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BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I would into getting assistance and help to pay child care, he also has to pay child support. You can do it, just put your mind to it. Are you guys married? "


ugh, I forgot all about that, that would definitely help. It's hard to put my mind into it when I've never been in this situation. It's hard to know the first steps to take. I think I got a few down, but I should get some assistance also. I don't know about this child support thing either. It's all foreign to me. And as much as a dick as he is....I'd hate to take HIS precious money for my child.

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
27th Jan '13

what an ASSHOLE.



i'd be leaving too. that would make me want to rip his face off. i don't work , my husband pays for everything, we have our issues but he NEVER says shit like that .



I wish i had advice for you. i don't think you deserve to be treated like that. but you have to decide if the stress of leaving is better than the stress of staying.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4247 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" ugh, I forgot all about that, that would definitely help. It's hard to put my mind into it when I've ... [snip!] ... thing either. It's all foreign to me. And as much as a dick as he is....I'd hate to take HIS precious money for my child. "


You are not just taking his money, that is your child's money too. I would also go to court and file for custody so you have no future problems that for some reason he doesn't want to give you the baby back from visitation.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Dr. Angelface:" what an ASSHOLE. i'd be leaving too. that would make me want to rip his face off. i don't work , my ... [snip!] ... you deserve to be treated like that. but you have to decide if the stress of leaving is better than the stress of staying."


Some days I feel it is...some, I feel it's not. I'm just tired of it. I'm tired of that being his main argument to justify his stupidness. He get's pissed off when I don't sleep with him..and it's like why would I? I'm not attracted to the person he is anymore. Nothing to do with his physical appearance, it's his personality that makes me disgusted with him. I think I'm going to do this. I'm going to leave.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mommy2Kay:" You are not just taking his money, that is your child's money too. I would also go to court and file ... [snip!] ... for custody so you have no future problems that for some reason he doesn't want to give you the baby back from visitation. "


Does it cost money to file for custody? Where do I go? I was just wondering about this last night since his family watches my daughter while I go to work. I'd hate to go to pick her up and he has her and won't hand her over.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4247 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" Does it cost money to file for custody? Where do I go? I was just wondering about this last night since ... [snip!] ... since his family watches my daughter while I go to work. I'd hate to go to pick her up and he has her and won't hand her over. "


It was free for me in NY but I have heard of people needing money for it. It also depends in your situation, do you think he will fight you? My BD had a legal aid and I represented myself, yet I still got everything and he didn't even walk out with visitation because he was an irresponsible douche.

KyliesMommy2012 Tokyo, Japan 1159 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" Does it cost money to file for custody? Where do I go? I was just wondering about this last night since ... [snip!] ... since his family watches my daughter while I go to work. I'd hate to go to pick her up and he has her and won't hand her over. "

Given your situation, I think they'd probably waive fees for you. What area of Arizona do you live in? Not trying to be a creeper, but I am in AZ and I know some hotels have rent by the week and month deals.. Do you have a car?

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19455 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" Thank you, I hope I'm that lucky. Did you have any help? I'm not worried about the lack of companionship ... [snip!] ... going to be so hard financially...I also depend on his family to watch LO while I work, so I hope this doesn't blow up on me. "</blockquote>




I had to drive 1700 miles to my closest family. I didn't know if I would have enough gas money to get there, but set out and made it.



Trust me, when there is a will, there is a way. Good luck.

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" Thank you, I hope I'm that lucky. Did you have ... [snip!] ... would have enough gas money to get there, but set out and made it. Trust me, when there is a will, there is a way. Good luck."


you didn't get in trouble re custody and crossing state lines?