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user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" I'd rather her say black than to refer to someone as colored. The term colored is offensive."</blockquote>




To you? She's the one who dated him.

Avian's Mommy!! 1 child; Levelland, Texas 3872 posts
Jan 25th '13

I am white and my SO is hispanic.. my dad hated it. he talked so much crap and everything for years, but i didn't care about my family. I knew he was a good guy and i didn't care what anyone had to say about it. Its your life.. do waht makes you happy

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" OK? And no, its not just offensive to me. I didn't call the girl racist. You can kindly jump out of this tiny discussion."</blockquote>




I wasn't aware you were the BG police.



Please jump out because you're trying to tell me there's no issue where I want there to be an issue.



Very adult response.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting M walls:" I just want to point out that its not just white families who have a problm. There's also a lot of black families who wouldn't want their son dating a white chick"


Aint that the truth.



I dated a black guy in high school. Really sweet guy, nice family. But one of his friends was like, "Maaaan if I brought a white b***h home to my mama she'd kick her ass and tell me to find a real woman." :shock :shock: Both of us about fell over backwards. We heard a lot of similar things said, too.

MrsRelli 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 83 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" :roll: Seriously?"

I was going to say something about that I'm black or "colored" and a lady told me i had beautiful colored babies:roll: I mean you don't have to call me african american i'll accept black or she could of just said i had cute kids than another lady came to me and asked if my kids where mine because they look like white babies WTF(i wish push to my limit that day)but whatever to get to my point...I have a white husband and everyone in my family seems to be ok with it but my mom who was born in the 50's tend to make little dumbass comments about not letting the white man control me and all that jazz. I see nothing wrong with interracial dating and where i grew up I never really had a choose because I hardly lived around black people. I did however break up with a guy(before my husband) because his grandma hated blacks and I wasn't aloud in her home.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
Jan 25th '13

My mom said she knew what I was attracted to, when I followed Black boys around the basketball court at three. She was right its all I've ever been with, my family accepts it. Except my uncle was upset when I got pregnant, he is now my dd's favorite. People change.

MrsRelli 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 83 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting FaithLovesPussyCats:" Aint that the truth. I dated a black guy in high school. Really sweet guy, nice family. But one of ... [snip!] ... tell me to find a real woman." :shock :shock: Both of us about fell over backwards. We heard a lot of similar things said, too."

I can't stand stuff like that but ignorance doesn't discriminate

vajayna 18 kids; Kentucky 4552 posts
Jan 25th '13

Thanks everyone, he's met my mother already but she pretty much walked in my house and told him not to get me pregnant & I have too many baby daddys. Thanks mom. Im the type who wouldnt care if my daughter dated a purple woman, as long as she's happy. But my family treats me like im 12, not 22 with 2 children.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

I'm shocked at the number of family members who would have a problem..What year aare we in??? anybody in my family who is racist or homophobic will have zero to do with me or my children....I will cut them out completely

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" I'm shocked at the number of family members who would have a problem..What year aare we in??? anybody ... [snip!] ... anybody in my family who is racist or homophobic will have zero to do with me or my children....I will cut them out completely"


Most of it is conservative people who are set in their ways. Just kinda like how people are against gay/lesbian relationships. My dad was born in 1950, my mom in 62. Some people were just brought up that way. You're right, it is a very different time, so hopefully in 20-30 years when my kids are older, things will be different.. :)

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" Most of it is conservative people who are set in their ways. Just kinda like how people are against ... [snip!] ... You're right, it is a very different time, so hopefully in 20-30 years when my kids are older, things will be different.. :)"</blockquote>




zero excuse..My grandparents were brought up to be racists...doesn't mean they were...My grandmother didn't even meet a black person til she was an adult...still not racist as an adult..or homophobic...but things will never be different because people excuse racism and being homophobic because "that's how they were raised"

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" Most of it is conservative people ... [snip!] ... things will never be different because people excuse racism and being homophobic because "that's how they were raised""


I never said it was right. It's just the way it is.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Some people are just set in their ways, especially older people. I don't know if you've heard of the ... [snip!] ... same shade or lighter than a brown paper bag, you weren't good enough. She still thought that way up until the day she died."


And blacks and white had separate water fountains in school. Messed up.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Oh yeah, those jim crow laws. Smh."



Things aren't perfect, lord knows if they ever will be. But we've come along way, that's for sure.

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" I'm shocked at the number of family members who would have a problem..What year aare we in??? anybody ... [snip!] ... anybody in my family who is racist or homophobic will have zero to do with me or my children....I will cut them out completely"


That's what I was thinking!! We had (now passed away) one grandmother that was very racist and wouldn't hold her black great grand babies. But she really wasn't grandmother material to begin with and no one in our family really liked her.
My family would NEVER blink an eye about the color of skin I would date. They would maybe ask heritage questions but NEVER in a judgmental way. This blows my mind. I would cut people out of my life so fast.



This honestly makes me SO happy I'm from Oregon. We just have to deal with discrimination so much less. It's not completely gone but I definitely live in a very progressive community and I'm very thankful for that!