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Just a thought but I'd like to hear yours amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
25th Jan '13

Here is a little back story, my fiance and I seperated 6 months ago after 3 years. Our son is going to be 2 in February and I am currently pregnant, and going to be induced a few days after the 7th of February. When we seperated I lost my home, job, and family and have since moved back in with my parents and have gone back to finish school. Unfortunately my home life here with my parents is not ideal. My mom is addicted to prescription medication and other drugs and because of that they suffer financially, needless to say we are barely making it. Thankfully for me my grandmother is incredibly supportive and has been helping me in my time of trouble because I have not been able to work this pregnancy due to some medical issues.
Tonight I got to thinking.. and I was considering possibly joining the airforce. As many of you may know you can not do so being a single mother, so I considered speaking with my grandmother to see if she would legally adopt them so I can join. I plan on keeping them with me with the exception of training, deployments, ect.
It would be terrible to be away from my children but it would provide me with a career, the money to continue my education, and the medical my children will need in less time than it would take me to complete years of schooling and start a career.
I just want to know if as a single parent anyone else would consider doing this? Or opinions on this?

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
25th Jan '13

The first thing I thought while reading it was "What if the grandmother passes and the ex-fiance gets handed the kids because of it?"
I think that would be my first concern, and look into that first.

JessicaDiane3 Due November 29; 3 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 186 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amc ❤:</b>" Here is a little back story, my fiance and I seperated 6 months ago after 3 years. Our son is going to ... [snip!] ... and start a career. I just want to know if as a single parent anyone else would consider doing this? Or opinions on this?"</blockquote>




From what I was told she doesn't have to adopt them you just sign over temporary guardianship and the AF will make you do a parenting plan for when you deploy and are in training

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
25th Jan '13

What other options do you have?

usernametx Texas 19748 posts
25th Jan '13

I'm a single parent and no i would not do this. Parenting is a job in itself, a roof over your head is important of course, but i believe my child needs a mother to raise him more than he needs me to be in school or earning a high wage whilst he's young. They need their primary attachment figure for healthy development and for that person to go away for long periods would not be something i would readily chose to do, ever. Ever.



Everyone parents differently though and only you are in your position to know what all your options are.



Couldn't you live with your grandmother instead of your mother? Is your ex financially supporting the children?

Momma Fergie Due August 10; Mississippi 289 posts
25th Jan '13

Have you considered a career in law enforcement? Or perhaps look into the Coast Guard.

amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting JessicaDiane3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting amc ❤:</b>" Here is a little back story, my fiance and ... [snip!] ... you just sign over temporary guardianship and the AF will make you do a parenting plan for when you deploy and are in training"


That is what I am hoping for but I have heard other wise too, so I don't want to get my hopes up until I can talk to a recruiter for sure.

amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Chloe's mommy*:" What other options do you have?"


Not a lot, nothing really to be completely honest.

JessicaDiane3 Due November 29; 3 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 186 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amc ❤:</b>" That is what I am hoping for but I have heard other wise too, so I don't want to get my hopes up until I can talk to a recruiter for sure."</blockquote>




Before I married my husband I looked Into the army and that's what they told me but all you can do Is go talk to someone

amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" I'm a single parent and no i would not do this. Parenting is a job in itself, a roof over your head is ... [snip!] ... options are. Couldn't you live with your grandmother instead of your mother? Is your ex financially supporting the children?"

I whole heartedly agree and if I felt I had a lot of other options I would not consider it. I could live with my grandmother but it would require my grandfather putting off retirement and them supporting me and the children financially until I am healed and able to get onto my feet. & No, he had been helping us financially until he was laid off.

amc ❤ 1 child; Georgia 836 posts
25th Jan '13
Quoting JessicaDiane3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting amc ❤:</b>" That is what I am hoping for but I have ... [snip!] ... Before I married my husband I looked Into the army and that's what they told me but all you can do Is go talk to someone"

I am going to call and see about meeting with a recruiter on Monday.

JessicaDiane3 Due November 29; 3 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 186 posts
25th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amc ❤:</b>" I am going to call and see about meeting with a recruiter on Monday."</blockquote>




I wish the best for you I have 3 boys and always wanted to be in the military and thought it was a good move of all of us but now that my husband is a marine he doesn't want me joining

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
26th Jan '13

I am a single mother of soon to be two, and no, I'd never consider that. I worked hard at pursuing a work at home customer service job until I landed one so I can work safely up until i'm in labor and go back to work within 2 weeks.

JessicaMatlock:) Due May 7 (boy); 1 child; Modesto, California 1337 posts
26th Jan '13

i thought about it.. if i had to do it iw ould




my SIL who is married with a kid.. was told the airforce theres a long ass wait list to get in (a few years) .. she said it was hard to leave her 1 year old even with her husband but she had to do what she had to do in order to support thier family