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:( :( J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5878 posts
status 24th Jan '13

I feel like such a terrible mom right now. DS hasn't been sleeping well therefor I haven't been sleeping well, so I'm exhausted. I was trying to get DS to sleep and he just wouldn't fall asleep. He kept getting out of his swaddle, he kept getting distracted by who knows what so he wouldn't eat, he was just fighting it. We start bedtime routine at 830 and he just fell asleep. I was just so frustrated because I'm so tired and DH is out of town so I have no help. I just laid DS down and started crying. He started getting fussy and I told him to shut up and go the hell to sleep. I instantly felt terrible. I mean he's 4 months old, he has no idea why I'm frustrated and its not like he's doing it on purpose. And its not with him, I just get like this when I'm exhausted. I just...ugh I feel so bad.

user banned 1 child; Bluefield, Virginia 1053 posts
24th Jan '13

i know the feeling :( i do it alot and feel like shi*
i get so aggravated. i have a husband who never really helps:(

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
24th Jan '13

We've all been there. Don't feel bad, as long as you didn't beat your kid, you're doing alright. Losing your patience is apart of the parenting process.

user banned 1 child; Bluefield, Virginia 1053 posts
24th Jan '13
Quoting Nikkie Beee:" We've all been there. Don't feel bad, as long as you didn't beat your kid, you're doing alright. Losing your patience is apart of the parenting process."


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!!Katie!! 1 child; Tennessee 2794 posts
24th Jan '13

Seriously, don't beat yourself up over it.



You said "He's 4 months old he doesn't know why you're frustrated.." And that's right, he doesn't....but also, He's 4 months old, and he doesn't know what "shut up and go the hell to sleep" means either.


Losing your patients is normal, and we've all been there. It's all part of being a new Mommy :)

laura+3.0 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 14725 posts
24th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" We've all been there. Don't feel bad, as long as you didn't beat your kid, you're doing alright. Losing your patience is apart of the parenting process."</blockquote>




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It's okay mama. We all have limits. You didn't hurt him or anything horrible. Don't beat yourself up over it<3

12345mama54321 Nebraska 94 posts
24th Jan '13

Don't feel bad...he won't remember and we've definitely all been there. My ds is almost 12m, I'm 8m pregnant. I've been exhausted here lately and hubby works on the boats, so i have no help. He's not been sleeping good at all the past week, and I've lost my patience and said some things i feel horrible about...he still loves me and he is my world:)

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5878 posts
status 24th Jan '13

Thanks ladies, you've all really helped. I know he won't remember it, in fact the little turd started smiling when I said it. I still just felt bad at the moment.

Lynzt United Kingdom 259 posts
25th Jan '13

Since birth my boy will sleep upto 3 hours total a day and was awake just as much on a night, by 4 month old he was sleeping longer on a night but same during the day, hes 7 month now. I feel your pain.
What has helped me is routine. I wont let him sleep 5-6.30/7 on a night then we have a cuddle and calm down and upstairs to bed, we will mumble to himself sometimes for a bit then just go to sleep on his own on a morning i wont put light on till after 6am then give him toys in cot and get his clothes/bottle ready, go down feed and dress his let him play for a bit then he'll want a kip after a couple of hours.
Try getting into a routine asap and stick to it even if someone else has baby for a little tell them how you've been doing things so they can helo to. It takes a bit for them to understand getting used to it
Hope it helps abir

!!Katie!! 1 child; Tennessee 2794 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Lynzt:" Since birth my boy will sleep upto 3 hours total a day and was awake just as much on a night, by 4 month ... [snip!] ... how you've been doing things so they can helo to. It takes a bit for them to understand getting used to it Hope it helps abir"

I agree! i did the same exact thing, I was starting to lose my mind until I started a routine. I have a little bit of ppd...so it was making it that much worse. Now that we're on a pretty strict schedule,. things are much easier. You don't feel so out of control and like your life is in disarray because of this new baby, and in turn, you lose your patients much less.
The only thing that's a pain now, is that he's started this nightly routine for himself...lol...I put him to bed with his paci, he spits it out and screams...he'll continue to do this until he tired himself out...which was bringing me back into his room like 10 times a night. I decided I'd put the paci back in his mouth 3-5 times, but after that it's just going to have to stay out. I think he's realized that if he spits it out, it brings me back in the room....so he'll do it over and over lol. Trying to put a stop to it before it gets too bad.



OP- I'm surprised you can still get him in a swaddle! That's great! I wish Aiden would let me swaddle him....he started getting out of his before he was even a month old, and we haven't been able to do it since. He's a wiggler :D

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5878 posts
status 25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting !!Katie!!:</b>" I agree! i did the same exact thing, I was starting to lose my mind until I started a routine. I have ... [snip!] ... him....he started getting out of his before he was even a month old, and we haven't been able to do it since. He's a wiggler :D"</blockquote>




We've had him in a routine since we brought him home :/ we' e always kept it pretty strict. Bath, lotion masaagae, naked tummy time, swaddle, nurse, rock in the chair and story time. We turn most of lights off around 7 so its dim in the house. His doctor did just confirm he's teething though. Ugh lol.



Oh, and the only way we can still swaddle him because we use those Halo sleep sacks lol. He gets out of regular blanket swaddles and always has lol.

!!Katie!! 1 child; Tennessee 2794 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Boobie On Demand:" <blockquote><b>Quoting !!Katie!!:</b>" I agree! i did the same exact thing, I was starting ... [snip!] ... we can still swaddle him because we use those Halo sleep sacks lol. He gets out of regular blanket swaddles and always has lol."

Ahhh, I gotcha!



We have a few sleep sacks, but sadly we can't use them at night. He has severe reflux disease. He waas admitted to East Tenn. Childrens Hospital at 2 months old because he was choking on it and got dehydrated and stopped gaining weight :( So we're on strict choking precautions. When he's in the crib at night (while daddy and I are sleeping) he has to sleep in his infant chair to keep him elevated. We tried tilting the mattress and everything, but he moves around too much and ends up at the other end of the crib, flat on his back. And during the day we have to make sure he's either elevated in his boppy, or sitting up. So sadly those sacks don't work for us, because of the strap on the infant seat that has to go between his legs.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14140 posts
25th Jan '13

I have said that multiple times to my 7 month old. I always regret it after too but I was seriously sleep-deprived. He'll go without sleep for up to 2 days. Don't feel bad, it's not like he can understand you lol.

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5878 posts
status 25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting !!Katie!!:</b>" Ahhh, I gotcha! We have a few sleep sacks, but sadly we can't use them at night. He has severe reflux ... [snip!] ... sitting up. So sadly those sacks don't work for us, because of the strap on the infant seat that has to go between his legs. "</blockquote>




Oh wow that sounds tough I'm sorry :( having him swaddled is the only way he'll fall asleep at night...I wonder what fresh hell I'll encounter when he starts to roll and I have to stop...

!!Katie!! 1 child; Tennessee 2794 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Boobie On Demand:" <blockquote><b>Quoting !!Katie!!:</b>" Ahhh, I gotcha! We have a few sleep sacks, ... [snip!] ... the only way he'll fall asleep at night...I wonder what fresh hell I'll encounter when he starts to roll and I have to stop..."

lol Yeeaah. Aiden has been doing this thing recently- he tries REALLY hard to sit up while he's in the infant chair, he'll stick his arms out straight and pull his torso up...looks like he's doing tummy crunches lol....so I'm a bit concerned about what we'll do when he can get out of it. I guess we'll just have to cross that bridge when we get there :wink: