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Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting norah's.momma✿:</b>" Just give him some time. DH said he didn't want any at all and then agreed to DD, now DD is almost 19 months and he's ready for another one."</blockquote>




:D

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kennedi's Momma:</b>" I don't normally support it But it's selfish for him to spring that on you. I told SO I want one or 2 more. He tried to say he was going to get snipped. Definitely have to compromise."</blockquote>



It would be a deal breaker for me. If I told SO I wanted 4 kids and he wanted 1 and not willing to compromise I would never have the first with him. I'd find someone else who took my feelings seriously

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would be more than furious ... to me that's a break up able offense."</blockquote>




I agree. I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with someone if I didn't think they wanted kids... So to not be straight forward about it is lying about something incredibly important, IMO

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's ... [snip!] ... wears a condom anymore......:]"</blockquote> If he tricked u I see no harm in doing the same. He doesn't have to know"


Two wrongs don't make a right. And most men would HATE any woman who "trapped" them like that, rightfully so, just like she has the right to be upset he tricked her.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Black Dynamite:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama ... [snip!] ... That's a horrible idea. Op give it time. He May change his mind after awhile. You never know."</blockquote>



Well theres no way I could really trick him since I dont take BC and he never really wears condoms...N wasnt planned...so the next one might not be either :D

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Cheeks mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would be more than furious ... to me that's ... [snip!] ... if I didn't think they wanted kids... So to not be straight forward about it is lying about something incredibly important, IMO"


its not the not wanting kids aspect ... its the lying to shut her up aspect that would do it for me. He sounds like a selfish ass how probably really only agreed to it because he has this macho need for a son and if he told her only one in the first place and it was a girl, then he would be stuck.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Two wrongs don't make a right. And most men would HATE any woman who "trapped" them like that, rightfully so, just like she has the right to be upset he tricked her."</blockquote>



He trapped her into a relationship where he is denying her of having more than one child.



And how is he trapped with her. They already have one. It's not like she got knocked up the first time around so he wouldn't leave her or something.



Two wrongs don't make a right but why should his wrong take precedence over hers?

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kennedi's Momma:</b>" I don't normally support it But it's ... [snip!] ... 1 and not willing to compromise I would never have the first with him. I'd find someone else who took my feelings seriously"</blockquote>



Yeah its a HUGE thing to lie about....pisses me off

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Black Dynamite:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's ... [snip!] ... trick him since I dont take BC and he never really wears condoms...N wasnt planned...so the next one might not be either :D"


How does he expect you to not have any more kids when you're having completely unprotected sex?

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3115 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Cheeks mom:" I would be furious that he agreed to two "just to avoid talking about"... I could understand changing his mind, but that's just mean"


I agree with this! It's slack that he would trick you into thinking he was okay with having another just to avoid talking about it. I would be so upset.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kennedi's ... [snip!] ... I'd find someone else who took my feelings seriously"</blockquote> Yeah its a HUGE thing to lie about....pisses me off"</blockquote>



I feel you.



And you're not trapping him. It's his responsibility as well to be proactive about bc

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" its not the not wanting kids aspect ... its the lying to shut her up aspect that would do it for me. ... [snip!] ... he has this macho need for a son and if he told her only one in the first place and it was a girl, then he would be stuck."</blockquote>



Good point...I asked him about wanting a girl...he said it scares him because he would be extra paranoid having a daughter...which made me kinda :/...you should be equally paranoid..no?

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
23rd Jan '13

OP I Would get on BC, I wouldn't want to have a baby with someone who didn't want to have one with me

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
23rd Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" How does he expect you to not have any more kids when you're having completely unprotected sex?"</blockquote>




Right?



Well I am BFing and still havent got my first period....but I could still get pregnant...we've always done the pull and pray




It makes me think he isnt super serious about NEVER wanting more kids...he would be more careful

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
23rd Jan '13
Quoting Cheeks mom:" OP I Would get on BC, I wouldn't want to have a baby with someone who didn't want to have one with me"


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This you don't want to end up going through a messy 'its not mine' break up should you get pregnant