Uhh.. being attached by kids and shoved over to take and touch your baby is NOT okay. You are NOT rude if you ask her to tell her children to be careful and to please not touch the baby.
Yeah, nothing about that is okay. I wouldn't be able to hold anything back. Does their mother realize how they're being at all?
Quoting Mrs. Reynolds:" Uhh.. being attached by kids and shoved over to take and touch your baby is NOT okay. You are NOT rude if you ask her to tell her children to be careful and to please not touch the baby."
and even if she does think you're coming off rude, then who cares? i would just tell her in the nicest way possible that you don't want that happening. if she thinks you're rude or bitchy, that's her own fault.
Have some hand sanitizer on hand when they come over and make them use it. That is annoying though, but I have no problem telling anyone to back off when it comes to my kid.
Just explain that just like we don't like people getting in our faces and touching us babies don't either and then redirect them to go play.
I'd just straight up fast "hey now, you need to be very careful with the baby. and no touching." or "settle down"
I've. had to tell some of the little girls in our neighborhood not to touch my daughter's face before. they took it fine and now ask if they can touch or help push her on the swing or whatnot.
Personally I would speak about it directly with the kids. At 4 and 6 they are fully capable of understanding, and as long as you are simple and straight forward about it, they will likely listen. If they do not, you can either put your foot down with them or go through their mother. Honestly, I will instruct anyone's child if I do not appreciate how they are behaving with my own child, but it does require a bit of tact, in case their mother is particularly sensitive about other's trying to teach her kids in her place.
I would address the children when it happens. Just say something like, "please dont touch the baby's face, we have to be careful not to let him get sick" or "we all have to use gentle hands with babies" (for when they are being rough). This should give mom the hint to step in and lets the kids know its not ok...and then if this doesnt work I would just be blunt about it
my friends kids always do that with dd. i lie and say shes sick or say she will get cranky if their in her face. they tend to back off. or i pick her up and take her away from the situation all together