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gone ~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13

I deleted this cause im leaving and dont wanna come back and read it. thank you to the people that are helping me.

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
28th Jan '13

He heeled you in the shin and you called the cops?
Did he do anything else?

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
28th Jan '13

Take this from someone who was abused violently and almost killed by my ex. It starts out small and gets bigger and they NEVER change! I'm sorry you are feeling down and I understand loving someone you shouldn't. If you ever wanna talk you can PM me or pt me. But you made the right choice. A lot of women don't have the nerve and sense to get out before it gets too bad. Be proud of yourself and tell yourself the truth! He did this and you do deserve better.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
28th Jan '13

I'm sorry to hear this. What exactly did he do? If he is a threat to you or baby it's not safe even if you love him.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" He heeled you in the shin and you called the cops? Did he do anything else?"


Not that day but before he has which is why I called. and I regret it. it tore my family apart. im not here for bashing if thats what is gonna happen

BeginTheRomance Due July 21 (girl); 1 child; Rochester, New York 373 posts
28th Jan '13

I understand you love him and miss him, but he should have never hurt you. That day or ANY day. You did the right thing. Think about what is best for you and your adorable baby. It will hurt for awhile, but you deserve SO much better. Hanf in there and good luck. <3

Riley+Abby 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 2423 posts
28th Jan '13

Speaking from personal experience...Walk away. Even if you love him. Because if you stay, it will only get worse. I know...I was in a relationship that turned abusive, and stayed because I loved him. You cannot change him, and if he realizes that you will come back when he does something like that, it will just get worse.



I know how hard it is, but you have to protect you and that little guy of yours.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting A&J. ♥:" I'm sorry to hear this. What exactly did he do? If he is a threat to you or baby it's not safe even if you love him."


He was sleeping. I woke him up because I was bfing and needed a bottle because my supply is very low and didnt want eli to get mad so i wanted to be prepared and he woke up angry and started yelling and then kicked me so i got up and called the cops hung up but when i went to call my mom they were still on the phone and i said "i didnt mean to call" hung up did the same thing to my mom and called the cops and told them. I didnt have a bruise till they left, and I didnt press charges, I hate myself. Ive been a wreck since. I didnt want to do it but I was mad and hurt.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
28th Jan '13

I dont think a heel to the shin is abuse, imo. My dh and I wrestle worse than that all the time... And being drunk I can't imagine it was too effective. I think he needs help for a drinking problem... Not abuse. Unless there is more to the story.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting BeginTheRomance:" I understand you love him and miss him, but he should have never hurt you. That day or ANY day. You did ... [snip!] ... for you and your adorable baby. It will hurt for awhile, but you deserve SO much better. Hanf in there and good luck. <3"


Ive gotten so much crap for calling and so little good things like what you just said... thank you it means so much

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
28th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MunchkinWrangler:</b>" I dont think a heel to the shin is abuse, imo. My dh and I wrestle worse than that all the time... And ... [snip!] ... imagine it was too effective. I think he needs help for a drinking problem... Not abuse. Unless there is more to the story."</blockquote>




They weren't wrestling and playing around! He kicked her in the shin, how is that not abuse? And what is he 5?

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" I dont think a heel to the shin is abuse, imo. My dh and I wrestle worse than that all the time... And ... [snip!] ... imagine it was too effective. I think he needs help for a drinking problem... Not abuse. Unless there is more to the story."


good for you. he doesnt have a drinking problem, he started his anger problem when I had elliott. wasnt effective? thats why I have this huge bruise now huh? I already said i hate myself for it. Im told it wasnt abuse, all my workers said it was. When a man physically hurts you not by accident, its abuse. look at that. I say this and wanna go back. wow

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" Speaking from personal experience...Walk away. Even if you love him. Because if you stay, it will only ... [snip!] ... something like that, it will just get worse. I know how hard it is, but you have to protect you and that little guy of yours."


Thank you so much

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
28th Jan '13

My ex started with pinching or biting me. I thought he just "had a bad temper."
Until one night when he threw dirt in my face, kicked me in my ribs and choked me till I passed out. I woke up to him dragging me by my hair telling me "no one will ever find your body!" So trust me you did the right thing OP. don't beat yourself up for it.

~Elliott's.Mommy~ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Eugene, Oregon 3801 posts
28th Jan '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" My ex started with pinching or biting me. I thought he just "had a bad temper." Until one night when ... [snip!] ... by my hair telling me "no one will ever find your body!" So trust me you did the right thing OP. don't beat yourself up for it."


oh my God =( I'm so sorry =[