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Porn problem. What to do... N's Momma☆ 1 child; Spain 2346 posts
25th Jan '13

My SO recently bought us new phones, and I have never seen someone do this before. He literally is on his phone all day and all night watching porn, or he'll go on Twitter and tweet to porn stars, etc. I made a post the other day about this, and afterwards I tried talking to him but he just blew me off. Like he doesn't see anything wrong with it all. A couple of days ago we were in the library, and I looked over and noticed he was on his phone looking at porn.
I'm almost near my due date, and I'm huge as hell so I'm not sure if maybe my body is turning him off and making him do this? But it really f**king sucks. He's obviously addicted and doesn't want to stop...

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
25th Jan '13

Yikes not sure about the phone. I had this problem, we got Safe Eyes program to block that crap from his PC >.> Take his phone away and tell him he NEEDS to speak to you because what he is doing is not okay and needs to be stopped. There is a time and place for that kind of shit and 247 everfuckingwhere aint it >.< You need to tell him how it is making you feel, and that he can NOT be doing that around a newborn or a toddler!

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
25th Jan '13

Thats pretty excessive. I would really try talking to him again. Tell him its really important that you do and then tell him how you are feeling.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
25th Jan '13

Porn is eh.. not a big deal unless it's affecting your day to day life and or relationship. Try telling him how you feel.. is the problem something new?

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
25th Jan '13

Personally, I have no problem with porn. I like porn, but I don't look at it often at all because I have an arsenal of sex toys that I find MUCH more appealing.
However, your SO needs to realize that there's a time and a place, and it's a little weird (Not bashing exhibitionists) to be watching porn in public.
You can try to talk to him again and say "While I don't have a problem with you watching porn, I do have concerns (Don't say problem or it can be considered an attack) that you're watching it so frequently, and in places other than the privacy of our home" and try and stem the conversation from there.
Don't, for the love of all that is holy, try to block it from his phone. He's a grown man, not a child. Communication is key, not dictatorship.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32448 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥1:" Porn is eh.. not a big deal unless it's affecting your day to day life and or relationship. Try telling him how you feel.. is the problem something new?"


Porn on your freaking phone is excessive.

user banned Due April 8; 1 child; Washington 11352 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥1:" Porn is eh.. not a big deal unless it's affecting your day to day life and or relationship. Try telling him how you feel.. is the problem something new?"


It seems to be affecting their relationship.




Kathleen I'm sorry that's a really shitty position and i can image how it would make you feel. I would be the same way :( I'm sorry... It sucks he won't talk to you about it! :(

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103919 posts
status 25th Jan '13

Why. Are. You. Still. With. Him?



When is enough enough? I don't understand why you do this to yourself.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
25th Jan '13

He has an addiction. He needs help and it's nothing to do with you, your baby, your life, his sex drive, ect. It's something he NEEDS to do.

Blair B 1 child; Pennsylvania 909 posts
25th Jan '13

Omg I would freak out on my SO.. I have a suspicion that my SO watches porn and I don't even know if he actually does and I still freak out on him...

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21508 posts
status 25th Jan '13

SO looks at porn pretty regularly. It doesn't bother me. They're just pictures and SO has never and will never meet those chicks in the porn he looks at. Unless your SO ignores your needs for porn, then I don't see a big deal.

ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" Why. Are. You. Still. With. Him? When is enough enough? I don't understand why you do this to yourself."</blockquote>




I hope there's more to the story because suggesting she should leave him over porn is a little too much.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103919 posts
status 25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair B:</b>" Omg I would freak out on my SO.. I have a suspicion that my SO watches porn and I don't even know if he actually does and I still freak out on him..."</blockquote>




Wow that sucks. Why be so uptight? Nothing wrong with a little bit of personal time choking the chimp.

user banned Due April 8; 1 child; Washington 11352 posts
25th Jan '13
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Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Minion:" SO looks at porn pretty regularly. It doesn't bother me. They're just pictures and SO has never and will ... [snip!] ... will never meet those chicks in the porn he looks at. Unless your SO ignores your needs for porn, then I don't see a big deal."

I think the issue is that he is seems to be always on it. Day or night. At home or in public. Its getting to a point of addiction not just hey lets look at some porn.