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Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I never said it was right. It's just the way it is. "</blockquote>




but it doesn't have to be that way if people quit making excuses for such terrible things..that's my only point...I met a guy one time who asked if I had ever been with a black guy because he won't date girls who have...It's just the way he was raised right? no...completely unacceptable and I would have been just as guilty of his racist mind set if I chose to continue talking to him...there should be zero tolerance for that kinda behavior but so many people accept it and excuse it

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kitermom:</b>" That's what I was thinking!! We had (now passed away) one grandmother that was very racist and wouldn't ... [snip!] ... so much less. It's not completely gone but I definitely live in a very progressive community and I'm very thankful for that!"</blockquote>



I'd cut out my own mother or father for being racist or homophobic...but luckily for me my family is not like that at all and very colorful lol

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I never said it was right. It's ... [snip!] ... to continue talking to him...there should be zero tolerance for that kinda behavior but so many people accept it and excuse it"


I get what you're saying, but you have to realize that's how some people are. Look, I was raised by a semi-racist father and my mother just doesn't want her kids to be with a black man (don't know her reasons), and I am the most open-minded person you'll ever meet. I do not care who anyone is with, I accept everyone for who they are. Religion, Racism, Sexual Orientation, etc.. are all such controversial topics, that there is never going to be a time where we are all 100% united. I just don't believe there will ever be complete unity, at least not while I'm alive.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I get what you're saying, but you have to realize that's how some people are. Look, I was raised by ... [snip!] ... be a time where we are all 100% united. I just don't believe there will ever be complete unity, at least not while I'm alive."</blockquote>



trust me I understand that's how people are...I just don't understand how people who aren't racists continue to make excuses for those who are or even continue to have them in their lives...

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" I get what you're saying, but you ... [snip!] ... how people who aren't racists continue to make excuses for those who are or even continue to have them in their lives..."


As for me, they are my parents. I'm not going to cut them out of my life, for they are the only parents I have. That is their belief and how they feel and they are allowed to choose that. Me cutting ties with them won't change how they feel, but will change my life immensely. We are allowed to be related and believe different things, and bump heads sometimes, but that's where we differ. I choose to believe my own thing and be open minded.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" As for me, they are my parents. I'm not going to cut them out of my life, for they are the only parents ... [snip!] ... different things, and bump heads sometimes, but that's where we differ. I choose to believe my own thing and be open minded."</blockquote>



I guess we just disagree.... I do not want my children to ever think it's okay to accept that kind of behavior and by allowing racist people to be in my life..it says I'm accepting that and that's just awful...I love my.mom and depend on her alot but if I found out today she was racists..I'd be done..My children deserve to be surrounded by better..

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Gone 12345....:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:</b>" As for me, they are my parents. ... [snip!] ... and depend on her alot but if I found out today she was racists..I'd be done..My children deserve to be surrounded by better.."


My mother would never just spew out anything in front of my kids. I am perfectly content having my mother around her grandchildren. And yes, I suppose that is where we disagree.



Now if my daughter grows up and ends up with someone other than a white man, I am sure she'd come around. It would probably take time. My dad is deceased, so nothing from him.

kakskvkm_plus 1 Due December 10; 20 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 5043 posts
Jan 25th '13

I am mixed. My grandmother didnt accept black people unitl my mom had my brother and I. Thinking back now..she treated us the same.

My extended family is against interacial dating.

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
Jan 25th '13

Wow I didn't know race was such an issue still in other places! I am not that surprised but still, that's kinda sad! I'm mixed. My mom is white so her dad was maaaadddd about my dad being a black man. But they have never judged anyone I dated due to race. Eh, I say f**k it and do what makes you happy!

AngelGabriel'sMama 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 2103 posts
Jan 25th '13

Growing up my mom never cared who I dated but my dad used a lot of racial slurs for people who never did anything but have a different skin color. When my sister and I both started dating Hispanic men, he didn't like it. Now that we both have been with our men for over 2 years and have little mixed babies, it seems like he did a 360. He calls both of our boyfriends his sons and he always talks about how he has the most beautiful brown grandbabies. Even old people set in their ways can change, they just have to want to.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Jan 25th '13

My only serious boyfriends were a different race...but my family doesn't care about that...my Mom would flip if I went after a GIRL....but my Dad...well he prefers to date darker men...so that speaks of him both ways lmao.
My fiance is hispanic and I'm extremely pale white heh...



Tell them its 2013...they need to step out of their ignorance.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
Jan 25th '13

My ex in high school was black, his mom was married to a white man so obviously didn't care. His biological father and sister had major issues with it. My dad was very uncomfortable until he saw how well he treated me.