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Would you be hurt? *D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1863 posts
24th Jan '13

I'm not gorgeous or even that good looking or ever claim to be. I'm a little overweight but I also just had my daughter 10 weeks ago so i'm still in the process of loosing my baby weight. My husband is very loud and out there, and jokes around alot so I take only a little of what he says serious. Last night he was telling me about the convo he had at work with his buddies about hot girls and big boobs and all that, and I was fine until he started saying he told the co workers "don't ever be with a hot girl cause they are rude and stuck up "...so I laughed and asked what he considered me and he said "average"...idk what it is but it hit me the wrong way and I feel really pissed about it. I'm a full time worker, on my days off i'm a stay at home mom who cleans and cooks and pays all the bills, i'm the bread winner in the family and pay all the bills. And to top it off i'm the mother of his children and his wife, I feel like even if i'm not the best looking woman (which i'm not by no means) he should think i'm more than "average"...am I wrong for being hurt?

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
24th Jan '13

Yes I would.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
24th Jan '13

While I would be a little hurt by that myself you know he is not with you for your looks alone..

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
24th Jan '13

You can't help how you feel. I'm sure he did not intend for you to be hurt by what he said.
My husband is very honest with me too, which I appreciate most of the time :P I just know now not to ask if my butt looks big in pants or something hahaha

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
24th Jan '13

Yeah that was rude on his part and is probably be upset
Was he joking?



And I think you're really pretty

Damien*Dex*Jaidyn's Momma 18 kids; Pennsylvania 1535 posts
24th Jan '13

I would be flipping shit if my husband called me average. Even on my sweat pants and messy hair days(a lot the last couple years) I would like complements. Btw I think you are very pretty.

mmmc15 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Wyoming 708 posts
24th Jan '13

I would be hurt too. Talk to him about it if you think that it will make you feel better. He was probably just being a smart ass but it was still insensitive considering you just had a baby a few months ago.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting Moody Momma:" I would be flipping shit if my husband called me average. Even on my sweat pants and messy hair days(a lot the last couple years) I would like complements. Btw I think you are very pretty."


I call myself average so I can't say anything if DH says the same thing because he is agreeing with me....

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
24th Jan '13

It wouldn't bother me too much, because I think I'm average. I know I'm not hot and I wouldn't expect him to tell me I am just because he thinks I want to hear it. I can understand how it made you feel a little uncomfortable, though.



At least you know he loves you for who you are, not what you look like. I also think you're pretty.

*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1863 posts
24th Jan '13

When I asked him if he was serious he did say yes, and that I didn't let him finish his story and that he told the guys he's glad he has an average girl who isn't so hot and high maintenance and he doesn't have to worry about guys trying to chase after me ...so it just made me feel even more like dirt. And thank you for the compliments :)

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" It wouldn't bother me too much, because I think I'm average. I know I'm not hot and I wouldn't expect ... [snip!] ... uncomfortable, though. At least you know he loves you for who you are, not what you look like. I also think you're pretty."


agreed....



but I am the sensitive type so it would hurt me a little. Then again if DH would've said I was a hottie I'd know he was lying just to make me happy bc god knows I'm not.

mmmc15 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Wyoming 708 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" When I asked him if he was serious he did say yes, and that I didn't let him finish his story and that ... [snip!] ... worry about guys trying to chase after me ...so it just made me feel even more like dirt. And thank you for the compliments :)"

I would have kicked him for that last comment. A man should never make his lady feel that way.

*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1863 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" agreed.... but I am the sensitive type so it would hurt me a little. Then again if DH would've said I was a hottie I'd know he was lying just to make me happy bc god knows I'm not."


lol exactly what I told him, that I didn't expect the answer to be "hot" or "sexy" but at least something like "awesome mom" or "great wife" would have been nice, instead of average

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22401 posts
24th Jan '13

It wouldn't have bothered me. Men sometimes have no clue that the way they say things can hurt us.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" lol exactly what I told him, that I didn't expect the answer to be "hot" or "sexy" but at least something like "awesome mom" or "great wife" would have been nice, instead of average"

I think he's just being a man lol. Sometimes they're not the most eloquent. I *think* what he was trying to get at was he doesn't have to be insecure thinking other guys are always after you and that he's happy having you all to himself.