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if you were cheated on Sammie Rose ♥ Due April 18 (girl); 2 kids; Zimbabwe 1127 posts
27th Jan '13

how long did it take you to be ok with SO leaving again? How long before he could actually go out and do something without you driving yourself crazy?

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
27th Jan '13

Like the same SO that cheated on you? Never.... as soon as I found out I was cheated on I left.

Vile Tramp 2 kids; New York 32363 posts
27th Jan '13

Never.. Seriously. I wasted 4 years of my life trying to get over it, and never could, probably because he kept cheating behind my back.



I live by this quote," Trust is a lot like a mirror, when broken, you can fix a mirror, but you will always see the cracks."

Sammie Rose ♥ Due April 18 (girl); 2 kids; Zimbabwe 1127 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Bubba Monster's Mommy:" Like the same SO that cheated on you? Never.... as soon as I found out I was cheated on I left."

Yeah, we didn't split up. Well we did but not for long. I kind of think we should have though, it'd be easier then random melt downs everytime he goes out the door.

Arks Mama! ಠ_ಠ 1 child; Utah 2401 posts
27th Jan '13

Cheating is kind of a deal breaker for me. But I could imagine that I would probably never feel fully comfortable, or have trust...so the relationship would just end anyway.

*ny chick* TTC since Oct 2012; 16 kids; New York, New York 561 posts
27th Jan '13

Once i found out he cheated I left.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th Jan '13

Never. I left because I knew I wouldn't have gone into a relationship knowing someone would be unfaithful, so I certainly wasn't going to settle for it being handed to me.

Sammie Rose ♥ Due April 18 (girl); 2 kids; Zimbabwe 1127 posts
27th Jan '13

I am really starting to wonder if it'd be easier to just leave.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:</b>" I am really starting to wonder if it'd be easier to just leave."</blockquote>




It's never EASY because you stayed because I assume you fear you'll never find someone "like him" again. But once you're out of that trance, you pray you never do.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:</b>" I am really starting to wonder if it'd be easier to just leave."</blockquote>




Even if you forgive him it's always going to be a fear you have. And unless you can get back to trusting him 100% like you did before it'll be really hard to make the relationship last. I'm sorry he cheated :(

Vile Tramp 2 kids; New York 32363 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:" I am really starting to wonder if it'd be easier to just leave."


Regardless, either is hard. Especially because it's not how you wanted it to be. But cheating, is probably one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with, mixed with verbal abuse and him placing the blame on me.. I was stupid as hell to stay. Because all his beautiful lies, were just that... Lies.



He cheated, and continued to cheat, because he knew he could get away with it. 33 girls... in 4 years.. I knew about TWO...

Sammie Rose ♥ Due April 18 (girl); 2 kids; Zimbabwe 1127 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Bubba Monster's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:</b>" I am really starting to wonder if ... [snip!] ... get back to trusting him 100% like you did before it'll be really hard to make the relationship last. I'm sorry he cheated :("

I was almost completely over it once before, then he did it again. I had this huge meltdown last night, told him off and all he was trying to do was go get a lighter i guess. I feel crazy.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
27th Jan '13

He cheated when we barely had nine months together but we were young so at that time I was like, "whatever, go do your shit I go do mine." Then I got pregnant and he left me when LO was six months because I was a c**t with him. I cut all communications with him for three months and when he finally got a hold of me, he begged, cried, etc. to work it out.



We did.



Ever since then, we are better than ever. Hasn't cheated. I still don't worry when he goes out.



I personally think, that if after you've been cheated you still can't trust your partner at least a little or you freak out every time he talks to a girl or goes out. You're not ready to move forward. It's hard being without the person you love, but it's harder to live with the fear or thought that every time your SO steps out the door you might get cheated.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:</b>" I was almost completely over it once before, then he did it again. I had this huge meltdown last night, told him off and all he was trying to do was go get a lighter i guess. I feel crazy."</blockquote>




YOU feel crazy?



Yet HE has cheated on you more than once?



Welcome to brainwashing & emotional abuse.

* BooBear Due In July * Due July 11 (girl); 2 kids; United Kingdom 384 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Sammie Rose ♥:" I am really starting to wonder if it'd be easier to just leave."


I know exactly how you feel i was receiving messages on fb from someone who worked with my OH telling me they had slept together he denied it but his story never seemed to fit.....
I chose to stay but it's painful everytime he goes out and when he doesn't call i end up in tears it's my choice for staying because i love him but yeah once the trust is broken it's very hard to get back