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Little Vine Japan 422 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "


Yeah...so no playdates for your 4y/o and my 4y/o. Rough housing with siblings or close friends in a supervised setting is one thing, but...hitting random kids is okay with you and "boys will be boys?" Sorry you didn't like how he said it, but like I said...try watching your kid! Christ.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46480 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "


"Boys will be boys"?? I hate that excuse.



He obviously felt that what you son did was inappropriate and felt that you should know about it.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "

I would be more pissed off if someone told my child what to do than if they told me what they did.



I guess I don't understand your side. It does not make sense to me.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "


I would be more pissed for a random stranger disciplining my kid than just simply telling me and letting me handle it.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "


IMO, the whole "boys will be boys" mentality is an excuse for lazy parenting and not having your children be held accountable for their actions. Sure they are going to play around and be rough, all kids will, but when it's HITTING or BULLYING, it's a problem, period.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
27th Jan '13

A lot of people do NOT like it when other people discipline their child...if you were to do that to a group of kids I could see someone posting about how some uppity chick was chewing out their kid and was pissed off about it lol

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" "Boys will be boys"?? I hate that excuse. He obviously felt that what you son did was inappropriate and felt that you should know about it."

The only time I ever say boys will be boys is when my little brother gets grossed out by Cylus dropping his pants to pee on a tree. My little brother did the same thing at Cylus's age. lol

Mason & Carmen's Mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 3724 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" I would've said thanks for letting me know and then gone over to see what was happening, make sure the other kid was ok and talk to my child about it."

My kid was with me, it was all over and done with by the time i knew about it

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:</b>" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "</blockquote>



I'd be annoyed if you took it upon yourself to discipline my child even if she was hitting. She's my kid, tell me and ill take care of it.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" My kid was with me, it was all over and done with by the time i knew about it"

If your kid was with you then how did it happen without you knowing about it?

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I just was don't really like how he said it cuz he kinda scared my son and he started crying and wanted ... [snip!] ... to knock it off and no hitting and walk away unless it got worse and they didn't listen then i would probably tell a parent. "


NO, boys will not be boys. Hitting is not okay regardless of gender. If you were watching your kid you would have seen if he was hit first and been able to address the situation before your son felt the need to defend himself. Don't excuse it when you didn't even see what happened. Maybe your kid DID hit the other kid first, you don't know because you weren't paying attention and he obviously was.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
27th Jan '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:</b>" I just was don't really like how ... [snip!] ... if you took it upon yourself to discipline my child even if she was hitting. She's my kid, tell me and ill take care of it."


Then how were you unaware of what happened?



Edit, wrong person, meant the OP.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
27th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" Then how were you unaware of what happened? Edit, wrong person, meant the OP. "</blockquote>




Haha it's cool :) I'm wondering the same thing.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
27th Jan '13

Yeh I typically keep an eye on my daughter at all times, I've never been in a situation like that. But I've also never had to deal with my kid flushing things down the toilet, or dumping out food on the floor or getting into stuff. Because I keep an eye on her *shrug*



Only time I would say boys will be boys is if he was doing something weird to his shmeckle.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6830 posts
27th Jan '13

As the mother of 3 boys, they do play rough, but they *always* have to sit in time out if they hit their brothers or push them or otherwise injure each other intentional because they're angry. I would want to know if my son hit a random kid at a park or something like that. I would be embarrassed, not angry at the parent who told me what was going on.