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P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."

Irreconsilable (sp) differences is not walking away from your kid. I guess everybody that divorces leaves their kid then huh?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 37223 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Irreconsilable (sp) differences is not walking away from your kid. I guess everybody that divorces leaves their kid then huh? "


I agree.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."


And he didn't leave because he COULDNT spank his kid. Its his kid too he can do whatever the f**k he wants. He left because his wife and him could not come to an agreement on this.

Bangtail 50 kids; Houston, TX, United States 7754 posts
Jan 25th '13

It sounds to me like he lost his cool with his child and didn't know how to handle it properly. My husband and I have had similar arguments in the past, but it never came to divorce. I think that some parents, especially men, reach a point of frustration with their kids and they simply don't know how to handle it. Of course that's not a good thing, but if they stop at just spanking, it should not be unforgivable. Plus, yelling at him when he's at a point where he has already lost his cool will not help. In my opinion, they need to calm down and really discuss it in a way where they aren't attacking each other's parenting choices. Parents do lose their cool, and that's when they need support and education.



I am not for/against spanking, really. It's not something that is used often in my home because it just doesn't have the desired affect. When I popped my oldest child, he would turn around and pop his brother when he made him mad.

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
Jan 25th '13

My son climbs in and out of bed a million times a night. He's 2. I'm not going to spank him because of it. I don't spank in general, and I'd find it hard to back down about something that I feel so strongly about. Luckily, SO agrees and we don't have this issue. If he didn't....well that'd be hell to go through. I'd probably want to go to some sort of counseling.




I think they must have bigger issues than this if he really felt the need to up and leave.

user banned California 36390 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Crystallized:" My son climbs in and out of bed a million times a night. He's 2. I'm not going to spank him because of ... [snip!] ... to go to some sort of counseling. I think they must have bigger issues than this if he really felt the need to up and leave."


I agree. I couldn't imagine my DH leaving me because of something that stupid. We have a shitty relationship and marriage and he's definitely not the best guy but even we are trying to work past that and make it work.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Walking away from your kids never looks good in the court's eyes."



leaving a spouse is not the same as leaving the children. Unless he literally abandoned them.. and didn't contact them for weeks/months... it's not abandonment

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."


what the f**k are you even talking about? he left because they fought all the time over parenting differences. It's not uncommon.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" We still co-sleep at age 3 and love it! I'd rather sleep with LO than DH but that's an entirely different story."</blockquote>




Haha me too! She doesn't steal the covers :D

user banned California 36390 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" We still co-sleep at age 3 and love ... [snip!] ... with LO than DH but that's an entirely different story."</blockquote> Haha me too! She doesn't steal the covers :D"


Both DH and LO sleep talk. Sometimes they sleep talk to each other. DH also snores like a maniac. He slept on the couch last night and I still could hear him!

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" Both DH and LO sleep talk. Sometimes they sleep talk to each other. DH also snores like a maniac. He slept on the couch last night and I still could hear him!"</blockquote>




Ahaha I love sleep talking! My SO does, I can have full conversations (when I'm awake) with his sleep self about whatever he's dreaming about. DD doesn't do it much, but last week sat bolt upright in bed, said 'I'm a pirate, ahoy' and saluted, then went back to sleep :D:D
I can't imagine missing cute stuff like thRif she were on her own in another room!

Vince Offer 2 kids; Bellevue, Washington 223 posts
Jan 25th '13

I'd never be with anyone who would hit my child or who was not supportive of breastfeeding.

~~~~~~~~~~~ Thailand 339 posts
Jan 25th '13

I would leave any man that hit my child.

Barfy McVomitron Due July 19; 4 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 29256 posts
Jan 25th '13

my son is almost two, I'd be passed if someone spanked him for crying how ridiculous. the father needs to learn to act like a grown up

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 7096 posts
Jan 25th '13

I think parenting styles is something you should know and agree on before you decide to have a child with someone. My husband and I had this discussion while dating. I knew where he stood long before we brought children into the world.