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ADD/ADHD evaluation. Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Jan '13

Sorry this is long but if you have any advice to offer about this topic, I'd really appreciate it.



My 5 year old has always been hyperactive. Never liked playing with toys, was pulling shit out of everywhere and causing chaos at 12 months old. It was insane. He settled down a lot on that side of things once he turned 3. Nowadays, he's not so hyperactive but he seems to have a lot of focus/concentration problems, a very short attention span.



Some examples of his behaviour, he doesn't listen when spoken to, he will interrupt you while you are trying to talk to him to ask or say something completely random, but he seems as if he thinks you were never even speaking at all. He doesn't tak direction well. Can't sit still, fidgets with his hands or feet, jumps about etc. he goes to a karate class & when they have to sit on there knees, he never just sits up straight, he'll kick out his feet from underneath him or rock himself about. There's so many more signs that are worrying me.



He had his Kindy interview for big school today (he starts on Monday) & the teacher said he was very restless. Which he is when you are trying to be serious with him, very easily distracted. So I really think he needs evaluating but SO doesn't want to admit it (even though I swear he has ADD & my brother also had ADHD as a child, developing into bipolar in adulthood)... So I'm wondering, if I should just go ahead and book him in ASAP or wait a few weeks to see how the situation plays out once we get into a proper school routine? Which will be very new for both of us. He went to a few preschool classes early last year but ended up just staying home for the most part, which he has been at home 98% with me for the past 5 years. So I'm wondering maybe if that's could be why he's a little "off," and if he just needs more time to adapt to more social settings.

the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
29th Jan '13

When is his next pedi appt? It wouldn't hurt to make an appt. There's a questionnaire they'll have you fill out and then they'll mail a questionnaire to his school and have the teacher fill one out as well.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
29th Jan '13

honestly, i would probably see how kindergarten goes first before booking him in to get evaluated for any of that stuff. i'm not saying he does or doesn't have ADD or ADHD, but i really think school can sometimes be the difference for a kid. even if they have gone to pre-school or something. but that's jmo.



my bf's daughter is said to have ADHD and she does a lot of the stuff you said your little guy does, but she has improved slightly (at school at least.. she's in first grade). i honestly don't really know how they got the "diagnosis" really anyway because at the time she was having what i consider to be actual medical issues that her mother was not taking care of. so, i feel that a lot of the behaviors stemmed from that. but, in any event, i do think she has some type of behavioral issue. she's constantly asking questions, doesn't make eye contact, doesn't ever seem to really enjoy things as they are happening because she is too worried/focused on the next thing/moment/event, etc. she intentionally pushes my daughter's and my buttons, but i guess all kids kind of do that, lol. she's a lot to handle.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting clay matthews:" When is his next pedi appt? It wouldn't hurt to make an appt. There's a questionnaire they'll have you ... [snip!] ... they'll have you fill out and then they'll mail a questionnaire to his school and have the teacher fill one out as well."


He doesn't have any appointments coming up. I'll just have to schedule one. If they do that with the teachers, maybe I should wait a few weeks until they get to know him.

the BEAST Wisconsin 15638 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" He doesn't have any appointments coming up. I'll just have to schedule one. If they do that with the teachers, maybe I should wait a few weeks until they get to know him."


Doesn't hurt to wait; maybe being in school and having a set routine will help him calm down.



My DS was finally diagnosed with ADHD at 7 (we suspected starting at 5.5 but put off testing to see how he'd do in school especially since he's one of the youngest in his class).

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting MommaNoodle:" honestly, i would probably see how kindergarten goes first before booking him in to get evaluated for ... [snip!] ... etc. she intentionally pushes my daughter's and my buttons, but i guess all kids kind of do that, lol. she's a lot to handle. "


" i'm not saying he does or doesn't have ADD or ADHD, but i really think school can sometimes be the difference for a kid. "



This is what I was thinking. Basically, he's just been around me, my SO, my younger son, my brother who lives with us & he used to go stay with my mum sometimes but he hasn't for ages. We don't have a lot of family, we see SO's family maybe once or twice a month... so I mean we don't go out a lot, I sometimes think that has a lot to do with it & I feel horrible because I feel like maybe I've disadvantaged him socially?

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" " i'm not saying he does or doesn't have ADD or ADHD, but i really think school can sometimes be the ... [snip!] ... I sometimes think that has a lot to do with it & I feel horrible because I feel like maybe I've disadvantaged him socially?"


i didn't mean it like that, nor do i think that is the case! but sometimes when kids go to school, they just get that extra boost of maturity, i guess i'd call it. i'm not saying that all kids grow up and go to school and flourish. some don't. but a lot do. i would at least want to try it out first, before going the professional route, you know? idk. maybe that's just me being a mom in denial, lol. but i really think starting kindergarten and seeing how it goes for at least a few months is worth a try.



of course, i would not rule out professional advice completely, and, of course, if the school sees a real concern, it would address it. good luck to him and you!

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
29th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" i didn't mean it like that, nor do i think that is the case! but sometimes when kids go to school, they ... [snip!] ... advice completely, and, of course, if the school sees a real concern, it would address it. good luck to him and you!"</blockquote>




Oh yeah, I didn't think you were implying anything. I've just been feeling like that for a while now. I've been battling depression for a couple years now and yeah, it hasn't been easy on me or the kids, we got some serious cabin fever happening. lol. But I totally understand what you are saying! Thank you. :)