Quoting Salad Fingers:" I think it was good of you to come on a mostly-female board rather than a health board because I think ... [snip!] ... hurt feelings. That way you'll know if you trying to slow yourself down is more for your peace of mind than it is for her."
thank you. the answers here are great. you are right about a question board, there people just insult and are not serious and then i just feel worse. i do need to talk to my wife. but its so embarrassing for me. i don;t want her to know how weak i feel or insecure. she thinks i am strong and confident. i want to be open, but it is scary a little bit. and such an embarrassing topic. but you are 100% right!
A LOT of men are in that boat ( my ex, for instance...longest he lasted was 5 minutes with NO FOREPLAY so...yeah, sex was lmae because there was no foreplay.), don,t evenworry. If you take the time to please your wife and that she orgasms regularly...kuddos! I know I very rarely climax with penetration only...maybe your wife is the same?
As for tips to last longer...I have no clue, but a couple suggestions previously said are very very good.
Also, don,t be affraid to talk about it with your wife. She is the only one who can say if she wants more or is satisfied! Good luck!
Quoting bobdc2009:" thank you. the answers here are great. you are right about a question board, there people just insult ... [snip!] ... strong and confident. i want to be open, but it is scary a little bit. and such an embarrassing topic. but you are 100% right!"
That's sweet, but she's your wife. She's not going to be judging your masculinity and if she's anything like me, she will probably really appreciate seeing you be open with your guys' sexuality. I can't stress this enough. It's just a matter of swallowing your pride and addressing what you think is an issue. Like you said before, it's sad that it is an embarrassing and taboo topic, so break those stereotypes. Tell her about the things you learned about on this site and show her this thread and ask her if she'd be interested in any of those things.
it is reassuring that my foreplay and attention to her needs might overshadow my short intercourse time. she does orgasm regularly, so maybe i should be happy with that and stop beating myself up :)
Quoting Salad Fingers:" That's sweet, but she's your wife. She's not going to be judging your masculinity and if she's anything ... [snip!] ... the things you learned about on this site and show her this thread and ask her if she'd be interested in any of those things."
Thanks, salad :) you are helping me to be confident and brave! oh, the prospect of talking to her about it so embarrassing! But i have to. for her and for me. you are right. she is my wife, the person i love most in the world, so i have to be able to bear my fears and insecurities to her :) i am just worried that she will say that it is no problem b/c she will want to spare my feelings.
<blockquote><b>Quoting bobdc2009:</b>" thank you peanutbutter. it is reassuring to hear that every man doesn't last 20 minutes and that women ... [snip!] ... and that women are ok with this :) i'll look into the liquids and thins at a sex shop, but i am so nervous and embarrassed!"</blockquote>
Don't be embarrassed
If it wasn't normal they wouldn't sell them lol