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user banned California 36390 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Soooo???? It doesn't matter in the courts eyes. She could try to bring up it is abuse and they will ask her why she didn't call CPS then and then laugh in her face! "


Walking away from your kids never looks good in the court's eyes.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Walking away from your kids never looks good in the court's eyes."

Because they split up means he walked away from his kids? Wow that is bull shit. I left BD and took Cylus with me...guess I kept him from his dad? NOOOO!! parents' relationship has nothing to do with the parent/child relationship.

user banned California 36390 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Because they split up means he walked away from his kids? Wow that is bull shit. I left BD and took Cylus ... [snip!] ... with me...guess I kept him from his dad? NOOOO!! parents' relationship has nothing to do with the parent/child relationship. "


Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Walking away from your kids never looks good in the court's eyes."


Could have fooled me... My ex left ME, he didnt leave his son... and the court didnt look bad on him.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."


That is not leaving his kid.... :/

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."

Irreconsilable (sp) differences is not walking away from your kid. I guess everybody that divorces leaves their kid then huh?

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Irreconsilable (sp) differences is not walking away from your kid. I guess everybody that divorces leaves their kid then huh? "


I agree.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."


And he didn't leave because he COULDNT spank his kid. Its his kid too he can do whatever the f**k he wants. He left because his wife and him could not come to an agreement on this.

Bangtail 50 kids; Katy, Texas 7721 posts
25th Jan '13

It sounds to me like he lost his cool with his child and didn't know how to handle it properly. My husband and I have had similar arguments in the past, but it never came to divorce. I think that some parents, especially men, reach a point of frustration with their kids and they simply don't know how to handle it. Of course that's not a good thing, but if they stop at just spanking, it should not be unforgivable. Plus, yelling at him when he's at a point where he has already lost his cool will not help. In my opinion, they need to calm down and really discuss it in a way where they aren't attacking each other's parenting choices. Parents do lose their cool, and that's when they need support and education.



I am not for/against spanking, really. It's not something that is used often in my home because it just doesn't have the desired affect. When I popped my oldest child, he would turn around and pop his brother when he made him mad.

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
25th Jan '13

My son climbs in and out of bed a million times a night. He's 2. I'm not going to spank him because of it. I don't spank in general, and I'd find it hard to back down about something that I feel so strongly about. Luckily, SO agrees and we don't have this issue. If he didn't....well that'd be hell to go through. I'd probably want to go to some sort of counseling.




I think they must have bigger issues than this if he really felt the need to up and leave.

user banned California 36390 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Crystallized:" My son climbs in and out of bed a million times a night. He's 2. I'm not going to spank him because of ... [snip!] ... to go to some sort of counseling. I think they must have bigger issues than this if he really felt the need to up and leave."


I agree. I couldn't imagine my DH leaving me because of something that stupid. We have a shitty relationship and marriage and he's definitely not the best guy but even we are trying to work past that and make it work.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Walking away from your kids never looks good in the court's eyes."



leaving a spouse is not the same as leaving the children. Unless he literally abandoned them.. and didn't contact them for weeks/months... it's not abandonment

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Considering that the reason he left is because he wasn't allowed to spank his kid, I'd say that's leaving ... [snip!] ... leaving your kid. Leaving your wife so you can spank without her there is just as bad but I also don't agree with spanking."


what the f**k are you even talking about? he left because they fought all the time over parenting differences. It's not uncommon.

Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" We still co-sleep at age 3 and love it! I'd rather sleep with LO than DH but that's an entirely different story."</blockquote>




Haha me too! She doesn't steal the covers :D

user banned California 36390 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:</b>" We still co-sleep at age 3 and love ... [snip!] ... with LO than DH but that's an entirely different story."</blockquote> Haha me too! She doesn't steal the covers :D"


Both DH and LO sleep talk. Sometimes they sleep talk to each other. DH also snores like a maniac. He slept on the couch last night and I still could hear him!