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Falling for someone who will die ♥ in 32 kids; Matosinhos, Portugal 1495 posts
27th Jan '13

Imagine you start to fall in love for someone with a terminal illness and it's for certain that they have weeks to live. Would you try to get your distance or still go in for it?



I'm watching the movie "Now is Good" and I've been thinkin' of that situation.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th Jan '13

You can't help who you love.

♥ in 32 kids; Matosinhos, Portugal 1495 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You can't help who you love."


I said "start" to fall in love..

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th Jan '13

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castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18961 posts
status 27th Jan '13

It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
27th Jan '13

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☆jeep_mama☆ 17 kids; Grand Rapids Charter Township, Michigan 10963 posts
27th Jan '13
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The Monk Due March 6; Nerima, Japan 723 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."


Agree.

♥ in 32 kids; Matosinhos, Portugal 1495 posts
27th Jan '13
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user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
27th Jan '13

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Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."</blockquote>



You will have the choice to have them meet him and since OP gave weeks example, you wouldn't have to put your kids through anything, right?



Idk, OP .. I think that if I was falling in love with someone who I knew for sure was going to die, I'd still go for it. Hope it gets better and by some miracle it goes away and we can live happily ever after but try to make it the best time possible for both him and I meanwhile.

dream 2 kids; Linz, Ob, Austria 59797 posts
27th Jan '13

I don't think I could get too romantically involved, but I would definitely try to be there for the person during their last weeks to live.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11944 posts
27th Jan '13

My Uncle Bob found a girlfriend while getting cancer treatments, she was also a cancer patient. His cancer went away hers spread. He stuck by her side up until she died. He was very happy during those months she was alive, even at the very end. He told my mom, his sister, he doesn't regret it.



I am a very emotional person so if I love someone, even if "just starting," I will probably stay.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" It depends. If I had kids at the time, then no. I wouldn't want them to experience that. But if I was single I and no dependents, then I probably would."


This!

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
27th Jan '13

I will probably sound cold-hearted,. but no.



I am a widow, and have already been through the pain of losing someone I love to death. I am still haunted by it, devastated that my marriage ended (what would have been our 9th wedding anniversary is coming up) and my children have abandonment issues.
As much as the dying person deserves love, I feel I deserve to not live out my life in a tortured state.



And yes, I DO realize that anyone I date or fall in love with, something could happen, breakup, death, whatnot, but I would not deliberately seek out a situation where that was imminent.