and technically its my phone he uses.. so i get all the information. im not worried he is still doing it. and i am also not worried about him cheating while working out of town since he bunks with my uncle and works for him.
but I still get hurt thinking about it. and it was only that message with a girl that was innaporpiate, the rest were old friends catching up.. the idiot tried to delete them but archived it instead..

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Daenerys

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Daenerys
LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16301 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" There isnt much we can do at the moment.. if he wants a job he has to go out of town. he said it should ... [snip!] ... i mean we get along and stuff but we are more friends i feel like than "lovers" . we help each other out but lost the flame..."


I hope you are able to get that flame going again in your relationship. I wish you the best and hope you guys can resolve your issues. <3

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Daenerys
LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16301 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" Thanks, i think im just dwelling on stupid stuff and will get over it."

Don't minimize your feelings. Allow yourself time to be hurt but if you're trying to forgive him for the past, you have to learn to let go of the pain. It's hard but I believe it's totally possible.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" Thanks, i think im just dwelling on stupid stuff and will get over it."</blockquote>



I think you're convincing yourself that it's stupid when it's not, though. But that's just me.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mayhem.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" Thanks, i think im just dwelling on stupid ... [snip!] ... over it."</blockquote> I think you're convincing yourself that it's stupid when it's not, though. But that's just me."</blockquote>




Idk.....i feel hurt still, i feel like it hasnt gotten any better or will.. But then i think im making it seem worse than it is? Idk....eventually i know if its gone too far too fix, at least i hope.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16301 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mayhem.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" ... [snip!] ... But then i think im making it seem worse than it is? Idk....eventually i know if its gone too far too fix, at least i hope."

Only you know what's going on in your relationship as well as how much you're willing to tolerate before you break. Leaving things as they are, will not fix anything. You should really try to make some time to talk to your SO face to face about how you're feeling. There needs to be some sort of resolution and you won't be able to find it without him. You aren't in that relationship alone and if it's worth anything to him, he should try hard to make sure you guys can get over the issues you have.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Daenerys

Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, California 34988 posts
23rd Jan '13

I know exactly what you're going through and remember reading your posts from when he cheated. I'm so sorry, I know it hurts. :( 2011 was hell for my marriage. I fucked up first & after that he took it as free reign to do whatever he wanted for over a year, and guilty me let him get away with it. It was BAD. I used to get soooo pissed that he never complimented me but could go tell a random girl she was pretty. We separated early 2012 & almost got divorced over it all. I finally had enough, kicked him out & filed.



Our marriage has changed a lot since we decided to get back together last summer though. We didn't go to counseling because we can't afford it so it's been hard, bt we're doing it. We just spend as much time together as we can, we've learned to talk again and are completely transparent with one another. It's helped us rebuild trust. We've also both owned how we each messed up in the past, no blaming each other for our own choices anymore. It's about just moving forward now. Going through all of that sucked, but our marriage is better han ever because of it. I hope the same for you someday OP. <3

zombie. 2 kids; Leadville, Colorado 23606 posts
23rd Jan '13

I didnt get to see the OT but let me tell you, you are way hott! You're gorgeous and beautiful. Your SO - not so much. If anything you're too good for him and you're a baby making goddess. Ignore his learch ass and kick him to the curb.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting zombie.:" I didnt get to see the OT but let me tell you, you are way hott! You're gorgeous and beautiful. Your ... [snip!] ... so much. If anything you're too good for him and you're a baby making goddess. Ignore his learch ass and kick him to the curb. "


thanks girl.. i didnt fall in love with him becuase of his looks, to be honest when i fist saw him in HS he was fat and not attractive at all, but he was so nice to me and I really liked the way i was treated. And thats what attracted me to him. Growing up, I was in trouble for stupid shit all the time, i got grounded for not a couple days at a time, not a couple weeks, but months.. that was my punishment. and He was the only person i was allowed to talk to, or see ( he would come over always with adult supervision lol) and he helped me through alot and helped me when i moved out of my house at 12am on my birthday and i was technically legally able to be on my own.

but all that has been gone for years now. Once i got pregnant with Emmalynn, it all slowly got worse. Im really nervous and scared for this baby to come. its going to be really hard. he called me earlier and i just creid on the phone and pretty much just said i didnt know why i was crying, but i just have days like this, and then he will go and do something that makes me think different ya know.