The lowest I would go is probably 2 years but is rather not if I can help it lol :)
I'm almost 26.. and I don't know..
There is a lot of difference too me between someone who's 18 and my age.
But it depends SO much on the guy. He could be all the things your looking for, and his age could end up being a non issue.
Well I'm 26 years old and have been with DH since I was 17 so haven't really had to deal with thinking about this but honestly I don't think I would have a problem "dating" someone that was 18 (legally you can date a 16 year old here but I think that is tooooo young). I mean that in terms of having friendship and fun and just casually dating with no expectations of the relationship, I think it's just because I feel that expecting too much from someone at that age would lead to major disappointment. In terms of a real relationship, if I was looking for a strong commitment and a future together I really don't think I would go more than 2 years younger but it really depends on the maturity of the person.
I don't think there is an issue with a 29 year old and a 23 year old though, he maybe more mature than some 35 year olds so you may aswel just go for it.
Of course it depends on you and the guy both.
But age gaps are hard. I'm 23 and DH is 31. It's hard. He thinks because I'm young I don't know ANYTHING and that he's there to "teach" me about the world[or whatever :roll: lol] I'm not saying you would be like this because I don't know you - but you have been through more than him...you have raised a child, been through a nasty break up ect....and you've been on this planet a little longer so you're a little wiser. That might work in your favor or it will work completely against the relationship.
Just something to think about.
And the youngest I would go is 22 if I was single. All the 23 year old guys I know seem like 17 year olds to me.
Quoting Supafly★:" Of course it depends on you and the guy both. But age gaps are hard. I'm 23 and DH is 31. It's hard. ... [snip!] ... about. And the youngest I would go is 22 if I was single. All the 23 year old guys I know seem like 17 year olds to me. "
What made us click is that he has been through a really bad breakup too. He was the one that told me it's okay to hurt... he's the first person that has said that and isn't all "Fuck Tony, move on!" So I think that's what drew me to him... the fact that he isnt all "Yeah lets swoop in!" and respected that I AM hurting still.
I always go for older, I just turned 26.. I wouldn't date anyone more then ONE yr younger (so 25) my current SO is 28, almost 29- but I've been w a 47 yr old, would NOT go any older then that.. Well probably not even that old again; he didn't LOOK that old or act it.
Quoting FroggysMommy:" What made us click is that he has been through a really bad breakup too. He was the one that told me ... [snip!] ... So I think that's what drew me to him... the fact that he isnt all "Yeah lets swoop in!" and respected that I AM hurting still."
Just remember that for awhile, this guy is always going to look way better than Tony. So while I say go for it, go in with your eyes open if you know what I mean.
Quoting Supafly★:" Just remember that for awhile, this guy is always going to look way better than Tony. So while I say go for it, go in with your eyes open if you know what I mean. "
Oh I dont think he's better than Tony... I want my best friend. I miss him dearly, I miss his son. I want Tony at the end of the day. BUT... this guy IS a guy to make me think that I could have fun with someone else.
But... I will always wish for things to work out with Tony. Always.
I'd date four years younger than myself....maybe 5 if he was on the mature side. But I'm 25, so I'm a bit wary of that younger age group. Young college hotshots...I know that drill.
There's nothing wrong with you being 29 and dating a 23 year old. Some guys that age are more mature than 40 year old's that I know. I don't think age is important, just make what you're looking for is aligned...Meaning, you may be ready (Or not) for long term commitment, but is he? And vice versa. That's a rule for all relationships, really though.
So is 7 years younger ;)
Been together nearly a year
Best relationship of my life
Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" I'd date four years younger than myself....maybe 5 if he was on the mature side. But I'm 25, so I'm a ... [snip!] ... may be ready (Or not) for long term commitment, but is he? And vice versa. That's a rule for all relationships, really though."
Yeah, I dont know what he is looking for. I know he WAS into a long term thing and then him and his girl broke up. He said it took him like a year and a half to even "breathe" again and not be into his pain. I think I want long term right now... but I dont know. I just want... happiness. I want to be myself again.
One thing I am semi struggling with (and no, the input of "I slept with one person my entire life and waited and it was easy" kind of people wont help), but before I was with Tony I vowed to not be with anyone physically until it meant something deep. I had been hurt by a "friend" and didn't want to hurt anymore. Thats also why whenever Tony and I had our breaks I wouldn't sleep with him because I didnt want to have sex without commitment, even though Tony and I had something WAY more special than a random hookup. BUT.... I need to get laid, lol. Part of me is like "Hey have fun, don't think about it too much" but the other part is saying... feelings make it better. Wait until I have feelings. I am NOT saying this guy may be the one to fool around with or such, but with anyone I encounter next... I don't know whether to wait or let things be and have fun. I will never, ever have a "sex on the first date" type thing. Never. But do I let myself have fun, or wait until we are in a relationship and know each other and it means something (it doesnt need to be "love" but more than just a drunken night thing was what my old pact to myself was). So I'm just all.... damn I miss sex. BUT..... what do I do? lol