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user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
23rd Jan '13

if you're back together, and your relationship is stronger than ever, you need to let it go, or else you are going to be the one to ruin things this time around.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11944 posts
status 23rd Jan '13
Quoting Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Yes but still hating and being a little obsessed ... [snip!] ... a good ideal. "</blockquote> Not obsessed. AGAIN......the ONLY time it crosses my mind is if someone brings it up....."


Well then just ignore the comments. It's not healthy to always get mad if her name is brought up.

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" she said in the OP they got divorced. so, really, ... [snip!] ... need an apology from her or to speak your mind to her. It's not like you went after her first and didn't blame DH at all :roll:"</blockquote>




Thank you! I don't think so many females would be saying all this if city was their men lol. Its always different on the outsider looking in.But who knows...

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" if you're back together, and your relationship is stronger than ever, you need to let it go, or else you are going to be the one to ruin things this time around."


:!::!:




Took me a long time to do this but I finally did.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... females would be saying all this if city was their men lol. Its always different on the outsider looking in.But who knows..."

Ehhhh I've been through it and my outlook will never change. Even though my supposed best friend knew we were together it isn't her fault he couldn't say no.

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

Well thank you ladies! That's all I was asking. If anyone's ever been through anything like this. I never have & that's why I was asking if it was normal. I'm a happy person,hubby more than learned his lesson,lol shamed him in court,but I was mad & hurt & I'm thinking better now. Hubby is a computer oops tech at our job & I work the floor in my dept. She worked there when he first started. I kinda think thats why he wanted my to work there when we got back together. Since then hes always calling me,letting me know where he is,he always wants us to do things in our spare time together,he never goes anywhere & not let me know where he is,who he's with (usually no one lol,when he'll be hone,ext. I know he's sincere in his regret,that's why I gave him a second Chance. I'm no fool. We're pretty happy :) it was just last nnight,out of the blue,I heard some folks talking about her & aloit of emotions came up. We work 3rd shift & I'm tired right now so that's probably why I'm not making much sense lol

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Ehhhh I've been through it and my outlook will never change. Even though my supposed best friend knew we were together it isn't her fault he couldn't say no. "</blockquote>




It doesn't give her the right to come onto him though. A real friend would respect your relationship,even if he came onto heart first. Thatsd how's I see it anyway

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Ehhhh I've been through it and my outlook ... [snip!] ... onto him though. A real friend would respect your relationship,even if he came onto heart first. Thatsd how's I see it anyway"


yea I just figure Karma gets everybody in the end. :) Seriously though invest in a punching bag. :) Best thing EVER!!! :)

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" yea I just figure Karma gets everybody in the end. :) Seriously though invest in a punching bag. :) Best thing EVER!!! :) "</blockquote>



I think I may do that. Hell,I had my black belt when I was a teenager. Its just been years since I've done any kinda kicking & punching last l. But it really is breast for stress

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" yea I just figure Karma gets everybody in ... [snip!] ... I was a teenager. Its just been years since I've done any kinda kicking & punching last l. But it really is breast for stress"

Shit yea. :) I wouldn't know where I would be without hitting things! :)

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Shit yea. :) I wouldn't know where I would be without hitting things! :) "</blockquote>



Lol true. You know keeping things bottles up & sweeping them under the rug with no closure is hard! Maybe that's my problem. Everyone just expected me to forget it the hour court was over,I never gave myself mental time to sort it out & deal with it

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Shit yea. :) I wouldn't know where I would ... [snip!] ... Everyone just expected me to forget it the hour court was over,I never gave myself mental time to sort it out & deal with it"


Hold on and I'll message you. lol I can't fully write out everything on here just incase I have a spy on me(likely hood is high)

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Hold on and I'll message you. lol I can't fully write out everything on here just incase I have a spy on me(likely hood is high) "</blockquote>




Sure thing

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1802 posts
23rd Jan '13

I do believe it was both of their faults just because he cheated on you OP and she cheated on her husband, but she also lost her husband and doesn't have a job because of it. Since you are back together with your husband then just focus on your relationship and ignore what people say about it and just leave it alone and move on with your life. People are going to bring it up no matter what and if you let it bother you each time then its going to start effecting your marriage because it brings out anger that you have towards both her and your husband. Her and her kids are suffering because of the situation, why would you want to make it worse by digging into it?

Shasta McNasty a.k.a. Tit 2 kids; Arkansas 767 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" I do believe it was both of their faults just because he cheated on you OP and she cheated on her husband, ... [snip!] ... your husband. Her and her kids are suffering because of the situation, why would you want to make it worse by digging into it?"</blockquote>
I guess BC the "karma" she seems to have got dealt didn't come directly from me. I'm just being honest. That's probably the wring attitude to have toward it I suppose. I was telling someone it seemed like after court I was expected to just "forget it". All of it. I didn't really give my heart & mind time to deals with everything & process emotions & feelings BC I was expected too just sweep it under the mental rug & forget it happened. I never really dealt with it or gave my brain time to put it to rest maybe? I sound bad I guess,my pride hates to admit it really,but that's the reason I threw my thoughts & questions about this out here. To get some in site & honest opinions. I'd like to think im not TOO proud to admit if I'm wrong about feeling this way. Was just looking for some advice,not judgement....& how quick so med folks are to fling it on others. If I don't agree with someone, ok try to have a little tact not to be pompous & "in your face" with brasdh comments. Different strokes I guess...