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Pacifier help Jennifer Daly Due January 2 (girl); Merchantville, New Jersey 8 posts
25th Jan '13

My newborn (just over two weeks) was given a pacifier at the hospital to help her stop crying so we could get some sleep. When she's swaddled, it's fine and the pacifier stays in since she can't use her hands to accicdently knock it out of her mouth. Now however, she doesn't want to be swaddled at night and the pacifier falls out every minute or so. It's driving me and my husband nuts and we can get no sleep. If we try not to give in to the pacifier she screams bloody murder. Is it better for me to try to break her of the pacifier now or is she too young? everything i read says not to let a newborn cry, but we are getting NO sleep this way and nothing else will console her. I tried swaddling her anyway and she screams at that too. I am at a loss here, I don't want to let my baby scream but we can't keep doing this pacifier thing at night, it's a CONSTANT issue. Any advice? I'm only looking to get 3 or 4 hours of sleep at a time here, right now we are getting none.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57581 posts
25th Jan '13

3 to 4 hours at a time is pretty ambitious for a 2 week old.



You're going to have to hold her and soothe her-- try rocking and singing-- and it's possible you wont be getting much sleep for a while.

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
25th Jan '13

The sleep sounds normal. But if the paci is falling out, try a different shape. My ds liked the one we got from the hospital (Avent soothies) but it would not stay in. We tried mam and he loved that!

Jennifer Daly Due January 2 (girl); Merchantville, New Jersey 8 posts
25th Jan '13

When she was ok with being swaddled she slept for 4-5 hours at a time. Now no one is sleeping, not for more than 15 mins at a time, she isn't sleeping well either.

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13 (boy); 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
25th Jan '13

If she is getting that upset over the pacifier falling out then she might just be hungry too. Massage her tummy too. Could be gas as well

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57581 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jennifer Daly:" When she was ok with being swaddled she slept for 4-5 hours at a time. Now no one is sleeping, not for more than 15 mins at a time, she isn't sleeping well either."


I understand it's frustrating, but she's 2 weeks old. Most infants do not sleep well. Take turns so that one of you can sleep for a while if that's easier than everyone being up at once-- as someone else said, try burping her a little more, maybe she has gas. Or maybe she's starting to be colicy... whatever it is, though, it may not have anything to do with keeping a pacifier in.

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13 (boy); 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I understand it's frustrating, but she's 2 weeks old. Most infants do not sleep well. Take turns so ... [snip!] ... gas. Or maybe she's starting to be colicy... whatever it is, though, it may not have anything to do with keeping a pacifier in."</blockquote>



Exactly. It could be something as simple as she just wants to be close to someone or rocked to sleep or carried around. DS is almost 10 weeks & requires those things. I literally get 2-3 hours of sleep a night & that's all. He's EBF though & eats every 2 hours

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
25th Jan '13

Also the startle reflex is hard for babies to get used to sleeping through. And then there are the growth spurts. The sleeping patterns if babies change a lot.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57581 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I understand it's frustrating, but she's 2 ... [snip!] ... 10 weeks & requires those things. I literally get 2-3 hours of sleep a night & that's all. He's EBF though & eats every 2 hours"


Hell. DD didn't sleep for more than a half hour at a time when she was 8 months old. She's just never been a good sleeper. But would sleep if she was snuggled up with me.



Now that she's almost 4 years old... sometimes she sleeps through the night. haha.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15218 posts
25th Jan '13

Try a different type of pacifier. There's nothing wrong with a baby self soothing with a pacifier.

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Try a different type of pacifier. There's nothing wrong with a baby self soothing with a pacifier."</blockquote>




Amen. Lol. We love ours.

Rock Paper Scissors Lizar Due April 10 (boy); Fareham, United Kingdom 1448 posts
25th Jan '13

She could be hungry if it keeps coming out or LO wants you close.



I'm not sure on the dummy issue regarding keeping it or not as my LO never had one but if it was me i'd try seeing how LO is without if it's worse then give it back? Do they have a comforter/taggy they like or something that smells of you?

jessies mum 1 child; London, United Kingdom 109 posts
25th Jan '13

jess was the same at that age. even now at 3 & 1/2 months she wakes when she drops it. i tried rocking her to sleep and once shes been asleep for around 10-15 mins (shes in a deep sleep) i put her down. then she didnt really notice much if she dropped it. i pretty much slept with one arm out of the bed the whole time so i could hold the dummy in. good luck, it does get better

*frisky2times* Due August 27; 2 kids; El Paso, TX, United States 1762 posts
25th Jan '13

If its the soothie pacifier neither of my lo have been able to keep that in there mouth i used mam and it made a world of difference.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
25th Jan '13

If you are using Soothies, try a Wubbanub. They are soothies with a little stuff animal attached to them. My son loves them because they don't fall out of their mouth when they start to doze.