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Probably shouldn have said that. TMI ALERT. Rabbit. Due October 29; 1 child; Wpg, Mb, Canada 512 posts
29th Jan '13

So, we have a sexless marriage. Well maybe not entirely. He rarely wants it and it has to be when he wants it or not at all as I always have my advances shot down. It's too the point where I don't feel confident when it comes to being "sexy" or trying to seduce him. So I told him I would never do this but it feels like the only way I would ever get intimacy is if I found it somewhere else. Don't know how to fix this. I

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting Mommeh2bee:" So, we have a sexless marriage. Well maybe not entirely. He rarely wants it and it has to be when he ... [snip!] ... do this but it feels like the only way I would ever get intimacy is if I found it somewhere else. Don't know how to fix this. I"


word. same boat. how long have you been married?

*account deleted* New York 2562 posts
29th Jan '13

That does not seem like a very healthy relationship, I am sorry:( Idk what the f I would do if I was married and my husband would like that. Actually yea I do know, I would just leave his dusty ass lol.

user banned New York 15996 posts
29th Jan '13

If he cared about your happiness he'd at least try.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5806 posts
29th Jan '13

Have you talked to him to find out why he feels this way? That would be my first step.

The Monk Due March 6; Nerima, Japan 723 posts
29th Jan '13

I would talk to him about. See why he is not into it. Maybe his feeling unattractive too!

Rabbit. Due October 29; 1 child; Wpg, Mb, Canada 512 posts
29th Jan '13

Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
29th Jan '13
Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" Have you talked to him to find out why he feels this way? That would be my first step."


:!: This.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5806 posts
29th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommeh2bee:</b>" Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time"</blockquote>




So either do it yourself or let him know that you have needs that aren't being met.



He should at least make an effort.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting Piyo Piyo:" I would talk to him about. See why he is not into it. Maybe his feeling unattractive too! "


I agree.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting Mommeh2bee:" Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time"


You need to tell him how you feel -- or have you? He needs to realize how big of an issue this is to you.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1802 posts
30th Jan '13

My ex was like that, every time I tried to initiate it he would just roll away or fake being asleep, the only time we did anything was when HE wanted it which was maybe once every 2 weeks, once a week was when he had someone sleeping over and he felt risky lol I was to afraid to talk to him because I was afraid of the truth, I then found out he was cheating on me. That was the one and only time I will be in a sexless relationship. Has he always been like that the whole relationship?

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting Lin Brown:" My ex was like that, every time I tried to initiate it he would just roll away or fake being asleep, ... [snip!] ... on me. That was the one and only time I will be in a sexless relationship. Has he always been like that the whole relationship?"


were there any other signs he was cheating? i worry about this but he swears up and down (of course) that's not the case. and since it has been going on so long it makes me doubt it. but there is always that tiny portion of my brain that beleives it is the only answer.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1802 posts
30th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Angelface:</b>" were there any other signs he was cheating? i worry about this but he swears up and down (of course) ... [snip!] ... going on so long it makes me doubt it. but there is always that tiny portion of my brain that beleives it is the only answer."</blockquote>




The only other signs he showed was he would always go hang out with his friends and have them take him to see the girls, the only way I had found that out was because I became good friends with all of his friends and they told me everything he was doing, and he would walk out of the room as soon as the phone rang and would try and hide the screen when ever he got a text, when his phone was off and he started using mine while I was living with him is I would put my phone on the charger next to me and one night I woke up and found it in his pocket and when I looked at the messages there were multiple messages from girls included and tit pic and he would always come up with the excuse that she sent it to the wrong person and would get really pissed off and defensive about the whole thing. I dealt with it for a year and a half until my mom introduced me to my now husband and I thank god every day I left him

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8236 posts
30th Jan '13
Quoting Lin Brown:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Angelface:</b>" were there any other signs he was cheating? ... [snip!] ... thing. I dealt with it for a year and a half until my mom introduced me to my now husband and I thank god every day I left him"


wow.



yea my DH never really shows any signs of anything. he works ALOT though.