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would you jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
26th Jan '13

Be the girl having sex with someone after they left the club?




Scenerio, you've been messing with a guy for a year, you love him dearly. But you guys just aren't compatible and he's a dawg you are a nice girl he uses. Well, its gotten to the point where he is using for sex.. and most of the time its four in the morning when he is leaving the club doing god knows what.



This isn't me, I'm just feeling super sorry for my bff I just don't know what to tell her because of her self esteem...

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
26th Jan '13

If she just wants sex from him than let her. If she's emotionally attached i would just be honest and tell her he's using her and she deserves someone who respects and cherishes her.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
26th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" If she just wants sex from him than let her. If she's emotionally attached i would just be honest and tell her he's using her and she deserves someone who respects and cherishes her."</blockquote>




She swears its not about sex, but it is. If people ask him about her, he denoes it. Like he's ashamed :(

user banned California 36390 posts
26th Jan '13

I've been that girl and have no regrets.

~mama~ 4 kids; Susanville, CA, United States 1550 posts
26th Jan '13

That's awful :( some girls just need someone though so maybe she just doesn't want to be alone so she lets him use her

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
26th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting jazzzzz*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" If she just wants sex from him than let ... [snip!] ... She swears its not about sex, but it is. If people ask him about her, he denoes it. Like he's ashamed :("</blockquote>




If you've already tried talking to her about it and she's in denial there is no point really of bringing it up for awhile. She will realize it in her own time.

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59303 posts
26th Jan '13

Her life. If she wants to have sex with him, she can. You can't make her decide to stop.

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
26th Jan '13

meh. I've been that girl. sligtly different scenario but pretty much that girl.



it was a bad decision but it was mine to make.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11574 posts
26th Jan '13

Eh, are you sure she isn't having sex with him for her own pleasure or are you positive she's doing it because she's emotionally attached? Because plenty of women have f**k buddies. I know I had some in my past, lol. No emotional attachment to the guys what so ever either... (Well, except for one that turned into an eight month long relationship.)



If she's doing it because she's insecure and is willing to let a guy step all over her there's nothing you can say or do to change it. She has to do it herself. Just be there for her whenever this dude finally exits the picture and make sure your friend knows all about birth control because it sounds like the last thing she needs is to get knocked up by some dude like that :P

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
26th Jan '13

I have been that girl...I don't regret it at all.