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One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13

Even fishier, the emails were sent on a Monday.... pretty certain he worked Mon-Fri during that time. So he could have acted and not gone to work for a day...... omg...... has it really all been a lie? Even if he didn't act, he tried and thought about it and chances are the only reason he didn't would have because something out of his control didn't work.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16283 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" Even fishier, the emails were sent on a Monday.... pretty certain he worked Mon-Fri during that time. ... [snip!] ... and thought about it and chances are the only reason he didn't would have because something out of his control didn't work."


Honestly before your mind runs completely wild, ask him about it. Just see how he reacts and what he says.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" Even fishier, the emails were sent on a Monday.... pretty certain he worked Mon-Fri during that time. ... [snip!] ... and thought about it and chances are the only reason he didn't would have because something out of his control didn't work."


I'm sorry. Like I said it sounds like a scam but it's really messed up that he said that stuff in the first place.
Maybe he got scared after it didn't work out and decided he couldn't try it again?

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Were you together 4 yrs ago? If not, no. If yes, then YES I would 100% b ring it up."


This. If you were not together then it shouldn't really matter to you.

One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13

I just wanna say thanks ladies!!!! It helps being able to vent and talk about it before confronting him. I thought maybe I was wrong for wanting to talk to him but now I know that I am not. Thanks!!!!!

____ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5840 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Barfy McVomitron:" me? oh I'd bring it up. yep. "

:!:



This.

One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Sherri + 3:" This. If you were not together then it shouldn't really matter to you."

We have 3 kids and been together for over 9 years.......

One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I'm sorry. Like I said it sounds like a scam but it's really messed up that he said that stuff in ... [snip!] ... that he said that stuff in the first place. Maybe he got scared after it didn't work out and decided he couldn't try it again?"


Is it bad that I kinda hope he either got scammed or showed up and found a dude or something? Lol karma is a b***h!! And so am I :twisted:

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" Is it bad that I kinda hope he either got scammed or showed up and found a dude or something? Lol karma is a b***h!! And so am I :twisted:"


Not bad at all to hope that lol


And if he trys to tell you one of his friends was using his computer...don't fall for it! That's like the most common excuse for cheating I've heard of guys using.

**Cali's Mommie**[EBF] 2 kids; San Jacinto, California 661 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" Is it bad that I kinda hope he either got scammed or showed up and found a dude or something? Lol karma is a b***h!! And so am I :twisted:"

well hopefully that is what happend and he didnt try doing it again lol

One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Not bad at all to hope that lol And if he trys to tell you one of his friends was using his computer...don't ... [snip!] ... friends was using his computer...don't fall for it! That's like the most common excuse for cheating I've heard of guys using."


Yea.... well that one will not fly. We had just moved a couple months prior so neither of us had friends. I wonder if that's why he did it. We went from a small town to big city Portland, OR. I have no idea..... I do know that we have had some issues when it comes to sex stemming way back and he is very horny and free spirited. I think that for quite some time sex was just sex and nothing more. That's part of what makes me so worried......... it's complicated and long. To me the reason why doesn't matter, he tried, he considered it at least, guilty right there. I would never even try and I know if I did he would fly off the handle. But that isn't the reason I haven't tried anything. I gave him 100% of me for the rest of my life, it has never crossed my mind, EVER. If he can't give me 100% and hasn't been giving me 100% then I don't know what I will do......

One*day*at*a*time 3 kids; Clackamas, Oregon 256 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Not bad at all to hope that lol And if he trys to tell you one of his friends was using his computer...don't ... [snip!] ... friends was using his computer...don't fall for it! That's like the most common excuse for cheating I've heard of guys using."


On a side note, I have read what's been happening with your pregnancy. I am so sorry for all you are going through. I hope it gets better soon and that you have a healthy baby at the end. I too have had some rough times with pregnancy and babies, It's super hard!! My lil boy was 3 and I had to send him to stay with family due to being on very strict bed rest and meds that made me loopy. Hardest time of my life!! Then after that my DD was born and had emergency surgery and spent the next 2 months in ICU and her first year in and out of ICU. It will get better mama, stay strong!!

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
Jan 25th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" Were you together 4 yrs ago? If not, no. If yes, then YES I would 100% b ring it up."</blockquote>




This!

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" On a side note, I have read what's been happening with your pregnancy. I am so sorry for all you are ... [snip!] ... surgery and spent the next 2 months in ICU and her first year in and out of ICU. It will get better mama, stay strong!!"


I'm sorry :(
Luckily I still get to see my son every day but not for long enough.
And I haven't updated in a while but I just found out that no matter what happens even if I go full term(which isnt going to happen anyway) he will need to be monitored in the NICU because of the thickened walls of the heart. I can't imagine not being able to hold him and spend every second with him. I feel like babies need their moms and I won't be there for him :(
Sorry lol. I needed to let that out. I think I'm going to go update now, it's going to take me a while so I've been procrastinating.

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
Jan 25th '13
Quoting One*day*at*a*time:" If you found a questionable email by your SO from 4 years ago would you bring it up or let it go? He ... [snip!] ... he even tried and if anything happened, but part of me doesnt want to star a fight. Whats done is done. Aggghhh! what do i do?"


I would bring it up.. I would want to know if he ever went through with it.. and if he did and lied about it that long.. there would be issues. BUT if he didn't bring it up and you trust him.. then he probably didn't.