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Single mothers! I have questions... .Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
29th Jan '13

If you take the time to answer these nosy questions, thank you so much in advance! I'm not asking just for fun, i'm asking because it's part of a statistic contract I am working on. (Your personal information won't be used, and this is not a ''judgement'' survey, so please be very accurate in your answers)



1. How many children do you have?



2. How old are they?



3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends?



4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive)



5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything)



6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month?



7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably?



Once again, thank you if you took the time, I apprechiate it!

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
29th Jan '13

1. How many children do you have? 2



2. How old are they? 2 and 4



3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends? My dad helps me during off season (winter since we are a lake community) and then I pay him back during the summer/with taxes



4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive) During the winter roughly 550 a month??? maybe more depending on the hours I get



5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything)
Daycare-at the moment none
utilities- gas-40 bucks electric-150 usually
rent-500
groceries I'm alotted 370 dollars on food stamps



6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month?
yes, 20 bucks and no



7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably?
struggle but it would help if child support was enforced but during the summer we live comfortably.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
29th Jan '13

I'm not a single mom anymore, but I'll answer these questions according to when I was!
- I had 1 child
- She was under a year old
- I depended on my Dad for EVERYTHING
- $0
- I wasn't responsible for any expenses
- No savings account
- I was the worst feeling in the world because I was solely dependent on my Dad for everything for myself and my DD1. I was going to school and depended on him to babysit as well. I did not live comfortably at all, I had to share a room with my baby and live in a house full of people I did not get along with at all. I did the biggest happy-dance when I moved out. Lol.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53489 posts
29th Jan '13

1. One and one on the way
2. 4.5 years old.
3. Solely off my income. BD doesn't help with anything, neither does family.
4. roughly 2100
5. 935 rent, 50 utilities, 360 daycare, 150-200 groceries, 100 gas, 50 for other household stuff
6. I wish. Le sigh
7. Barely make it by.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
29th Jan '13

When I was a single mother I had one child. From when she was born until she was a little over 2 I was single.



I lived with family/BD's family at the time, and used student loans when I lived on my own since I was a full time student.



My income was odd, since I lived with BD's parents and exchanged working for them in their business for living with them.



I was lucky enough to be able to take her to work or use a family friend for childcare at the time.



I would say I lived comfortably, since I was exchanging services for housing and whatnot and didn't really have to worry.



Now, I'm not single... but for a while I was the only income in the house and it was nearly impossible to scrape by on just my income while paying for childcare.

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55069 posts
status 29th Jan '13

1. How many children do you have? 1



2. How old are they? She is 4



3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends?



Solely on SSD



4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive)



999



5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything)



Rent 239
Internet 60
Electric 35-40
groceries 400 or more
The rest of the income goes to prescription copays, incidentals, clothing, and my YMCA membership (but that is 50ish every 3 months)




6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month?



No savings at all



7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably?



I've learned to live within this set budget. It's not glamorous but we make do

Mum to a Monster TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Colorado 11565 posts
29th Jan '13

1. How many children do you have? 1



2. How old are they? 4



3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends? I moved back home for family reasons, but I cover my bills.



4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive) around $600.00



5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything) car insurance-100 a month, gas-200 a month, groceries-200, other necessities-around 100



6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month? I used to, but with me not working right now I need what I have.



7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably? I'm scraping simply because i'm living off $600 a month with a SN child.

Baby Rocs Mommy[LPC] 17 kids; Royal Palm Beach, Florida 13188 posts
29th Jan '13

1. How many children do you have? 1

2. How old are they? 2 year old going to be 3 in July

3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends? Yes and no i live with my older sister we split everything in half

4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive) $729 every two weeks

5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything) Baby sitter - $80a week Car payemnt $360 - rent $600 - groceries - food stamps and about $80 out of pocket - gas to and form work $190 (im sure im missing a few things in between)

6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month? My son has a saving account i never touch no matter what i put all his birthday holiday and income tax money in there he has a little over $6000 in there now

7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably? struggle to get by every month never ending things keep going up and im still making the same i was in the last 5 years the only change is now im taking care of someone else my son

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting .Solange.:" hey don't feel the need to justify, everybody goes through rough times! You did the best that you could have in that situation ;)"


Thx :)

Deanasoar Due March 7; 17 kids; New Mexico 192 posts
29th Jan '13

1. How many children do you have?
one, with one on the way



2. How old are they?
17 months, and I'm 34 weeks pregnant



3. Do you live solely off of your income or do you get help with your bills from family, a significant other, or friends?
I live solely off of my income. But, my sister and I share a house so it helps me with rent, and my dad watches my daughter so I don't spend much on childcare.



4. How much is your total monthly income after taxes? (INCLUDES: child support, assistance, your job/s, any income that you receive)
I bring home $2000, my income only. I receive no assistance or child support, but I recently put myself and my daughter on Medicaid.



5.What are your monthly expenses and how much is each one? (ex: daycare, rent, utilities, groceries etc... include everything)
Rent - $400
Car payment - $400
Insurance - $125
Utilities - $100-150
Phone - $50
Childcare - $100
Student Loans - $300
Groceries - $300 (I buy groceries for my house and my parent's, since my daughter stays with them during the day)
Living expenses (pampers, wipes, clothes, toiletries etc) $100
Gas - $240 ($60/week)



6. Do you have a savings account? What amount is it and are you able to put money into your savings account each month?
No savings account



7. Do you struggle to get by every month, barely scrape by, or live comfortably?
It depends.. ususally I'm comfortable, but when unexpected expenses come up, it can throw everything off. The month of my daughter's birthday, and recently Christmas set me back, and I'm trying to catch up right now. Also, when I have my daughter in 6 weeks, things will be much tighter, and I'll have to take a few weeks off for maternity leave. I expect to live off of my income tax $ for at least a month.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
29th Jan '13

I am a single mother who gets no assistance and barely scrapes by-but reading your answers makes me understand why people tend to judge single mothers-not that they should- but most of you are on assistance of some sort....or maybe single moms who aren't don't come to this site?? just some food for thought.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55069 posts
status 29th Jan '13
Quoting Susan Schultz:" I am a single mother who gets no assistance and barely scrapes by-but reading your answers makes me understand ... [snip!] ... of you are on assistance of some sort....or maybe single moms who aren't don't come to this site?? just some food for thought."


Why are you a b***h in every single thing you post? All you do is bash mothers for getting the hlep they need



I seriously hope that you never fall on hard times and have to get help.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Susan Schultz:" I am a single mother who gets no assistance and barely scrapes by-but reading your answers makes me understand ... [snip!] ... of you are on assistance of some sort....or maybe single moms who aren't don't come to this site?? just some food for thought."


Uhm. How about-- it's because it's really f**king hard to survive as a single parent without assistance?



I've never been on assistance... but sorry... kinda want to say f**k you for that judgemental tone. You should realize how hard it is, since you get no assistance. And many states have a higher cost of living than yours.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53489 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Susan Schultz:" I am a single mother who gets no assistance and barely scrapes by-but reading your answers makes me understand ... [snip!] ... of you are on assistance of some sort....or maybe single moms who aren't don't come to this site?? just some food for thought."


Are you f**king serious? Shut the f**k up.