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May♥ 1 child; Texas 9179 posts
27th Jan '13

It feels wrong for a reason.



I just had to sing and cuddle my almost 11 month old back to.sleep and honestly I wouldn't have to any other way..



I tried CIO after feeling helpless and irritated but I realized it just wasn't right. People say I "baby" her, well no shit, toddler or not she's still my baby and until she can *understand* what bedtime means I'm perfectly content with rocking/cuddling/singing her to sleep and letting her sleep in my bed.



They aren't babies forever mama, cherish it.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
27th Jan '13

I really don't need to be made to feel like a shitty parent about this, ladies. I don't like the cio method at all. LO isn't teething, he's not sick, he used to sleep fine and now he's not (and hasn't been for the last month and a bit) I'm not trying to get him on any sort of "schedule", but just trying to teach him how to self soothe. He refuses to take a paci and (for the most part) falls asleep the moment I pick him up when he cries in the night. Literally. I don't even make it to the rocking chair that's beside his crib, before he's fast asleep again. So, he's not waking up because he's hungry. I'm not a lazy and neglectful parent.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I really don't need to be made to feel like a shitty parent about this, ladies. I don't like the cio ... [snip!] ... his crib, before he's fast asleep again. So, he's not waking up because he's hungry. I'm not a lazy and neglectful parent."

*hugs* its not easy being a parent and we learn with trial and error. I think your plan of waiting until monday and then re-evaluating is perfect. I have used CIO in some shape way or form with both of my children and they are perfectly happy loving kids. No permanent damage done. You are using the method properly so now if it works great if not back to drawing board. If you ever want to talk (judgement free) please feel free to pm me. You are not a bad mother in any shape way or form.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20919 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I really don't need to be made to feel like a shitty parent about this, ladies. I don't like the cio ... [snip!] ... his crib, before he's fast asleep again. So, he's not waking up because he's hungry. I'm not a lazy and neglectful parent."


sounds like he feels safer w/ you there.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" If the time is getting shorter each night and his crying is getting less and less and he is left for ... [snip!] ... be doing it at all. You and your SO should come to an agreement on parenting choices that you are both comfortable with. "


It is getting shorter. The first night, he was crying for almost an hour (obvisously not straight) and tonight he stopped after just over 15 minutes (again, not 15 minutes straight) and he hasn't been waking up throughout the night anymore...so it is working. Still sad though :(

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" *hugs* its not easy being a parent and we learn with trial and error. I think your plan of waiting until ... [snip!] ... board. If you ever want to talk (judgement free) please feel free to pm me. You are not a bad mother in any shape way or form. "


Thank you :)

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I really don't need to be made to feel like a shitty parent about this, ladies. I don't like the cio ... [snip!] ... his crib, before he's fast asleep again. So, he's not waking up because he's hungry. I'm not a lazy and neglectful parent."


Then just pick him up. new milestones can cause them to need nuturing and support and cuddles. Also it can cause him to wake up more in the midst of the night.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Then just pick him up. new milestones can cause them to need nuturing and support and cuddles. Also it can cause him to wake up more in the midst of the night. "


I'm letting SO parent the way he wants to until Monday night...if he won't self soothe by then, then we're going back to doing things my way. Granted, my way wasn't working well, and so far (as much as I hate to admit it) SO's way is working. LO has been sleeping great for the last 2 nights. It's just the first few minutes where he's falling asleep that sucks for me.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32448 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I agree. I'm sorry but I just see CIO as lazy, neglectful parenting. Some babies don't sleep all night until they are 2 or 3."


You really just went there?



Way to make yourself bias and uncreditable.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I'm letting SO parent the way he wants to until Monday night...if he won't self soothe by then, then ... [snip!] ... LO has been sleeping great for the last 2 nights. It's just the first few minutes where he's falling asleep that sucks for me."

At least you have a plan down. My 2 year old started talking more and she would get up in the midst of the night to talk. UGH! lol

JOJO&DANI 2 kids; Nebraska 2475 posts
27th Jan '13

good luck its only been 3 days it took me about 2 weeks for my lil girl to sleep in her own bed

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting ♥JoJo my luv♥:" good luck its only been 3 days it took me about 2 weeks for my lil girl to sleep in her own bed"


Thanks...I'm hoping tonight is the night he goes to sleep without any tears...I don't see that happening though :(

jen black 2 kids; California 1992 posts
28th Jan '13

Mine doesn't go down without a fight and she's almost ten months now. That just how she's always been and she may never change but I would live for her to be able to sleep with out screaming. Soothing her just pisses her off more because she knows what I'm trying to do. She just hates hates hates that crib. Maybe the crib is "haunted" ;) haha sounds like he is getting better! Good luck! You are not a bad parent!!!

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting jen black:" Mine doesn't go down without a fight and she's almost ten months now. That just how she's always been ... [snip!] ... hates that crib. Maybe the crib is "haunted" ;) haha sounds like he is getting better! Good luck! You are not a bad parent!!!"


Thanks :) Sometimes I feel like a bad parent for putting him through this though...
Last night he cried for about 2 minutes, then fussed off and on for about 7 minutes, then was fast asleep for a solid 6 hours. Woke up to eat, then fell back asleep for another 4 hours then was woken up by the phone...and there doesn't seem to be any resentment from him -- he still loves me! :D
I do believe that his room is haunted though...my dog ran out of it one night barking and growling at...nothing? Then continued to act strange the rest of that evening....now, she won't step foot in his room. And when I'm changing DS's diaper, he's always smiling and "talking" to something behind my shoulder. Scared me at first, but if whatever it is is making him happy, I'm ok with that :)

K. Beaupiiiit..* 1 child; Ontario 663 posts
28th Jan '13

What's CIO?
I'm so out of the loop lol