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I can't just let him go. Belle De Jour 2 kids; Kentucky 18388 posts
status 29th Jan '13

I just got off the phone with the vet a little while ago and they are saying that there is still a little hope but that it's very likely that my kitty is starting to get blocked again.
He is straining really hard to pee (when he actually tries) and has been leaking pee since we got home from the vet on Sunday.
He also hasn't eaten anything since like friday or so.
I don't know what to do. I don't have any more money to help him. So unless he somehow gets better and starts peeing and eating then it looks like I''m just going to have to let him die.
I want, no I NEED him to get better. I've had that cat since the day he was born. He's MY baby. We have a connection that I've never had with an animal. I consider him family and the thought that he is in pain and there is nothing I can do for him kills me.
I have cried so much this last couple of days and the tears just wont stop.
I wish there was something I could do. I wish I could just make it all go away. And it kills me to think that the only way I can make it all go away is to maybe kill him.
I can't do this. I need my kitty back. I can't just let him go.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
29th Jan '13

D:
They can't do surgery?

Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8554 posts
29th Jan '13

Oh man.
I lost the last of my 3 cats last spring. Aside from losing a child, there's nothing worse than losing a pet. I had my kitties for 17, 13, and 16 years. Loved them all like they were my babies.



There comes a time, though, when the most loving thing you can do is let them go. It's so awful, but if he isn't going to get better, then he shouldn't have to suffer.



Nikki Woods4 Due September 3 (boy); 19 kids; Danville, Kentucky 944 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:" I just got off the phone with the vet a little while ago and they are saying that there is still a little ... [snip!] ... the only way I can make it all go away is to maybe kill him. I can't do this. I need my kitty back. I can't just let him go."


What part of KY are you in? Anywhere near me? I know a lady who has a super cheap animal clinic, she takes care of all my furbabies.



Have you talked to a vet about the care credit thing that most vets around here offer?

Kaylees mommy 50 kids; North Dakota 323 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:" I just got off the phone with the vet a little while ago and they are saying that there is still a little ... [snip!] ... the only way I can make it all go away is to maybe kill him. I can't do this. I need my kitty back. I can't just let him go."


I am so very sorry! I had to put my furr baby down just 3 weeks before I gave birth to my son in September and I've had her since I was a teenager! It was the most heartbreaking thing to go through! I hoped and prayed and begged and pleaded to her to fight! She was in renal failure! I really hope your furr baby will be ok!

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6821 posts
29th Jan '13

If there's no helping him, just realize that if you put him to sleep he won't be suffering anymore. I had to do this with my dog and it was very very sad. he was 12 and had a peeing issue as well. I layed with him and talked to him and kissed him as he passed. it was very very hard. each day after that got better. time will heal. I hope the best for you and your kitty.

Belle De Jour 2 kids; Kentucky 18388 posts
status 29th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" D: They can't do surgery?"


Yeah, they can. They would. But I don't have any more money. And I got denied for the care credit. They also don't do payment plans.
On top of that I don't have any friends or family that will help me with the costs.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting October2011:" If there's no helping him, just realize that if you put him to sleep he won't be suffering anymore. I ... [snip!] ... as he passed. it was very very hard. each day after that got better. time will heal. I hope the best for you and your kitty."


omg, I cried a little reading that.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:" Yeah, they can. They would. But I don't have any more money. And I got denied for the care credit. They ... [snip!] ... credit. They also don't do payment plans. On top of that I don't have any friends or family that will help me with the costs."


I'm trying to save money for my kitty right now too :[ I have none.
Man :/

Belle De Jour 2 kids; Kentucky 18388 posts
status 29th Jan '13
Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Oh man. I lost the last of my 3 cats last spring. Aside from losing a child, there's nothing worse than ... [snip!] ... thing you can do is let them go. It's so awful, but if he isn't going to get better, then he shouldn't have to suffer. "


But that's why this is so bad. He COULD get better. If I only had some f**king money. If I wasn't so f**king poor then I COULD save his life. It could be so easy to save him if I just had the f**king money but the vets wont even work with me to save him because in the end it all comes down to money for them.

Belle De Jour 2 kids; Kentucky 18388 posts
status 29th Jan '13
Quoting Nikki Woods4:" What part of KY are you in? Anywhere near me? I know a lady who has a super cheap animal clinic, she ... [snip!] ... she takes care of all my furbabies. Have you talked to a vet about the care credit thing that most vets around here offer? "


I live in Louisville. I don't know where Danville is.
And I got denied for the care credit.

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6821 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Syndal:" omg, I cried a little reading that."


I actually had to do it with my ferret as well and he was my baby. He was put to sleep the day before i turned 16, he was old and was dying adn getting worse everyday and he looked miserable and i knew it was best. I chose to hold him as he went. It always made me feel better knowing i was there to comfort them in their last hours. It's always sad losing a pet. But you can make it the best possible for them.



Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17284 posts
status 29th Jan '13

I am so sorry!



Here is a poem that helped me when I put my dog down. I had him since I was a kid. Maybe it can help you get through this.




IF IT SHOULD BE



If it should be that I grow weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then you must do what must be done,
For this last battle cannot be won.



You will be sad, I understand.
Don't let your grief then stay your hand.
For this day, more than all the rest,
Your love for me must stand the test.



We've had so many happy years.
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
The time has come -- please let me go.



Take me where my need they'll tend,
And please stay with me till the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me,
Until my eyes no longer see.



I know in time that you will see
The kindness that you did for me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.



Please do not grieve -- it must be you
Who had this painful thing to do.
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold back its tears.
--- Anonymous ---



Just try to not let her suffer if you know, for sure, she isn't going to pull through. I hope you can stay strong for her and your heart heals fast. :(

FriendsOffBitch Calgary, Alberta 6867 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:" But that's why this is so bad. He COULD get better. If I only had some f**king money. If I wasn't so ... [snip!] ... had the f**king money but the vets wont even work with me to save him because in the end it all comes down to money for them."



To read something like that, breaks my heart.



I work in a vet clinic, and we would NEVER turn away someone so desperate, and so willing to help their pet. My vets would rather save a life, than their bottom line. I know a vet clinic, is a business, and if no one was ever charged for anything, the vet would make no money.. But no one should be a vet, just for the money.



Ugh. I'm so sorry momma!

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting FriendsOffBitch:" To read something like that, breaks my heart. I work in a vet clinic, and we would NEVER turn away ... [snip!] ... charged for anything, the vet would make no money.. But no one should be a vet, just for the money. Ugh. I'm so sorry momma! "


Exactly. I can't imagine KNOWING I could save an animals life and just saying no because there's no money in it. f**k that. I'd rather be broke and saving animals lives for free.